So, I’ve been seeing this man for a year now. I have a child and he’s met DC 4 times. The two of us went for a weekend away a few weeks ago and whilst I was under the impression we’d split costs I didn’t think it’d be so extreme! (He earns quite a bit more than me and has less outgoings - not that I’d expect him to pay for more).
so we split the hotel, fine. Going out for food, we split down the middle - but often his order was quite a lot more than mine. Cabs etc - exactly down the middle. But even to the point where he said “Can you send me £3 for that coffee I bought you before”. Despite me grabbing coffees, and snacks without asking for anything. AIBU to think this is ridiculous and stingy? We both knew we were going away, and we both have enough money to be doing the thing we were.
I honestly felt like this friend the entire time we were away. He even said he’d send me the bill for how much it cost to charge his car throughout the journey. On top of this, I’ve heard homophobic, fatphobic, and just generally nasty comments about other people. Something just feels very off.
Now I don’t want to be showered with gifts, and I’m very happy that I can support myself financially. But over the past month I spent £150 on a trip out for us and £80 on a meal out and got nothing? He’s never done anything like that - it’s always been HALF. Am I mug? Am I expecting too much? It’d be nice for my partner to buy me a coffee without feeling guilty??