Hate when people have negative opinions on your baby names

[Lauryn95]

Does anyone else just think people are so entitled and rude when they tell you they dislike your chosen baby name ? It really annoys me and I feel there's no need. I feel like that's an opinion you keep to yourself unless obviously say the names something like chlamydia. We've struggled to choose a name for our daughter so badly and then finally we found one we adore and everyone is just so against it and it's really annoying me ,it's so rude. It happened with my other two aswell ,named my son after my late grandad and SIL straight up said and this is a direct quote "ew I really don't like that " and now this baby people are doing the same saying they hate it and I just feel like you've a right to not like the babies name but that's an opinion you should keep to yourself ,just abit of a rant because I've only told my mum and dh mum and they've both said they hate the name and not even in a nice way ,I just think it's so rude. The name I've picked is Nova and they're both saying that's not a name and I should strongly reconsider My other daughter is called Luna so I fell in love with it (moon and stars) think it's lovely and now I'm so annoyed that they hate it and MIL is actually calling the baby another name hoping I'll change my mind ugh rant over

It’s very obvious that “is that a family name?” means why on earth have you named your baby that 😁
I had it a couple of times with my DS.

Anyone that tells relatives their planned baby name prior to birth is asking for trouble. I wouldn't say anything but it's a really stupid thing to do. It sounds like you've done this multiple times too? If you have, why?

This is exactly why we didn’t tell anyone our baby names until they were born. My sister loved a particular name and our mum hated it and put her off it, even saying she wouldn’t call the baby that name. I mean the absolute cheek.
Nobody would dare say they hated it once the baby is actually here so we just waited until then.

For what it’s worth I think Nova is beautiful but at the end of the day it only matters what you and your partner think. Block everyone else’s opinion out, it’s hard enough to decide on a name you both love so try not to be swayed from it.

I voted YABU purely because there's no need to discuss it with anyone before the birth. Only people with the most extreme brass necks are going to slag your name off once it's the name of your child, but if you tell people beforehand they think you want their opinion.

Also, you really need to not care whether people like the name you've chosen or not. I've see one of my kids' names rubbished on here but I sincerely don't give a fuck, I still think it's an awesome name.

Nova and Luna aren't really unique though.

I know of 3 Novas born in the last 4 months. It's the new Aria. Nothing wrong with those names, they wouldn't be my choice but I don't expect everyone to like my children's names which are more classic which some might find boring.

OP, I agree, it's rude, I wouldn't comment on another persons baby name. Though I know my Dad would be the type to turn his nose up to a name that he considered 'new', for instance my Dsis was going to call her eldest son Ryan but my Dad totally put her off the name saying it wasn't a real name etc etc, that kind of thing can definitely influence you, but I know as a grandparent if you really hate a name it might be hard to say nothing.

I do think no matter what children grow into their names, so even if initially your Mum & MIL dislike the name it'll likely grow on them if you name your DD it.

I think before the baby’s born then any names suggested are fair game. If you don’t want opinions on the name wait until after birth to share it.

Once the baby is born and the name is official then agree it’s rude to comment on it.

It does mean new. Literally the first sentence of the Wikipedia article about the astronomical term says that it means new, which shows how much research OP has done.

Nobody’s else’s business. I happen think they’re both silly names but that shouldn’t bother you.

Know identical twins called Luna and Nova. Had a quite smile to myself when I heard. Love Stella though.

My first car was a Nova 😂

Don't reveal baby's name until she's hear. For some reason, if the name is out there before, everyone thinks that it's ok to persuade to rethink, but obviously they wouldn't dream of it if you only reveal the name once she's here.

Actually OP, have you googled the descriptive meaning of the word Nova?

The only person who expressed a negative opinion about one of my dc names was a relative who I could have predicted 100% would do so. She didn't disappoint. She's just a critical person who believes in "straight talking". Not many people like her.

I know a wonderful site OP that gives the etymology of names as well as the meanings. It also allows you to search name meanings if you are interested and it really is a name meaning star you want.

This is why you don’t reveal name choices though until after a baby is born. It is easier for people to see a name on a physical child than before a baby comes as they may still see a name in the abstract and up for discussion. Nova and Luna sound good together.

Sorry OP - I really don’t know what you’re looking for.

Stop telling people the names….?

Surely by the time your third baby comes along, you’ve worked out that telling people your possible names comes with them sharing their opinion…..?!

We didn’t tell a soul, not even our parents, what our names were before either DC were born. It’s not hard.

My mum didn’t like our boys name and said she hoped it was a girl.

I couldn’t care less we loved the name and we used it, it took my mum about 10 months before she said she actually liked his name and it had grown on her and she couldn’t imagine any other name for him. My gran actually asked why we hadn’t used a normal name 😂😂😂

use the name you love, other people had their turn to name their own children , this is your chance to name your own children.

It’s star-adjacent. That’s enough!

People are so rude. They should keep their mouths shut.

I think luna and nova are beautiful names and sound nice together. Both my sons have marmite names and have had some comments but I love their names and they suit them. I agree with you I think it's rude, and it makes me want to say well I don't like your name Linda or Jim but I don't comment on it.

Really rude actually, unless you’re asked ‘what do you think of the name Nova’? Your baby, your choice, my advice is only announce the name after the birth, people less likely to give an opinion on an actual real life baby v bump

It is a bit rude but its true that people do feel that names are open to comment as long as they are just possibilities - and close family are more invested so likely to share if they have strong views.

I think Luna and Nova go really well together. Nova definitely makes me think of stars rather than cars!

Sorry OP, but with the names Nova and Luna, I just imagine what they would read as/sound like spelled backwards

I had this from my dad with my ds.

He was asked if he would love ds any less. He said no. He was told to keep his opinions to himself.

My child's name is the choice of myself and DP. No one else gets a say in it.

If people say they don't like the name it's annoying and rude. But bear in mind that you baby will have to go through life with that name-maybe think of it as a heads up?

I think your family will get used to it.

people do connect people’s names with other people, places, objects either positively or negatively. especially when it’s also a noun rather than just a name.

the connection to me and my four siblings would be Vauxhall Nova as that was our first car!

Not a fan of Stella, for a little girl. Sounds frumpy. JMO sorry @Lauryn95