To require a friend to wear a mask in house when she has a cold?

[Saboblue]

I found out from another friend that she’d been slagging me off for making her wear a mask when she had a cold in my house. When she came round I simply said I’d rather not get a cold and asked her to put on the mask and opened the windows. She was very understanding and put the mask on. I thought nothing of it until I found out she was slagging me off about it when she seemed fine to put it on at the time. I’m pissed off about it because what have I said wrong? Why would I want your virus? Put a mask on when you’re ill and in someone’s house!!

Well, your house your rules and all that but insisting a visitor wears a mask and opening the windows and treating a guest as if they're Typhoid Mary isn't exactly what I'd call hospitable.

You shouldn't make someone wear a mask in your house. That's rude and the poor woman's nose will have been running into it!

If you have compromised immune system or some upcoming event a cold would ruin like a holiday, either don't see the friend or see her outdoors.

If you don't have compromised immune system then get over it, colds are everywhere.

Just re masks. Colds are virus's amd a virus is 4000 smaller than holes in those blue masks we all had foisted on us. In fact theres now been several peer reviewed studies that show these masks cant work and the home made ones are worse. The medical grade omes might but then theres the issue of breathing back in a load of shite and getting ill from it. 2 yrs ago I started taking 4000ug of vit d, zinc and quercetin. (As per Peter McCulloughs covid protocol) simce then Ive had no colds or flu or hayfever or anything else actually. I used to get several colds and a dose of flu a yr prior. So rather than convincing yourself masks and open windows work, chill out amd boost your own immune system.
Incidentally guess how effective the flu jabs are now- 16% (as per Dr Joe Mercola).

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If you were asked to wear a woolly hat too would you? Coz theyre about as much use. Masks CANNOT work and even those pushing them the last 3 years know it. Its impossible. They have holes in. Theyre to stop liquid not virus's. Im baffled why people just do stuff without actually thinking and looking into it.

They dont prevent virus transmission. Theyre to stop liquids- spit/blood etc getting into medics faces. Come on wake up

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Batshit. The common cold has never killed anyone, it’s just a very common annoying virus we all pick up usually multiple times a year. It isn’t the bubonic plague.

Most masks will do nothing and for the majority of people you will end up with a stronger immune system if you are exposed to cold viruses.

Josell - most viruses are carried within respiratory drops ... which are liquid. Ergo, masks act as an effective barrier to them.

It is your house and therefore your choice. Equally her choice whether to visit, I personally would not visit someone's house if they asked me to do that - which would be my choice, however I would keep my views to myself and not grumble to others.

Unless you're like my son whose last cold resulted in four rounds of antibiotics and a ride in the ambulance to hospital. Mask debate aside, anyone who knowingly comes to my house with a cold will never be invited again. They know the issues.

Me neither. It would have been better to ask her not to visit as she had an infection (assuming she had the decency to prewarn you)

If she turned up and then told you she was unwell, I would be cross and say let’s postpone until you’re better. To be honest, none of my friends would be so rude as to spread their illness like this anyway.

You sound very odd to be honest, no wonder she was slagging you off.

Uncalled for. No need to get personal. The OP is just as entitled to not want a cold as the friend is to not want to wear a mask. I don't understand why people are so nasty to those who don't want to catch a virus.

Very odd behaviour. If you’re so precious about catching a cold, don’t invite poorly people into your home, it’s just a cold 🤷‍♀️

I mean….. of course your house your rules. But really, a cold? Did you used to ask people to wear masks before covid was a thing?

I personally don't think you are being unreasonable, it's your home and if a person knew they were unwell then why go over in the first place.... Infection control and all that.

I personally wouldn't be happy if someone came over to mine and was unwell without notifying me first but I do have 2 young children and my youngest who is only 16 months has some complex health conditions where even a cold could make her body react badly and end up with her in hospital.

All in all its good manners of the guest to notify first and if still wanting to come round to comply with what the home owner feels is best in their own home.

"It's just a mask"

Did you forewarn her she was expected to wear a mask before she came over? The sensible option would have been to ask her not to visit, not wear a mask (ridiculously ineffective as others have already stated). I wouldn't be in a hurry to visit someone again, if I only found out when I got there I had to wear a mask.

No, I'm not joking. why would I?
I've done this since 2016, although the covid tests have only been since 2020.
I have to have 6 months of chemo out of every 12 months so my immune system is severely compromised. My stem cell transplant in 2019 failed.
Im extremely careful with if I leave my home and visitors to my home know what is expected of them. It doesn't stop them visiting. I no one comes if they are I'll or have been in contact with someone they know to be ill.
It works for us. why does it bother you what I do?

So judging by this thread, turning up at someone’s house with a cold = perfectly fine (that could be anything from flu to covid, and even a common cold can give someone a very unpleasant week and ruin their plans).

But asking someone to be considerate = omg so rude, the horror (and doesn’t matter if YOU think masks don’t work, I agree it would be better to postpone the visit but sounds like the guest already showed up at OP’s doorstep so presumably MN would explode if OP actually asked the friend to leave)

I guess I’m not following the logic here. And again it doesn’t matter if a cold is a completely innocent virus for YOU specifically…

It's fair enough to ask her but it's also quite unusual so unsurprising that she talked about it to other people. I wousknt expect that to be kept secret if I did that to a friend I'd expect it to get talked about!

She was rude to come to your house with a cold. One of the few, if any, good things about COVID is the heightened awareness of the courtesy of keeping your cold to yourself.

She was also rude to slag you off behind your back. If it was that much of an imposition she could have gone away. Then again, how did you find out about the slagging off? I'm always a bit about those who carry disobliging gossip back to the subject of it.

But why go if you have a cold. If I’m unwell and contagious then I don’t visit. Always been the same. It’s selfish.