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To not sign friends petition about school fees ?

257 replies

Whereforartthoudave · 26/09/2023 09:12

Or more to the point tell her why I’m not?

friend grp - 3 families out of 9 send their kids to private school. One dad has decided to start a petition re Private schools losing their charity status - as in it’s not fair if they do. His DW has sent it round this morning.

Stupidly rather than just ignore it - when she said will you sign, I said, sorry no - Private schools are businesses not charities so I agree with the proposed change.

Now she wants to know WHY exactly.

YANBU - ignore it and don’t get into a bun fight over private versus state school. I’m not judging their choices but I don’t think the schools should have tax breaks.

YABU - tell her why. The why being I don’t agree with private schools at all, but her money her choice. And think it’s laughable that they have charity status when the majority ( and this is backed up by actual stats) do virtually nothing to earn it.

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Whereforartthoudave · 27/09/2023 17:54

‘But i suppose the savvy schools will make their in-house cleaners, groundsmen etc redundant and then use VAT charging external companies for those services - they they wouldn't have to pay for pensions, holidays etc etc.’

Many already outsource, but yes of course. Or do they actually need an Olympic size swimming pool and the cost of running it? Or the horses? One school near us has a zoo. I’d bet quite a lot of money on them being able to give kids a decent standard of education even if they decided not to run a private zoo…

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Gloaming23 · 27/09/2023 18:01

@Whereforartthoudave i asked that question to @BlurredEdges who said that I shouldn’t then be using state education. that’s apparently unfair for me to do so.

not expecting anyone to care if i can’t afford private education any more. But I’m not expecting to be blamed as for using state education when I can no longer afford private

Fivemorenow · 27/09/2023 18:10

jellyfrizz · 27/09/2023 14:29

What is never going to happen? The removal of charity status? Why would that cause top schools to move and what has it to do with communism? The existing tax breaks for educational businesses is not exactly capitalism in action is it?

No. Everyone getting invested in the same schools isn’t going to happen. And if it did, you would simply see different treatment for politician and media kids.

Fivemorenow · 27/09/2023 18:11

jellyfrizz · 27/09/2023 14:29

What is never going to happen? The removal of charity status? Why would that cause top schools to move and what has it to do with communism? The existing tax breaks for educational businesses is not exactly capitalism in action is it?

No charity should have tax breaks.

LoveCherryTree · 27/09/2023 18:14

What I’d like to know is, what’s going to happen when these children come out of private schools, where will they go. State schools are fit to burst and with all these new houses going up everywhere, where will everyone fit, they’re certainly not building the infrastructure for all these children, you don’t see new schools popping up everywhere!
I say keep private schools as they are, if you want to pay for them then so be it!

Fivemorenow · 27/09/2023 18:15

BlurredEdges · 27/09/2023 16:05

How convenient that the only possible option for you is the one that has been widely used to game the university admissions system.

https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/the-new-oxbridge-trick-go-private-then-switch-to-state-vc29n2nft

There is one thing that all pushy Notting Hill parents have in common: the idea that the prestigious British university system is one they can “play”. After all they’ve gamed both the stock market and the property market. So when Oxbridge made it clear it would be cutting down on the numbers of privately educated students accepted, their first reaction was: watch me.
I just met a 16-year-old student who told me he was leaving his glamorous private school in Oxford to attend a high-ranking sixth-form college in deepest London (where his family have a second home). His parents interrupted to say this was for financial reasons (the kitchen alone was at least four terms’ worth of tuition), because the idea of their son taking the school place away from someone less fortunate sits badly socially, even among bulldozer parents.
Still, they aren’t the only ones. Yesterday it was reported that private school pupils are a third more likely to get into Cambridge if they move to a state sixth form. No wonder the well-to-do are trying their luck.

Thanks for putting a % figure on the discrimination.

Fivemorenow · 27/09/2023 18:18

LoveCherryTree · 27/09/2023 18:14

What I’d like to know is, what’s going to happen when these children come out of private schools, where will they go. State schools are fit to burst and with all these new houses going up everywhere, where will everyone fit, they’re certainly not building the infrastructure for all these children, you don’t see new schools popping up everywhere!
I say keep private schools as they are, if you want to pay for them then so be it!

It’s over regulated.

I’d love to see the position where people set up their own local private schools.

