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Any Doctors or nurses about? So urgent.

229 replies

MelissyMoo · 10/09/2023 22:16

Hi all.

I’m so sorry but I’m purely posting here for traffic. My 15 year old son was assaulted very badly by a professional boxer (18) at the beginning of this week. He was admitted to hospital and had a CT scan to check for any obvious bleeding. Everything was ok. He was diagnosed with a severe concussion. He has lost about 2 weeks of memory and can’t remember anything at all from the day of the accident. He seemed to be improving but in the last 24hrs he seems to be deteriorating. We were given a list of red flags to look out for but none of this is on there so I don’t know if it’s ok to just keep letting him rest without taking him back to A&E?

  • It takes on average about 6 times for him to register me saying his name if I’m right next to him. He is in a complete daze.
  • He has no appetite at all and is still very nauseous.
  • He cannot sleep.
  • He cannot remember things I’ve said to him just an hour or so before.
  • He has developed intense anxiety and is very confused.
  • Things he started remembering he has now forgotten again.
  • He is very pale and lethargic.
  • He is extremely sensitive to sunlight.

I called the hospital but they wouldn’t let me speak to anyone. What do I do? Is this all normal post concussion or do I need to take him to A&E?

Please be kind. I’ve never experienced this before and I don’t know what is normal and what isn’t. Thanks so much in advance.

So not to drip feed.. yes the police are involved and we’ve done everything we have had to do so far as we know. We’ve been very vigilant and I’ve been sleeping next to him every night.

OP posts:
Lastchancechica · 10/09/2023 22:50

I had this too, I couldn’t remember my phone number, date of birth, recent history etc. I hope he will recover as I did just a touch younger than him. I also felt sick for days and strangely tired and quiet. He needs to be checked. I was monitored in hospital but times change.

Corknut · 10/09/2023 22:51

I have a doctor in the house - A&E

SequentialAnalyst · 10/09/2023 22:52

PonyPatter44 · 10/09/2023 22:47

Stop faffing on Mumsnet, and go hospital tonight. Fingers crossed he is OK.

Charming. OP is hardly faffing on MN, and your post (and mine) only adds to the replies she's getting (sorry OP).

While I;m on, all best wishes, OP.

3luckystars · 10/09/2023 22:54

Glad you are going to A and E.

You are right and don’t be fobbed off.

Alargeoneplease89 · 10/09/2023 22:54

As others have said go to A&E but also wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about your child being assaulted by a professional boxer, that is absolutely disgraceful and I hope the police/ CPS take this seriously.

I hope your son is back to himself soon, you must be so stressed and worried

Murphs1 · 10/09/2023 22:56

Yes absolutely ED. How awful for you all to go through this. Wishing your son a speedy recovery.

goldlamps · 10/09/2023 22:56

Poor lad. Take him to a&e. Hope he’s ok (and you too) Please update us if you can. Xx

Rubiconmango · 10/09/2023 22:57

Healthcare Professional here. A&E as many times as you need too! There's no politeness rule or wasting resources police, when your child's life is at risk.

Praying for you and your son 🙏

Syndulla · 10/09/2023 22:58

Your poor boy. I'm glad you are taking him in.

As an aside, I think it's a pretty damming sign of how bad things have got in this country that someone feels they might be wasting the NHS's time with a severe head trauma.

adriftinadenofvipers · 10/09/2023 22:58

I don't think you should be concerned about anyone's time. Your son needs to be seen. Hope you are on your way and that he's ok.

JollyHolly30 · 10/09/2023 22:59

Lastchancechica · 10/09/2023 22:47

I hope he is okay op- he needs to be in hospital.

Have the police been informed? I so sorry for your son.

She talked about this in her first post! Didn't you read it fully before replying?

susan123graeme · 10/09/2023 23:02

A and E and shout from the hilltops about your concerns

SomeCatFromJapan · 10/09/2023 23:03

Not a medical professional but just to wish your son a speedy recovery, eat an awful thing to happen.

SirVixofVixHall · 10/09/2023 23:03

I hope you are seen quickly OP.
My dc had a severe concussion and we weren’t given much information at all in hospital. She took a long time to recover but was fine. PM me if you want to, I hope your boy is feeling better soon.

Zonder · 10/09/2023 23:04

Hope you get seen really fast.

oakleaffy · 10/09/2023 23:04

@MelissyMoo Please take your lovely boy to A&E .

So awful that this has happened- I hope police are informed.[Edit..I see they are ] What a cowardly assault.
I hope your son recovers swiftly.

ConfessionsOfAMumDramaQueen · 10/09/2023 23:05

No self-respecting medical professional will give you advice not to take him in without assessing him.

Take him into A&E, he's clearly still very unwell and they need to know so they can treat him appropriately and/or get you support to help him at home. Brain injury recovery is no joke.

Cucucucu · 10/09/2023 23:05

Better safe than sorry OP a&E and I’m thinking about you .
I suffered a serious concussion 10 years ago , a wooden beam fell on the back of my head from the heaves of a roof so I lost conciseness for over an hour . For the queen eels that followed I was a in a daze and took me over a year to regain short term memory , ie I couldn’t remember card pins , where I left things I just bought , my middle names or any dates . I was on my last year of uni a single mum and working and it made it very hard . It slowly got better but my short term memory was never the same again .
I truly hope your son improves fast and that the perpetrator is in jail and once your son improves consider going after him for compensation . What a vile person

PriOn1 · 10/09/2023 23:06

Hope it goes well, OP. It sounds frightening.

Defiantjazz · 10/09/2023 23:08

I think you should be calling 111 rather than asking Mumsnet…

ThelmaDinkley · 10/09/2023 23:09

So frightening for you OP. I hope your boy makes a full recovery soon. Best wishes.

fearfuloffluff · 10/09/2023 23:09

Defiantjazz · 10/09/2023 23:08

I think you should be calling 111 rather than asking Mumsnet…

How is that helpful @Defiantjazz ? And op said she called the hospital and wasn't allowed to speak to anyone.

Oioicaptain · 10/09/2023 23:09

Always trust your gut instinct OP. Always! If you think there is a determination, do not hesitate to ever go back to hospital! They need to see him for himself. There could be further swelling etc which might explain it, but he needs to be seen asap. I once didn't listen to my gut instinct, instead relying upon what medics had originally told me. I very nearly lost my husband as a result. Always trust your gut. Always err on the side of caution. Always fight your corner and be vigilant. Drs are experts in medicine. You are the expert of your son!

oakleaffy · 10/09/2023 23:10

@MelissyMoo You absolutely are not ''Wasting anyone's time or resources''- your precious son has been assaulted by a violent thug and suffered a head injury.

Absolutely insist he is seen again.

He is worthy of the medic's time and resources.

baytreelane23 · 10/09/2023 23:10

Defiantjazz · 10/09/2023 23:08

I think you should be calling 111 rather than asking Mumsnet…

OP has multiple responses from medics within 10 mins. She could have been waiting longer than that for a triage call. She's responded and gone to A&E.