To wear white at wedding

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Have asked bride and she said it’s ok…

You wouldn't because it's the colour of mourning.

Have you already bought the outfit?

exactly how white is it, eg, does it have a white background and a different coloured pattern or is it totally white

Is it a dress or a trouser suit

I didn't know until MN that you weren't allowed to wear white/cream/beige to a wedding (unless you are the bride).

This was after I'd worn a beige dress to a wedding (admittedly it has a coloured pattern on it but a lot of people on a previous thread said that was unacceptable too).

I took the view nobody was looking at me anyway.

Unless you are in the close wedding party I can't see it matters due to the aforementioned not being of interest to anyone.

I wore the same dress to another wedding.

I wouldn't wear plain white because it would get dirty, anyway. White trousers are not practical!

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@Maireas you are right, forgotten about that! depends on region and religion though. in Bangladesh white is very popular for mum and other elderly female relatives of both bride and groom. n

Right, @therealcookiemonster - I just know at Indian weddings, I was told not to wear white! However, I have worn it to Indian funerals.

If you had to ask, you obviously doubting yourself.

Why insist on wearing same color as the bride, Op? And ‘asking’ if it’s ok. Knowing the bride will be too polite to go down to your level of rudeness.

Another person’s wedding is not about you and your strange compulsion to wear the same color as the bride. It doesn’t matter if it’s a menswear suit or a pinstripe or totally unbridelike outfit. It’s about the color. It’s the symbolism.

White symbolizes purity and that is why the bride wears white. It is her wedding where she and the groom who also often wears white, to signify, not necessarily these days that they are virgins, but that they are embarking on a lifelong commitment to a marriage of purity, faithfulness, and devotion.

Did you notice how a pp felt when a guest wore an outfit ‘whiter’ than her dress? There is a question of the intent and motivation and attitude of someone who does that. It’s just weird.

So why are you asking here if the bride has said OK? Are you still doubtful, or believe she'd rather you didn't despite saying OK?

Personally, I wouldn't. There's a whole rainbow of colour out there, it's so easy to avoid wearing white.

I personally wouldn’t.

There’s plenty of other colours to choose from….

I think it’s fine if you’ve asked first. Two people wore white at my wedding and they both checked with me if it was okay. They just had lovely dresses that they were keen to wear! I’d have said no if it bothered me.

@Ponderingwindow "Is it a wedding where the bride traditionally wears red?"

Some cultures where the bride wears red, white is the colour of mourning.....

Screams attention seeking to me.

Personally I wouldn’t do this. But that’s just me.

Nope nope nope.
The last wedding I went to there was a girl wearing white satin and people were glaring at her all day.
Even if the bride said it's ok, the other guests will be thinking you're rude.

You shouldn't have asked, there are enough other colours

Someone we told could NOT bring his new girlfriend of less than 2 weeks to our wedding as we weren’t having evening guests not only brought her anyway but she showed up in a white dress, so I may be a little biased about this but I just wouldn’t!

Sorry but the bride might have felt that they had been really put on the spot and felt they had to say yes so please don't.

@Maireas yes probably would have been a Hindu funeral, not sure what the Buddhist colour of mourning is? Muslims don't really have a colour scheme as such- they wear different colours according to local culture. so in the middle east, its white dresses. Red in South Asia (which tbh i am not a fan of) and so on.

noone batted an eyelid because no bride on earth would get married in the outfit you describe - although it sounds nice enough for a guest.

This reads like a monologue from a movie. I Imagine it being delivered by Meryl Streep/Miranda Priestly/Anna Wintour

Your imagination is warped.

My wedding dress was a pale slightly grey tone of lilac (nicer than it sounds). I added guests were welcome to wear white on the invitation and some women did. Their dresses were lovely but none could have been taken as bridal. Lots of floral dresses with white backgrounds instead.

It is literally the only rule for a wedding.