We have a 4 month old and a dog who I'm solely responsible for, he doesn't walk him, take him to the vets, doesn't even give him his flea prevention once a month. It falls entirely on me, as well as 99% of childcare and 100% of the housework apart from cooking dinner.
He is hands on when he's at home with DD but he works 6 day weeks for sometimes 12 hours a day for his own company.
I get maternity allowance from the government as I was signed off sick with hypermesis throughout my pregnancy, I pay car insurance, fuel and my phone contract and DH pays for the house and food shopping.
I've saved a bit of money each month since DD was born to have my hair done today as we go on holiday in a couple of weeks, I've also saved enough to have a manicure and pedicure next week.
He asked me how much I'd spent today and I told him and he said if I want to have my nails done next week then I'll be taking it out of holiday spending money, I said I've saved it but then he said that I contribute nothing financially and now I feel like shit for treating myself.
Like I said, I pay for my car and phone and any bits our DD needs throughout the month that isn't covered in the food shop, I pay for our friends kids and families birthday presents and cards, I do all of the laundry, cleaning, taking care of the dog and look after our DD and now I feel like less of a person because I don't technically contribute to bills.
I asked him if he'd like me to go back to work and he said no so I don't really know what to do or say. I feel like suddenly I've realised I've lost all of my independence by not earning and feel really really shit.