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Hate when people have negative opinions on your baby names

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Lauryn95 · 15/09/2023 16:37

Does anyone else just think people are so entitled and rude when they tell you they dislike your chosen baby name ? It really annoys me and I feel there's no need. I feel like that's an opinion you keep to yourself unless obviously say the names something like chlamydia. We've struggled to choose a name for our daughter so badly and then finally we found one we adore and everyone is just so against it and it's really annoying me ,it's so rude. It happened with my other two aswell ,named my son after my late grandad and SIL straight up said and this is a direct quote "ew I really don't like that " and now this baby people are doing the same saying they hate it and I just feel like you've a right to not like the babies name but that's an opinion you should keep to yourself ,just abit of a rant because I've only told my mum and dh mum and they've both said they hate the name and not even in a nice way ,I just think it's so rude. The name I've picked is Nova and they're both saying that's not a name and I should strongly reconsider My other daughter is called Luna so I fell in love with it (moon and stars) think it's lovely and now I'm so annoyed that they hate it and MIL is actually calling the baby another name hoping I'll change my mind ugh rant over

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SweetBirdsong · 15/09/2023 22:33

Luna is beautiful, but yeah Nova DOES remind the of the old Vauxhall car. Not sure why people are saying it was shitty though. Had one about 30 years ago. It was a great little motor!

MumApril1990 · 15/09/2023 22:36

I adore the name Nova

supersonicginandtonic · 15/09/2023 22:38

@Skybluecoat first thing I thought of was the car 🙈

UsingChangeofName · 15/09/2023 23:00

Commenting after a baby is born and named — absolutely wrong
Commenting when you mention the name before a baby is born — ok

This.

If you talk about what you are thinking of calling a baby when he/she is born then there is a chance they might change it, so you are (whether it is intentional or not) inviting opinions.

As you have done on this thread, by giving the names.

If, as a pp has said, you say "Here is your beautiful new grand daughter / niece / grandson / nephew. They weighed 7lb 4oz. His / her name is ......" then people are much less likely to comment, and much more likely to fall in love with the little person in front of them.

I mean, you will probably tell from their face, if you choose a name that isn't actually a name, but people disliking or commenting on names goes with the territory of choosing to name you child something that isn't a proper name. Your choice at all, but it is part and parcel of the choice you have made.

Whattodo112222 · 15/09/2023 23:05

Rude yes..entitled no. Two completely separate things..you make a rod for your own back telling people the name in advance. Its nobody's business.
I think Stella and Luna fit much better together. Its your choice OP at the end of the day

RedLollyYellowLorry · 15/09/2023 23:08

Seren and Nova are the names of the baby twins on the Archers.

Ladyj84 · 15/09/2023 23:10

Nova car lol sorry

Viewfrommyhouse · 15/09/2023 23:13

Don't discuss them. Dh & I picked a name. The end. It wasn't up for discussion. Baby arrived, name announced, that was it 🤷‍♀️

pastaandpesto · 15/09/2023 23:18

Of course Nova means star, not just new, and PPs are insisting. Think about supernovas.

"Nova is a girl's name of Latin origin. It is derived from "novus," meaning "new." Nova is also an astronomic term given to bright stars that appear suddenly in the sky and release powerful energy. It was first used as a girl's name in the 19th century and is especially popular in Scandinavian nations."

I think Nova and Luna are great names and work well together. I'm a bit boring myself and went for classic names for my DC's but I think your names are nice and usual without being too out there.

SweetBirdsong · 15/09/2023 23:23

@pastaandpesto

Of course Nova means star, not just new, and PPs are insisting. Think about supernovas.

Yes, supernova. It's a star. (The explosion of one to be more accurate!) And if someone says the word 'supernova' the first thing most people would think about is 'star.' NOVA however, just conjures up the image of a car.

FarmGirl78 · 15/09/2023 23:28

It might be fine to have cutesy 'matching' names now, and in her tween years, but when she's 26 and goes for a mortgage WITHOUT her matching sister with her and the bank manager says "As is Vauxhall?" and for the 4 millionth time she's got to smile through gritted teeth then having a matching name is going to be irrelevant and just a bind. You are saddling your child with this name for life, and wanting cutesy matching names so you can tell other mothers at the play park and they'll go "Oh that's lovely" is purely for your benefit, not hers.

pastaandpesto · 15/09/2023 23:29

SweetBirdsong · 15/09/2023 23:23

@pastaandpesto

Of course Nova means star, not just new, and PPs are insisting. Think about supernovas.

