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Lost my cool with school run mum

464 replies

Vanilladanish · 15/09/2023 10:18

I’m at my absolute wits end. Recently bought a house near the kids primary school and like most primary schools the parking at school run time is a nightmare. There is one mum that constantly parks over my drive blocking me in or out. I work as an on call palliative care nurse and twice now have been late to call outs to provide pain relief and other things to patients at the end of life. I’ve tried to talk to her nicely and she just drives away. A few weeks ago my husband was trying to pull in the drive after work and she was blocking again. There was a queue of traffic behind him and he had to pull over and ask her to move so he could get off the road. She said she would when she was ready. Sometimes she’s there and there are spaces all the way up and down the road but she still blocks my drive.
today she blocked me again - I’ve just finished a night shift and I saw red. I asked her to stop parking and tried to explain I needed to get in and out quickly for work. She just shouted over me so I told her I would slash her tyres next time. I know I was unreasonable to say that and I am really ashamed of myself but I’m absolutely at my wits end. What do I do?!

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Eggsandavocado · 15/09/2023 14:19

Definitely go through with your threat and slash her tyres !

Mamabear48 · 15/09/2023 14:19

Good on you! I would have also lost my shit. If she does it again I would take pictures and call for her to get her car taken away

ChocHotolate · 15/09/2023 14:24

Gerrataere · 15/09/2023 13:41

Get a pack of A4 paper and a thick marker. Write out a load of ‘SELFISH ARSEHOLE STOP BLOCKING MY DRIVE’ and put them on her/whoever’s windscreen every time they do it. Hopefully the shame of it will discourage others along the way.

Secure the paper to the windscreen with glue to stop it being blown away!

Goldbar · 15/09/2023 14:27

Bollindger · 15/09/2023 10:45

One of my friends had this, she got a pack of post it notes and stuck them all over the car.
The owner was so mad, but she never did it again.
Also you could try this, put your phone on record, knock on her passengers window tell her you are recording her and will be posting on the school facebook page, tell her nicely you request her to stop parking over your drive. The actually post it to the page...

I like this idea - extra-sticky post it notes. You could write a single letter on each - P L E A S E D O N ' T P A R K H E R E . I ' V E E X P L A I N E D P R E V I O U S LY T H A T C O N S T A N T A C C E S S I S R E Q U I R E D . Y O U A R E C O M M I T T I NG A C R I M I N A L O F F E NCE.

And maybe just stick the rest of the pack on the car for good measure 😂.

SloppyJays · 15/09/2023 14:32

Contact the council and get a H bar painted.

miserablebitch · 15/09/2023 14:36

MoroccoMole · 15/09/2023 10:47

I'd flow her home, find out where she lives. Then the next day go block her in so she's late for the school run

^This. Definitely follow her home so that you know where she lives. Then block her driveway, so she can’t get out. If she hasn’t got a driveway and parks on the road, get another friend to help sandwich her in, so she can’t move. Would be even better if you could leave car(s) there for a day or so. She would be raging, but it would serve her right and hopefully won’t block you in again.

Snackqueen1 · 15/09/2023 14:36

It is againt highway code to block anyone in their drive, unfortunately not illegal if no one is on the drive which is bloody frustrating. Im a school mum and i usually park 5 mins away at my mums and walk to school then on to preschool, i would never dream of blocking someones drive with or without a car on it. Is f***g rude! Can you maybe park your own car across your drive instead?? That is what I resorted to doing when CF next door neighbour kept parking a foot over my drive.

MikeRafone · 15/09/2023 14:37

I also live next to a primary school and have been told Im totally out of order for asking someone to move, when blocking the drive. I ask very quietly and nicely.

So I wipped out my phone and said - that fine, I'll take a picture of you and your car and post on every single social media page I can find. Again sad very sweetly without a hint of sarcasm.

Oh then she wanted to take my photo - I asked if she wanted me to brush my hair and smile... at this point she got in her car and fled - never again has this person parked in front of my house, or in fact on the street - they park round the corner.

I wouldn't have posted a photo anywhere - but I did send to the school and a few days later saw the local police chap and he wanted a copy and as it had her reg - he said he'd pay her a visit. Whether he did or not I don't know.

If I have somewhere to be I generally park on the road, this takes up a space but hay ho.

Nanny0gg · 15/09/2023 14:38

@Vanilladanish Please come back sometime and let us know if you've managed to get her to stop!

babyproblems · 15/09/2023 14:43

I would take photos including her ref and send to school. I would also park my own car over the driveway to prevent her from parking there!! X

MikeRafone · 15/09/2023 14:43

As an aside - lipstick isn't criminal damage

but its an absolute bugger to get off the windscreen...........

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 15/09/2023 14:45

Rinoachicken · 15/09/2023 10:20

Could you take photos of the bad parking, (I think blocking a driveway is a traffic offence?) noting dates and times, take her reg, and then ask the local PCSO to speak with her?

Copy in the school also?

Edited

I agrée with this. It needs to be escalated.

Tabitha2721 · 15/09/2023 14:45

Not unreasonable at all. Would do the same! Report it to school. They have to do something. Our school does for each complaint!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 15/09/2023 14:46

MikeRafone · 15/09/2023 14:43

As an aside - lipstick isn't criminal damage

but its an absolute bugger to get off the windscreen...........

I think it is actually. Temporary damage is still damage, it’s just most people don’t report it.

fuckssaaaaake · 15/09/2023 14:53

VeridicalVagabond · 15/09/2023 10:34

Someone did this to my aunt many years ago, she's a midwife. She'd asked them politely not to block her drive many times, had a bit of a spat with them, reported it to the school etc. The woman never stopped.

One particularly warm and muggy day my aunt marched out and poured two tins of oxtail soup through her sunroof.

I'm not saying do that, but to be fair it worked.

Amazing

Abbyant · 15/09/2023 15:05

Around my daughters primary school today there was cpo’s telling people to move if they were blocking the road.

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Chypre · 15/09/2023 15:19

Shouting is absolutely off limits, surely you were not brought up that way! Slash, smile and wave. Calm and poised.

Misy21 · 15/09/2023 15:28

thats a good idea
thanks for sharing
blocking your own drive .never thought of that but youd need to own two cars

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Comeoncarol · 15/09/2023 15:31

What an absolute dick this woman is. I dont blame you for losing your cool. She parks over your drive and then has the nerve to have a go at you when you ask her not too.
I would take pictures, report to the school. If that doesn't help then I would block her in. Stupid woman and so entitled.

CatamaranViper · 15/09/2023 15:33

kitsuneghost · 15/09/2023 13:46

Apologies if anyone has asked but this is not a new thing so why the heck did you buy a house near a school

Not excusing shit parking but if I needed access to my drive at school hours I would not be buying a house next to a school

I voted YABU for this.

What a stupid, victim blaming comment.

There are any number of reasons OP chose that house and none of them are your business nor do they allow for people to park like twats over OPs drive way.

I live right next to our primary school and no one blocks my drive way.