Hate when people have negative opinions on your baby names

[Lauryn95]

Does anyone else just think people are so entitled and rude when they tell you they dislike your chosen baby name ? It really annoys me and I feel there's no need. I feel like that's an opinion you keep to yourself unless obviously say the names something like chlamydia. We've struggled to choose a name for our daughter so badly and then finally we found one we adore and everyone is just so against it and it's really annoying me ,it's so rude. It happened with my other two aswell ,named my son after my late grandad and SIL straight up said and this is a direct quote "ew I really don't like that " and now this baby people are doing the same saying they hate it and I just feel like you've a right to not like the babies name but that's an opinion you should keep to yourself ,just abit of a rant because I've only told my mum and dh mum and they've both said they hate the name and not even in a nice way ,I just think it's so rude. The name I've picked is Nova and they're both saying that's not a name and I should strongly reconsider My other daughter is called Luna so I fell in love with it (moon and stars) think it's lovely and now I'm so annoyed that they hate it and MIL is actually calling the baby another name hoping I'll change my mind ugh rant over

Or! Look at this way…ask them what name you should have used and when they tell you something you hate just be grateful you get to name your child not them!

People will always have a reaction to a name. Whether it belongs to a baby, a child or an adult. I love the names Nova and Luna - but I also understand it's not everyones cup of tea. I think a name is a name and you cannot change it. People don't bat an eyelid to names like Mary, Helen, Jo - because we hear them all the time. But unique names will always have a reaction. As a person that carries a unique name I'm used to it - and like someone else said - maybe keep the names between you and hubby and announce it once it's on the birth certificate?

If you really like a name - stick with it. I agree people should keep their opinions to themselves, but you know what people are like.

I have a Luna so I get where you're coming from. Granted my Luna is 14 years old now so it's been a while since I had to deal with the issue you're experiencing.
As others have said Nova is pretty but doesn't mean stars. I would suggest Seren or even straight up go with Star if the star meaning is important to you.
There's also Aurora, Solana, Oriana if you're wanting sun/sunshine/sunrise instead maybe. Just some ideas.
But if you love Nova then stick with Nova.
The MILs have had their chance to name a baby so tough. The one calling your baby another name is ridiculous, that is not ok.

Well, are you asking them or telling them once the baby has arrived? We didn’t tell anyone until I was back in the post-natal ward when we sent a photo saying ‘Firstname Middlename Bothoursurnames arrived at 10.40, weighing 8.2 lbs’.

All four grandparents loathed it, but never said so, but (1) as my parents feel names should be chosen for their inoffensiveness and (2) DH’s parents feel all children should be given the same six family names (one of which my MIL can’t pronounce, even though she’s been married for 60 years to one and gave birth to one), I can’t say we were bothered.

I don't understand all the fuss with baby names, at all. It's a NAME - when we meet new adult people we don't ever proclaim "Eeew, Claudia! Just like my smelly aunt." We smile and say how pleased we are to meet them.

@Lauryn95 Nova in space/galaxy terms doesn’t mean star exactly- it’s the word for a star that suddenly becomes many many times brighter than it was. A supernova is a star in its final stage of development before it turns into a black hole or disintegrates.

Personally I like the sound of the name.

😅 I do love this comment, you're right!
"Oh Emma? I knew one in school once and she was a right cow"
Especially when followed up with the classic, "I'm a teacher so I'd know" 😄

Yes, some of the self-proclaimed teachers posting about ‘naughty boy names’ make me hope they’re in fact fantasist long-distance lorry drivers bored in a lay-by, rather than anyone who spends their days around children.

YANBU

Unless it is something vulgar, offensive, you don’t say anything. Too many people have associations with names that is only a “them” problem and have nothing to do with someone else naming their child that.

I think Nova is a sweet name and I immediately think “Supernova”, “Outer Space” despite it meaning new. Someone associating it with a car is their personal association and doesn’t mean that everyone will think that.

My DH and I have had issues with naming children due to his associations and we had to compromise with our oldest first name which still annoys me eight years on.

It depends how shit the name is.
Some of the ones on here recently were shocking.

So bloody rude.

A stranger once scoffed at my son's name and said 'these new names...' which was not only rude but inaccurate, as it's in the actual bible. Twat.

Don't tell people the name until the baby is born then people are less likely to comment as it is decided. If you tell them before they will think you are inviting comments

I’ve learnt that if people think the name you’ve chosen is stupid/rubbish then even if they say it to your face they’ll still say it to anyone else who’ll listen.

And like others have said, Nova is commonly known as the name of a naff car make. It’s was also the first thing that came to my mind when I first saw it.

I love the idea of you calling your baby a name that is related to stars and there have been some really lovely suggestions in this thread (especially Seren) so maybe you should give those some thought.

Currently pregnant and not telling anyone the three names I am considering. My mum also refers to the baby as the name she wants. When you tell people a name you are thinking of it's a invitation for an opinion, that's just the way it is. Nova is beautiful, don't compromise.

It also an astronomic term given to bright stars that appear suddenly in the sky and release powerful energy.
OP I think it's a lovely name a lot nicer than Stella.

There is no appropriate other than
"Lovely"
I was taken aback by a baby Brian but managed "Is that a family name? So unusual these days"

Yeah, I just wouldn't bother telling people and remind them it's your child your choice.

I like Nova. It's not 'out there' or anything, some people just have no imagination or tolerance for something different.

This is where the Op is getting the star reference from

I met a baby Brian recently too! I wonder if it's the same one or if it's making mini comeback lol. I think he was named after a relative who'd passed away.

OP, people have opinions because baby isn't born yet so they're thinking of the name in the abstract, they'd be less likely to be rude if they found out the name after the birth and were faced with an actual baby who's already called that, regardless after a while it just becomes associated with the child and part of them so it doesn't really tend to matter what people's initial impression was. At the moment the idea of your baby's name is very precious to you and you'll be sensitive to criticism because it feels like they're critiquing your baby, whereas as to them it's just a name they don't have that association yet.

I wanted to call DD Norah and from various family members I had 'Like Nora Batty?', 'sounds like a 60 year old dinner lady' and 'you can't do that to her!'. I still love the name and only didn't use it because DH wasn't sold on it and his and mine are the only opinions that mattered. Go for Nova if you love it.

Nova doesn't mean new. In astronomy it refers to a dying star.

I also think talking about it before the baby arrives is different from talking about it after it’s here. It does imply that you are canvassing views.

I like Nova and Luna FWIW

I use that line all the the time 😂

Nope you’re absolutely right and there’s no excusing it. Anyone (and there seem to be many) who hasn’t learned it’s best to shut your mouth and say ohh nice is not a fully functioning adult in my opinion.

and that included the grandparents. Just don’t offer up a negative opinion.

the only time it is excusable is if the name combined with a surname makes something awful - and the parents havent realised.

otherwise it’s just rude. I for example and not into traditional names. If someone comes at me with a charlotte or a Rebecca I THINK oohhh no I wouldn’t name my kid that. But it’s not my kid. And as names are subjective I assume they’re naming it that name because THEY like it.

do not let it get you down on the name. Because they’ll not like other ones that you pick. Or your mum likes one your aunt likes another your grandpa likes another and no one can ageee.

ps nova is 👍 (in my opinion)

It does literally mean New.

It refers to a dying star because the star has become newly bright and visible.