Yes, supernova. It's a star. (The explosion of one to be more accurate!) And if someone says the word 'supernova' the first thing most people would think about is 'star.' NOVA however, just conjures up the image of a car.

No! A supernova is a type of nova.

NOVA: A white dwarf star pulls matter off of a companion red giant star until a powerful nuclear fusion explosion occurs on the dwarf’s surface. The star is not destroyed and additional explosions can occur, a phenomenon called a recurrent nova.

SUPERNOVA: Much more brilliant than a nova, a supernova can shine brighter than an entire galaxy for a brief time.

pastaandpesto · 15/09/2023 23:31

Also the Vaxhall Nova was discontinued THIRTY YEARS AGO! I honestly don't think in another twenty years time it is going to be the first thing that springs to mind.

Robyn847 · 15/09/2023 23:33

OP, I'm trying to be as kind as possible, but to a lot of people naming your Daughter after a entry level Vauxhall model is on par with calling her something like Chlamydia.

KrisAkabusi · 16/09/2023 00:16

Robyn847 · 15/09/2023 23:33

OP, I'm trying to be as kind as possible, but to a lot of people naming your Daughter after a entry level Vauxhall model is on par with calling her something like Chlamydia.

If that's you trying to be kind, I'd hate to see you deliberately being a bitch!

CallieQ · 16/09/2023 00:47

Lauryn95 · 15/09/2023 16:37

Does anyone else just think people are so entitled and rude when they tell you they dislike your chosen baby name ? It really annoys me and I feel there's no need. I feel like that's an opinion you keep to yourself unless obviously say the names something like chlamydia. We've struggled to choose a name for our daughter so badly and then finally we found one we adore and everyone is just so against it and it's really annoying me ,it's so rude. It happened with my other two aswell ,named my son after my late grandad and SIL straight up said and this is a direct quote "ew I really don't like that " and now this baby people are doing the same saying they hate it and I just feel like you've a right to not like the babies name but that's an opinion you should keep to yourself ,just abit of a rant because I've only told my mum and dh mum and they've both said they hate the name and not even in a nice way ,I just think it's so rude. The name I've picked is Nova and they're both saying that's not a name and I should strongly reconsider My other daughter is called Luna so I fell in love with it (moon and stars) think it's lovely and now I'm so annoyed that they hate it and MIL is actually calling the baby another name hoping I'll change my mind ugh rant over

How dare you...
Chlamydia is a lovely name

CallieQ · 16/09/2023 00:48

Wind your neck in OP.. if people post on here asking opinions about names then we are allowed to give one!

araiwa · 16/09/2023 03:45

Continuing the space/ vauxhall theme, next child could be Astra

StandingMyGround888 · 16/09/2023 03:57

Sorry but only older people know of Vauxhall Nova. No person under 40 has ever heard of it. So her friends won't and teachers won't. Ive met two children called Nova perfectly fine name.

And yes OP your family are rude as they correct response is to smile and say thats lovely or how unusual.. Unless the name is marzipan or tequila and you need a bit of a reality check. However you may be framing it in a way that sounds like not a done deal or that youre looking for their opinion.

Kay286 · 16/09/2023 03:58

Nova is an awful
name ! Like the car

Mamasperspective · 16/09/2023 03:59

It will be a generational thing because of the Vauxhall Nova car

GodDammitCecil · 16/09/2023 04:00

Who gives a shit if it’s a car or a star or something else altogether?

If the OP had just kept the name to herself, she wouldn’t have people sharing their negative opinions.

Sorry, but if you can’t work that out after two babies, then you deserve all the opinions coming your way.

Justagoose · 16/09/2023 04:18

This. Why do people do it? Keep it to yourself, people are much less likely to make unkind comments when the baby is actually here. And even if they do say something when baby is here then it's much less annoying for you I think as you've not your baby and to hell with what anyone thinks, otherwise you spend months stewing over it until baby arrives.
My dad doesn't like my son's name, he made some mocking remark when we announced it but we had our baby boy and I couldn't have cared less what anyone thought!

Devilsmommy · 16/09/2023 04:22

HobbiddoH · 15/09/2023 21:34

Sorry OP, but with the names Nova and Luna, I just imagine what they would read as/sound like spelled backwards

😳 I didn't collar that but will never be able to meet a person with those names now without thinking about it 🤣

Devilsmommy · 16/09/2023 04:25

araiwa · 16/09/2023 03:45

Continuing the space/ vauxhall theme, next child could be Astra

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