anyone else a bit suspicious about this nursery whistleblower doc?

[minouminou]

she doesn't half seem to be good at getting jobs
unless the buttons and mark warner jobs were 2 out of many she applied for

precious moments me arse
and who's to say that precious moments have to be solely about a mother and her child/ren
why can't the child/ren have these moments with someone else once in a while?
if you'resecure with your bond and your carers, it's a win-win situation

NT you see MY instincts told me that my children needed a roof over their heads and food to eat. So I went out to work. I have never felt a moments GUILT in providing for my family.

I am sad sometimes that I don't walk them to school, or cook their dinner every night, but that is sadness for me, not guilt.

I do feel guilt over other things, but never ever in my decision to work. Who else was going to pay the mortgage?? OR should that be teh 'mans' role

Goodnight ladies, hope to meet you all again soon!

Why do you all jump to defend yourselves? I hate the way this becomes sahm bashing or wohm bashing. There are ignorant opinions on both sides, so dull
This is about sub standard childcare. Does anyone have an opinion on a solutin?

A solution of course

"I still feel a mother is the most experienced and enthusiastic carer for her own child. Why is that so controversial? I thought it was fact!"

Only for the unintelligent mothers without proper careers for whom fulfilment is represented by a freshly wiped bottom.

crunchie, before I go, of course I don't think bringing in the money is men's work. I realise myself and my dp are lucky that we both work and both look after the dcs - he does more housework than I do and I do more 'work' outside the house than he does.

I don't feel 'holier than thou' - most days I feel quite knackered - as I suspect we all do. I realise my views are unwelcome and in the minority on these threads but that does not bother me. If you would prefer me to not post and all agree with each other (nice and cosy) then so be it.

Oh quattro that is so dull. Why do women have to slag off other women to feel good?
Why raise to Nice Try's bait?
Don't you get bored of the same boring debate?

Quattrocento - I am a teacher (I obviously accept that this is not a proper career )
Anyway, I was going 15 mins ago.....

....too many holidays, finish at 3pm...etc..etc always moaning...

Well you said it, not me.

Why are you insisting that something is fact when it is nothing more or less than your opinion?

Mrsruffalo
At least slagging other women off online is nicer than in real life. Don't kid yourself however that this does not happen in real life - just not to your face!

Well, I've tried. I guess you are in the mood to prove you made all the right choices, anyone different to you is stupid blah blah blah
Enjoy yourselves

Quattro I am trying really hard to find some humour or irony in your post, and I must say I am not succeeding.
I understand you may well be trying to make a point, but tbh you are just being rude and incredibly crass.
it may be just your opinion, but it really is quite hard to stomach.

I don't think it's nicer. I think it comes across as quite sad tbh. As for people slagging me off in rl -why would they do that? Why would I care?

Oh Harpsi, I was just irritated and exaggerating to make a point. I did quite like the line of fulfilment being a freshly wiped bottom though but I do admit it was intended to offend ...

Not you of course, you don't parade your own prejudices as facts

quattro i'd stay off the bubbly

argh.

mothers or some other (mostly related) consistent one to one carers being better is not fantasy or prejudice, it is fact.

do some f&cking research.

hmm yes well it did the job QC

MrsR - 'sad' as in unhappy or depressed, or 'sad' as in uncool, unfashionable?

Quattro- I don't think that line was witty at all- say it out loud. Bit stupid, no?

Sophable - thanks for the moral support . (Still trying to go to bed btw)

No, I still like it. Must go now, us career girls have to get up early y'know. No time for Jeremy Kyle in the Quattro household. Or perhaps that's another thread ...

Uncool, of course, Nice Try.
I think you know you wind people up don't you?
It's fine if that's how you get your kicks.
I don't know..it's late and I have been drawn into defending my position as a sahm by Xenia , Quattrro etc so often
It is the same debate over and over again. I just don't know how you summon the energy

Quattro - as one career girl to another- you really are letting the side down

I think getting defensive about childcare is a no-win game for any of us who WOTH and need childcare. I personally have never used a nursery, but I did give the benefit of doubt to a nanny we hired once which turned out to be a near disastrous decision for our family. Being alert to what was going on enabled us to act quickly to get rid of her - but it certainly has made me much more aware of how hellish it can get when things go wrong.