To wear white at wedding

[Kliopgh]

Have asked bride and she said it’s ok…

It's a bit attention seeking unless you're going to carry a large A3 sign saying "The bride said it's ok".

This.

I mean, you know it's not a generally acceptable thing to do, or you wouldn't have a) asked the bride then b) asked again on MN

This is if it is a white dress. I've seen several posters on here asking if a "white dress" is okay over on S&B, then linking to a flowery or patterned dress - which would be fine.

My MIL wore a white dress to my wedding. 🙄

So did mine! She asked first but I didn’t feel at the time that I could object.

Pale yellow, like Kate at Megan's, looked like a mistake.

No, my husband would have found it weird .

Likely cos I would have noticed and pointed it out to him : as would my bridesmaids, Mum, friends etc all notice, though would have not said anything.

It’s highly attention seeking and just blatantly disrespectful.

You just don’t wear white as a guest to a wedding- end of.

The op knows this…

Even if the bride is fine with it, the fact you are posting on here demonstrates that it is unclear and so if you wear the dress, at least some guests will judge you.. so why bother putting yourself through the discomfort. Just wear a dress an acceptable colour and then you don't have to think anything more about it.

It can be situation dependent. My friend had a themed wedding and she messaged us all in the group chat saying 'Ladies, I am not wearing white so feel free!' I can't remember if anyone did, but I know her well enough to know she'd not have said that and not meant it. Having said that, I don't think I would because I'd feel like people thought I'd done it for a reason, people still judge.

Men don't tend to wear dresses to weddings.

Can guarantee the guests will be bitching about you despite you getting the nod from the bride 😬

We were all asked to wear white at a recent wedding in Indonesia, bride and groom wore white too. It was a beach wedding, the pictures look fab. In the UK I would see it as a total no no.

I think some of you need some new friends. You're at a wedding, celebrating your friends' happiness & people choose to make a thing of someone else wearing white? Literally to 'glare at her all day'?? If you are confused about who is the bride perhaps you shouldn't be at the wedding at all. And 'decorum' FFS. Its the 21st century, people. Wear what you like & makes you feel comfortable.

I wouldn't.

If you're the only other person/guest in white (or mostly white pattern) you'll stand out like a sore thumb, especially in photos.

My mother wore a patterned dress with white background to my wedding. In hindsight, we should have chosen a different colour because objectively the photos look rather jarring (two of us in white whereas ideally only the bride should stand out). It's not something that truly bothers me and the photos were taken as a reminder of a happy day (and that's exactly what they are, I enjoy looking at them), however I am always mindful of this issue when choosing what to wear to a wedding as a guest.

Isn't white the colour of mourning for Indians? Not sure about other South Asians.

very different for the bride to have sent that unprompted, versus someone having the gall to ask the bride if they could wear white.

My friend wore white at my wedding without asking.
I wasn't hugely bothered but did think it was a bit weird.

Thanks for your ‘helpful’ comment. No one said men usually wore dresses to weddings. I was replying to a poster who said her husband would find it ‘highly disrespectful’ if the OP had turned up to their wedding in white.

If anyone had worn a proper white outfit to my wedding, they just wouldn't have been in any photos or made to stand right at the back 🤣

We had a very small wedding and SIL turned up in full length white

I would. I have no idea what colour people wore to my wedding and it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. It’s absolutely ridiculous if a bride would be bothered. I’m glad I’m older and this wasn’t a thing when I got married.

I'm amazed how many people really seem to care about this! Genuinely would not bother me a single bit.

I would not have been bothered in the slightest and did not notice what my guests were wearing. I was clearly the bride, so how could anyone take the ‘attention’ away from me?

Surprised to see how strongly some PPs feel about this.

Five pages and only one sentence from the op 🙄
It's needy and attention seeking to wear white at a wedding. We went to a wedding recently and the wedding before, who were having photos taken as we waited, had a guest dressed in a white long dress - she was stuffed at the back of the photos so her dress wasn't on show, how embarrassing!

As long as you don’t wear a veil, it’s fine.