In the slums of India, such school outperform State. James Tooley “The Beautiful Tree”.

Deregulate and there would be plenty of demand here too.

jenny77 · 27/09/2023 18:24

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B00kWoman · 27/09/2023 18:33

LoveCherryTree

Privately educated kids would easily get absorbed into our city schools
let alone the surrounding area. You wouldn’t even notice. We have nearly 40 large state schools and 3 private.

The changes would be long overdue.

Needathickskin · 27/09/2023 18:48

Really interesting to read the comments on this thread. As a privately educated parent of two children currently attending prep school, I really wonder how a potential 20% uplift in fees will pan out.

In the 80s and 90s, my self employed parents worked really hard to send all four of us to local independent day schools. It was just about manageable - but that was with a very ordinary home life! I shared a bedroom, wore handmedowns and we went camping!

Anecdotally, I know of many grandparents now paying school fees. I know many will really struggle if faced with higher fees.
It’s now only really possible on a City income ..

If I could be absolutely sure that any funds raised and would be ringfenced solely to improve the state education system; I’d agree that it would be a good thing. But I just can’t see that happening.

Unsure if there would be a great exodus though. Living here in Hampshire, I’m not
entirely confident in Hampshire County Council’s financial state! Certainly, friends with children in the state sector have 30 pupils in their class.
https://www.advertiserandtimes.co.uk/news/county-council-in-bankruptcy-warning-amid-plea-for-governmen-9285024/

County council in bankruptcy warning amid plea for government cash

The leader of Hampshire County Council has warned the government of a looming financial crisis which could bring it to bankruptcy in a year.

https://www.advertiserandtimes.co.uk/news/county-council-in-bankruptcy-warning-amid-plea-for-governmen-9285024/

DawnInAutumn · 27/09/2023 18:55

B00kWoman · 27/09/2023 18:33

LoveCherryTree

Privately educated kids would easily get absorbed into our city schools
let alone the surrounding area. You wouldn’t even notice. We have nearly 40 large state schools and 3 private.

The changes would be long overdue.

Oh it is so great that schools in your city area would absorb the excess! 40 schools!

I am in a rural area. We have 1 indy and 3 state senior schools.

WhereYouLeftIt · 27/09/2023 19:00

"Now she wants to know WHY exactly."

But she already KNOWS why, because you told her - "when she said will you sign, I said, sorry no - Private schools are businesses not charities so I agree with the proposed change."

So, she's just trying to guilt you into signing her self-serving petition. My answer would remain 'no'.

OnAFrolicOfMyOwn · 27/09/2023 19:05

Now she wants to know WHY exactly

You've told her why, exactly.

If your friend had a private education, it didn't do much for her levels of reading comprehension.

NalafromtheLionKing · 27/09/2023 19:35

How about

“Hi friend,

Sorry we can’t support your petition but we don’t believe in private schools and would find them too much of a stretch financially anyway (which is why we send our DC to state schools).

Look forward to catching up soon.

OP x”

SuperSue77 · 27/09/2023 19:52

I didn’t use to be against private schools, I was educated at one myself, but my experience with them for my own children has changed my view completely. I initially thought that it was sour grapes on my part, none of the 3 local schools we applied to offered him a place. He is a bright kid but has AuDHD and so needs a bit of extra support. We thought the smaller scale of the private schools and smaller class sizes would suit him as they would be less overwhelming and staff would have more time for him - he doesn’t need and has never had 1-2-1.
So to be turned down by these schools, with them quoting stupid things such as “we think he’d struggle with having to move classrooms and with our busy campus) when the alternative is an 8-form entry mainstream state school that is several times bigger, just showed me that these are profit-driven business who absolutely don’t deserve charitable status.
My son is only 3.5 weeks into his new state secondary, but already he has met with the SEN team to tell them how they can help support him (he doesn’t have an EHCP but is on SEN register), been given intervention sessions for SaLT and been highlighted by the Head of IT as having special aptitude for computing and invited to coding sessions and differentiated work. I have been blown away by their support for him so far and this is an under-resourced state school who have been so welcoming to him. So I’d quite happily explain to anyone who’d listen why I don’t want to sign a petition for private schools to retain their charitable status and if it forces more kids into the state system then the government will have to put more money into the system which may generate better facilities for the existing schools, or some nice shiny new schools, all perfectly possible under Labour.

