Make up

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Do you wear make up every day? I do...I know I look better and younger when I wear it and feel so much better. I know so many people who don't wear make up on a daily basis who look stunning when they put make up on to go out. Why wouldn't you want to look the best you can all the time? It doesn't need to take a lot of time...5 mins for basic eye liner..mascara.. blusher and lipstick...I have a friend in her 60s and if we go out she wears lipstick and mascara and looks 20 years younger! I also would wear make up if I'm just at home hanging out with my DP...I want to look my best for him. I find it baffling that people will do their hair and make up to go out with with work colleagues but don't do the same on a daily basis for their partner...

Yep

Nope, I think it too.

I guess it depends what circles you run in, your area and age group. I definitely 'should' reduce my eyeliner if I want to be more in-line with my more fashionable 20/30 something friends. It's not that I pile loads on but I like black eyeliner as I feel that it helps balance of my dark features (dark eyes and hair). No one else that I know would wear black eyeliner in the day. Light, natural looking make-up is definitely the standard.

I've never received or solicited an opinion from mine or make-up or lack of it.

I look a lot younger without makeup.

I don't wear make-up much.

Originally it was part of the whole Eighties Feminist thing; then every time I did put some on H complained the entire time (took too long to get ready, got lipstick/foundation on him, took too long to get ready for bed... then he had the audacity to ask why I never wore it when it was Just Us); then I was in Small Children mode and felt I was doing well to wash my face; then it seemed a bit of an extravagance

And now I'm over 50, and every time I try it makes me realise that the main things wrong with my face can't be disguised with make-up and that making an effort is simply pointing this out, and I get pissed off and risk ruining my enjoyment of the occasion.

So I've taken to just shoving on some lipstick if there's going to be weird lighting, and not bothering the rest of the time. It's annoying, but that's how it is.

(For those who are wondering: (a) congenital lopsidedness which means my right eyebrow is noticeably lower than my left, and my right "eyeshadow area" is smaller (b) deep frown lines which make me look grumpy even though I'm not (c) significant myopia so that my glasses make that part of my face look about an inch narrower than the bits above and below)

I think it ages some people. I'm not a stunner or anything but I do know I look just as good without it, just polished- as with it I guess. Also I don't see the point in wearing every day as then you're not really sprucing up when you go out, it's just same you different dress

Definitely not, I think this also.

When I first met my DH aged 42 (we are now 53), one of the things he says he really liked about me was that I wasn't wearing any make up. He liked my natural look, thought I was attractive and still does.

Good for both of you. One of the first things my bloke really liked about me was my bright red lipstick. There’s a lid for every pot.

Do all the people that scoff at that only ever have sex wearing make up then?

My dh said that too....I was actually wearing a full face of make up. Like I said most men have no idea!

I used to wear makeup every single day from 13 onwards, until having my child and then going into the pandemic. I stopped wearing it a lot of the time, and got used to seeing my natural face. Previously, when I was wearing it daily, I wasn't insecure without it and didn't hate my looks, but I definitely felt 'weird' like my face was bare and like I must look tired or drained to others. Once I got used to seeing my natural face day to day in the mirror, out and about at shops, I started to get used to it and eventually grew to love it. I still wear makeup quite a bit now, but have no qualms at all going bare-faced lots of the time, for trips out, to the shops, even to work. It's been quite revelatory for me.

I wear eyeliner and mascara when I leave the house. Add lipstick for work and social occasions. Nothing else and no difference between day and evening. It doesn't make me look younger or that much prettier tbh, as I'm not skillful enough to change or enhance my features, so i tend to look the same but coloured in.
I do it from habit to look 'finished', like styling my hair or putting in earrings. I must be missing a trick if there's a way to become stunning and look 20 years younger with it.

I always wear lipstick when leaving the house or sometimes at home on a video call; usually mascara. No foundation but I moisturise every morning and night. I definitely wore more makeup on my wedding day op, but it’s not why my husband loves me so I don’t feel the need for a full face of it everyday.

I know so many people who don't wear make up on a daily basis who look stunning when they put make up on to go out. Why wouldn't you want to look the best you can all the time? It doesn't need to take a lot of time...

I mean it just wouldn't be fair on everyone else would it? Going around looking so stunning all the time would just make all the ordinary looking people feel inadequate. So I sacrifice my stunningness for everyone else's self esteem. I'm not just potentially stunning but also, deeply kind and self-sacrificing to hold up all the less-stunning goddesses around me.

JFC wear make-up if you want. But what the actual hell else is going on in your life that you think women should want to look 'stunning' all the fucking time. And that if they aren't wearing make-up, they aren't their best. Personally, I do like looking my best, but looking my best means looking strong and athletic. Which means being strong and athletic. Which means ageing slower and living healthier life for the longest time possible. If I'm taking 5 minutes a day to 'look my best' I'm doing pull-ups or intense cardio or improving my balance or flexibility. It's almost never going to mean putting on make-up.

Exactly!! The OP reeks of ingrained misogyny! Why as women must we try to look as young as we can?? What is so awful about looking our age? This attitude is so dated, sexist and actually it fucking stinks. Wear make up if you want, if you don’t want- don’t!! There’s already been a constant pressure forever on women to constantly look “good” all the time and I was hoping this awful message is finally fading so it’s disappointing to read this shite, especially from a women. You do you why are you even questioning other women on not wearing overpriced fake shit on their face just to look “younger.” Shame there’s no make up for your attitude OP you need it.

If I wear makeup it's for me, no one else. I like to feel I look different if I go out so I don't normally wear makeup around the house.

Its time we stopped perpetuating the fear of aging

No. The last time I wore make up was about 2 years ago. I only wear it for special occasions. I'm comfortable in my own skin and don't particularly care how I look to other people.

I used to when I was younger. Even when I was alone at home I’d still put a bit on. It was pretty much just part of my routine. Then I moved to a hot country and started wearing less and now I don’t wear any at home. Even for work I just do my eyebrows and put on some mascara. I very rarely wear foundation any more, even on nights out. Probably four times a year. Saves me so much money! Also, as you get older, less is definitely more!

I can't be arsed with it.
I'm not blessed with attractiveness so it'd be guiding a turd.

I'm more interested in personality, competence, kindness, honesty and compassion than looks.

I very rarely wear make up because I have very dry skin and I don't like the feel of foundation / power/ primer etc. However, I am very groomed so my hair is cut and coloured regularly, eyebrows and lashes are professionally dyed monthly.

My skin is very good (dryness is the feeling rather than the look!) so I don't need to do much to complexion and my eyes are enough with the dyed lashes etc. Unless I was going for full on for a night out I wouldn't wear anything else.

Why wouldn't you want to look the best you can all the time?

Why WOULD I want to look the best I can all the time? My husband certainly doesn't.

Should men do the same?

I rarely wear make up because I’m happy in my own skin and don’t feel the need to look younger. There are more important things in my life than whether I look “perfect” all the time.