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Bloody tree hating neighbours

203 replies

Gettingbysomehow · 10/09/2023 08:26

What's wrong with people? I live in a rural town where grass is replaced with gravel in almost every garden. There are hardly any trees and new estates are being slapped over every bit of spare land.
I believe that no matter how small your garden you should have a tree and a pond for wildlife. I have a flagpole cherry and a big tree that grows up like a pencil so goes up not out and I've put a nice wildlife pond in. None of these things impact the neighbours sun in any way and the autumn leaves only fall in my garden. No over hanging branches at all due to the trees upright habit.
God the moaning.....when are you going to cut those trees down. Get some fake grass, your pond solar fountain is too noisy ad nauseum. Then I got home to find my bird feeders had been thrown into the pond.
What have people got against nature!!!!
The offending neighbour has wall to wall fake grass, no water features and no other plants. Said he can't stand trees. Always has his stinking barbecue on and his dogs bark 24/7..

OP posts:
Goldbar · 10/09/2023 15:06

Can I ask those with artificial grass and small children, how do your children play out on it in hot and sunny weather?

DiscoBeat · 10/09/2023 15:17

I love trees. Our largest two, an elm and an ancient oak, are 50ft+ tall and I love them. We've had owls nesting in the oak. We're also planning a wildlife pond. Just ignore them.

I too think fake grass should be banned.

DiscoBeat · 10/09/2023 15:19

I’d lose my view if I install a tree, and I’ve young children who would destroy the pond!

Sounds like it would be a good opportunity to teach them to respect nature, then.

MintJulia · 10/09/2023 15:31

'Bird feeders close to the house can attract birds noisy in the morning, should be placed carefully not to wake people in either house.'

😳 Haven't people ever heard of the morning chorus. I live surrounded by trees and fields. We have assorted nesting boxes, a mixture of bird feeders, and two small ponds.

Next door has hens and a cockerel who gets started at 4.30am at the moment. We also have owls calling, foxes screaming and deer barking all night. A few birds tweeting isn't going to make any difference. 😂😂

Planning permission has just been granted for four new houses nearby. Tree protection orders have been placed on all the mature trees on the plot and the developers required to plant more. Let's hope the buyers aren't the sort to get woken by 'noisy tweeting'.

AfraidToRun · 10/09/2023 15:54

A pond can just be a bucket....all helps....

Syndulla · 10/09/2023 16:08

I've been thinking about getting a pond for a while. Can anyone recommend some plants for oxygen?

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 10/09/2023 16:16

CoffeeCantata · 10/09/2023 11:00

#outsurance

Oh yes, most definitely morons.

If you don't like nature please, please go and live in the inner city where you won't be troubled by annoying trees with their tiresome leaves or plants and flowers with their accompanying horrible insects.

There's massive concern at the moment about the decline in pollinating insects. We depend on them for our crops.

You've got an odd notion of the inner city. I live in an inner London borough and it's incredibly green here, given how densely populated it is. The council are wisely leaving the older areas of the cemeteries to re-wild and we have lots of parks, full of trees and shrubs, and a couple of rivers making their way to the Thames. Lots and lots of street trees and plenty of gardens. There's at least one local beekeeper selling local honey so there must be enough pollen to sustain the hive(s). I could be wrong, but I think the plastic grass/block paving type of gardens with minimal plants are a lot more common in the suburbs.

BatsHaveButtcheeks · 10/09/2023 16:21

LazyLadyLately · 10/09/2023 09:03

Come and live next door to me, OP.

Pond (including a trickle pump), seven trees, thick border of wildlife friendly plants, bird feeders and a healthy bird and insect population. All in a new build garden.

It's an oasis in a sea of the astroturd that is down in the nearby gardens just as a couple of square metres of something green for the dogs the poo on. So it seems. If anyone can hear my pond over the sound of chronically-ignored dogs barking, it'll be a miracle!

I need more like me nearby to create the wildlife corrider.

I'm like you...I have oak, apple and plum trees.

90% of my plants are bee friendly. My real grass is home to a number of ant species, although they do make it rather bumpy. I feed the birds and squirrels, and the foxes get a treat now and then too.

