Peeing in public

[ToddlerIs2]

Just after some advice really.

In the new days of being toilet trained, what did you do if they needed to pee no where near a loo?

Finished school, I checked if they needed a wee. They said no. Teacher confirmed they'd not long been. Great. Literally 5 minutes from school, twin 2 needed a wee. And it was a big one. I then checked twin 1 and he wanted one too. Had to do it up a wall on the residential street.

Getting them back to school, getting someone in reception to let us in etc would have taken 10 minutes. The nearest shop with a loo is probably 15 minutes away. We didn't get home for at least 30 minutes.

What am I meant to do cos obv this isn't ideal but neither is walking home dripping pee as they wet themselves

For context, they've been out of nappies since last Wednesday so just over a week. It's a mile home but taking us 40-80 minutes. We've stopped at the local shop for a wee but we're too far from it today

I think that, for now, I'd send them back in for a wee before walking home, regardless of whether they've been recently. (Mine would always assure me she didn't need a wee before we got the bus home from town, but I always insisted she tried just in case. I said she could say "I told you so" if it turned out she didn't, but that never happened!)

I used to take a potty out with me for the first few weeks, I'd then tip it fine a drain. Is that an option? Or take a large empty bottle?

I would have took them to a green area with trees not on someone’s wall

For context, they've been out of nappies since last Wednesday so just over a week. how old are they? I'm guessing you mean preschool, in which case take a potty. You can't let them pee up someone's house.

When we were in the early days of potty training I just took a potty wherever we went and always made sure DS used the loo before we left anywhere.

We always carry a potty. We have the one that seals shut (My carry potty I think it is) so you can dispose of appropriately.
My DD has been toilet trained since 2 and I still take it with us when out (she is 4) as she still makes some mistakes. I think it is completely unreasonable to do a journey of that length without a potty so soon.

Peeing on someone’s wall is a bit grim. In the gutter near a drain would have been better.

Do you still have a buggy? If so then I’d suggest using it, they are knackered after school so buggy will shorten the journey and also gives you somewhere to stash an emergency potty. or if not, stick a potty in a backpack.

You may find toilet training goes backwards a bit as they get used to school & are tired

I lugged a travel potty around for ages to make sure they could go when needed. And we always had a rule of having a wee before we leave the house. But with all that said, if I see a small child having a wee in a less than ideal place it’s obvious what’s going on and we’ve all been there so I wouldn’t worry too much.

Keep some of these with you and empty them in a drain when you get chance.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pocket-Toilet-Portable-Camping-Emergency/dp/B08CVHSYZ3/?encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=WYcgf&content-id=amzn1.sym.72fa84e5-4730-4039-9e38-3a9afc8c18e9%3Aamzn1.symc.adba8a53-36db-43df-a081-77d28e1b71e6&pf_rd_p=72fa84e5-4730-4039-9e38-3a9afc8c18e9&pf_rd_r=3BZJ9BZ5BACBQ2FP4MGA&pd_rd_wg=vkPub&pd_rd_r=6fa85147-1fed-4113-a364-6da2cb4d2089&ref=pd_gw_ci_mcx_mr_hp_atf_m

Peeing on someone’s wall is grim, particularly in this hot weather.

The bottles are also very handy in queues in Legoland etc too!

They peed on someone’s wall? That’s disgusting, please don’t let them do that again. You take a potty out with you and they pee in that, or worst case they pee on a grass verge or field (not someone’s garden).

Ah a bottle is doable, not a potty. We're walking, I have school bags and O2 cylinder and other stuff to carry, I couldn't sensibly manage a potty but thank you, that's a good idea if I can get them to pee in it

Just a plastic tub you can empty down the drain would be fine.

Please don't let them pee up someone's house/wall - that's really grim.

Didn't walk them up to someone house and tell them to pee up the house wall , that would be quite odd. Not all walls are part of houses or gardens.

This. Its not really a great way of teaching them that this isn't acceptable everyday behaviour. I would far rather somebody knocked my door and asked if their child could use my toilet than using my side wall as a lavatory.

Those walls belong to someone, and people sometimes sit on them. You don't piss on walls.

Just pee in the gutter. Or into a drain.

When you collect them, tell them to go to the toilet, just as you do before you leave the house. It doesn't matter if they say they don't need. You tell them to go.

Yes you could. There are lots of small travel potties.

You take one of those rather than let your kids just piss anywhere 🙄

Really disgusting to let them do it on someone's wall.

40-80 minutes is a long time for a kid that age to be walking every day after just starting school. Is that really the only option?

I don't think I can physically manage a potty. I have whatever kid stuff the kids can't carry, so usually a backpack which is also full with an O2 cylinder, then need two hands to hold reins and get three kids home. Someone else suggested a bottle which is a good idea and I'll make sure I've got an empty oasis bottle on me tomorrow then I can just tip it down the loo at home.

I did look at a collapsible potty but wasn't convinced how secure it was

ds 4 and ds 8 still pee outside in a bush etc dd10 only stopped recently. There's nothing wrong with it.

I don't think I can physically manage a potty.

Yes you can. Look at the Whizzer.

Not someone's wall. Not all walls male houses and gardens. Thought standing in the road was a pretty stupid idea from a road safety perspective?

No buggy, they're 3.

We used to find a tree to hide behind (sometimes a street tree, sometimes grassland tree - never ever a tree someone other than the council owned), or a drain. Or I would take them to the nearest shop/cafe that had a toilet and buy something to justify it!