Mble · 27/09/2023 19:53

It has nothing to do with charitable status. It is because there is no VAT on education (tax still not allowed on education in the EU) This covers schools, universities, after school clubs, music lessons, tutors etc. Loads of private schools don’t have charitable status anyway.

user50and · 27/09/2023 19:58

My eldest son went to a private school and I am DEFINITELY not wealthy. His school had charity status. 87% of pupils were on some sort of bursary so it's not fair to say all parents who send their children to private school are wealthy. It's simply not true.

rockpoolingtogether · 27/09/2023 20:02

I actually disagree and think anything with educational benefit should be a charity and VAT exempt from private schools to nurseries and extra curricular sports training.

griegwithhimandhim · 27/09/2023 20:05

OnAFrolicOfMyOwn · 27/09/2023 19:05

Now she wants to know WHY exactly

You've told her why, exactly.

If your friend had a private education, it didn't do much for her levels of reading comprehension.

Now she wants to know WHY exactly

Turn it around. Tell her that you want to know why private schools should be registered charities in the first place.

There's nothing stopping a private school from operating a separate charitable fund specifically to provide bursaries and scholarships, but the school itself doesn't need to be a charity at all.

Scaevola · 27/09/2023 20:43

griegwithhimandhim · 27/09/2023 20:05

Now she wants to know WHY exactly

Turn it around. Tell her that you want to know why private schools should be registered charities in the first place.

There's nothing stopping a private school from operating a separate charitable fund specifically to provide bursaries and scholarships, but the school itself doesn't need to be a charity at all.

However if the school is a charity, it can't just stop being one. he charity has to be wound up in accordance with the Charity Commission standards. This is a very important safeguard - charitably owned assets cannot just be converted into private property (owned by a business or an individual)

So if Labour proposes a mechanism which allows schools to change status without having to follow the normal procedures for charities, then I think many would leap at it. That mechanism would of course have to avoid disruption to all other charities which have the Provision of Education as one of their legally defined aims.

And it would yield a few hundred per pupil per term (based on different handling of things such as VAT), which is likely to be easily absorbed.

VAT on fees (which is nothing to do with UK charitable status, but legacy of EU VAT rules which prevents taxation on fees for nurseries/pre-schools, schools and universities) would of course yield much more, depending on what rate they chose to set it at and would affect all institutions, not just the schools who are charities.

Daisyb1080 · 27/09/2023 20:58

Exactly this. Not everyone is extremely wealthy, some people sacrifice to send their children to private schools so suddenly you may have loads more children fighting for underfunded schools which will have no teachers left because they are stressed out, overworked and underpaid.

pinkpopcorn123 · 27/09/2023 20:59

B00kWoman · 27/09/2023 18:33

LoveCherryTree

Privately educated kids would easily get absorbed into our city schools
let alone the surrounding area. You wouldn’t even notice. We have nearly 40 large state schools and 3 private.

The changes would be long overdue.

That's good for you. We have one state school 11-16 and one private school 11-18. State sixth form provision is already out of town, a minimum of 1 hour 5 minutes on public transport and usually more. In the rush hour it takes my DC over 1 hr 45 minutes each way to reach college. The local state school would be unlikely to simply absorb another school. Not everyone lives in a city and the logistics in other parts of the country are not as straight forward as you suggest.

BlurredEdges · 27/09/2023 21:03

LoveCherryTree · 27/09/2023 18:14

What I’d like to know is, what’s going to happen when these children come out of private schools, where will they go. State schools are fit to burst and with all these new houses going up everywhere, where will everyone fit, they’re certainly not building the infrastructure for all these children, you don’t see new schools popping up everywhere!
I say keep private schools as they are, if you want to pay for them then so be it!

Luckily, there was a huge baby boom in 2009-11, followed by a dramatic drop in the birth rate.

State schools receive funding per pupil, and are all facing horrendous financial cliffs as the number of pupils shrinks year by year.

This would be very helpful indeed.

B00kWoman · 27/09/2023 21:04

But not all would drop out. Some who couldn’t afford it, the same as everybody else who can’t afford it. Many private schools are actually quite small. Scaremongering that schools
will be over run when actually only 4% of children are even in private schools anyway is ridiculous.