My bird bath has a water feature, and I'm currently building a planter/water feature combo. I also have decking and if it's home to other creatures...oh well

TheChosenTwo · 10/09/2023 16:33

Thought this thread was about me, we absolutely despise the next door neighbors ugly leylandi (actually just googled the name and that doesn’t look exactly like the tree so not a leylandi but an equally ugly beast of a tree). It blocks out so much sunlight from our garden, has cracked the concrete posts we had put in and bowed several fence panels where it’s just overgrown and they don’t bother to maintain it. When we moved in it was just taller than the fence post, it’s now between 40-50ft tall, sheds like a bastard all over that side of our garden, sucks all the moisture from half our (natural) lawn… just hate it. They won’t cut it down, or tidy it up, we have asked politely. They said we could cut off anything that was hanging over our side which we sort of did, got someone round to prune some of it back and let a bit more light through.
It’s an absolute eyesore.
They also have a pond which doesn’t bother us though- and we have a hot tub so we cancel each other out 😂

2jacqi · 10/09/2023 16:46

wow your neighbours would hate living next to us then!! loads of bushes, bird feeders, fruit trees, a dozen nests every summer, frogs croaking at mating time, two ponds and a waterfall cascading 24/7!!! enjoy x

TheAOEAztec · 10/09/2023 17:21

@TheChosenTwo tbf I alao hate conifer typea ins maller spacea. I got rid of our two (one waa diseased so gave me great excuse) and planted willow nd few bushes instead. I planted one bwfore nearby and it was not doing well. They make land around unusable for anything else. As soon as I got rid everything within 3meters even on neighbour's side shot up like crazy.

TheAOEAztec · 10/09/2023 17:21

Ans these were small!

Mrsfussypants1 · 10/09/2023 17:29

I'd prefer my neighbours to have a pond over their dog who is always in the garden barking at anything from morning to night.

DatumTarum · 10/09/2023 17:34

zingally · 10/09/2023 11:24

I'm actively looking at houses at the moment, and any with plastic grass is an instant disqualification for me!
Yes, I know I could just take it up, but the thought of these people actively trying to make a wildlife desert is just really annoying to me!

Not having plastic grass was the deciding factor between two houses when we moved.

It should be banned and I definitely judge people who buy it.

DiscoBeat · 10/09/2023 17:46

@thechosentwo I hate aggressively growing leylandii too. Definitely not a domestic border candidate. We took out a 150ft long hedge which we inherited with our house and replaced it with beech -far easier to manage.

GasPanic · 10/09/2023 17:57

I like trees but some are a bloody nuisance, planted without thought and badly looked after.

There's a halfway house between having your garden like a bacteria free clean room and an overgrown jungle.

I think that sums it up for me.

DdraigGoch · 10/09/2023 18:50

iamwhatiam23 · 10/09/2023 09:18

Erm not massacre but massive 😂

Freudian slip

CoffeeCantata · 10/09/2023 19:09

#Gaspode

Yes - I do know there are some lovely community gardens etc in inner city areas.

I'm thinking of those soulless 60s and 70s Brutalist estates with no individual gardens - just concrete or maybe worn areas of bleak 'grassland' with no trees or flowers.

DdraigGoch · 10/09/2023 20:08

megletthesecond · 10/09/2023 09:16

Why are leaves a problem? I manage to do nothing with leaves in my garden, the worms and bugs deal with them.

Ah, but he has to keep vacuuming the leaves off of his sterile green carpet. No bugs there, you see

ladykale · 11/09/2023 20:29

TheAOEAztec · 10/09/2023 09:05

Ideally only those who ruin a garden should be affected by flooding, lack of bees or excess heat but unfortunately it's not fair like that. We'll all suffer.
Unfortunately the water usually slides off to neigbours.

People are time poor and actual gardens require maintenance
That's what apartments with balconies are for.

So time poor people should only live in apartments. So many ridiculous comments here.

I would personally never get plastic grass because I love our grass, shrubs and many trees, BUT they cost a fortune to maintain as we don't have the tools or ability to prune high trees or the time even if we acquired that skills et.

Ponds are a drowning hazard so an absolute no for anyone with a toddler.

bombastix · 11/09/2023 21:22

Time poor? No, my neighbour hoovers his plastic grass everyday in case there is a micron of date.

Then the other time he can bitch about leaves to those own trees.

Plenty of time there. Small minds keeping busy with small ideas.

bombastix · 11/09/2023 21:23

"dirt" not "date"

BintuBintu · 11/09/2023 21:27

bombastix · 11/09/2023 21:23

"dirt" not "date"

It's not even dirt, presumably. Every time there's a bit of nature on his 'lawn', he gets the hoover out more like!

bombastix · 11/09/2023 21:29

He gets angst about pine needles. Tough life, self inflicted.

JustKen · 11/09/2023 21:29

Go to the ShitLawns account on X/Twitter. The horrors!

I love slightly overgrown real grass, ponds, trees, bee-friendly plants, even a naff ornament or two. More is more imo.