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AIBU?

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Friend said our holidays are boring

361 replies

SusanandMidge · 31/08/2023 14:50

My friend and her husband love travelling and go on about 4 holidays a year. This year they've been to Egypt, India and Japan and are planning a trip to Croatia next month,
We prefer to holiday in the UK. Just throw everything into the car, no airport security, worrying about losing passports, delayed flights etc. We genuinely enjoy driving around places like the Lake District, Devon, Wales etc., stopping off at nice villages, chilling out in the garden of rented cottages with a glass of wine and a book, pottering up to the local pub for dinner and all that.

Last night, after a couple of drinks, my friend asked me why we go on such 'boring' holidays. I just said I wouldn't really enjoy the holidays she goes on but each to their own. She started persisting, saying 'don't you want to see the world' and so on. I pointed out that when we were younger we went to the States, Australia and lots of European countries. Then she said yeah but that was years ago, and we should 'treat ourselves' to a few nice holidays.

We're about to head down to Cornwall for a week, but her comments have kind of ruined it. I really don't want to go on long haul holidays and was content with our UK holidays but now just feel like everyone thinks we're boring and unadventurous. AIBU.

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WonderingWanda · 31/08/2023 15:10

Did you ask her why she is so rude? What a prick, I can't stand people who who are judgemental about things like this which are personal choice. She might find travelling all over more interesting but it's not very sustainable is it so who is she to judge you. (I should add I like both types of holiday). I had a colleague who used to say judgemental things about us going to all inclusives with small kids. What he didn't seem to understand was that it was a break from cooking and cleaning for me and at that point in my life I didn't need faff, adventure and new experiences.

Luana1 · 31/08/2023 15:11

I voted YABU simply for the fact that you are letting this bother you so much - who cares what your friend thinks! You don’t need external validation from anyone and if you do then you need to shift your own mindset..

Bonelly · 31/08/2023 15:12

People who's personality is travel. 🤮

doroda · 31/08/2023 15:13

She's rude. Ask her how she justifies her carbon footprint with her repeated flying

FullFatPhil · 31/08/2023 15:13

"Just throw everything into the car, no airport security, worrying about losing passports, delayed flights etc."

She's judged your pottering about as "boring" and you've judged her international holidays as "stressful".

I've never worried about losing a passport and if my last 8 flights only one was delayed by more than 30 mins fwiw. I also hate throwing things into cars and uk motorways but there you go.

PrinceHaz · 31/08/2023 15:13

Also get holidays will have cost an immense amount.
Shes obviously been vaguely stewing on this and gossiping with her husband about it.
She’s rude. Has she always been like this?

CherryMaDeara · 31/08/2023 15:14

FullFatPhil · 31/08/2023 15:13

"Just throw everything into the car, no airport security, worrying about losing passports, delayed flights etc."

She's judged your pottering about as "boring" and you've judged her international holidays as "stressful".

I've never worried about losing a passport and if my last 8 flights only one was delayed by more than 30 mins fwiw. I also hate throwing things into cars and uk motorways but there you go.

But the difference is the friend is being rude for voicing it.

GingerIsBest · 31/08/2023 15:14

It's perfectly reasonable to feel the way you do about your holidays.

Your friend is unreasonable to be this insistent on what sort of holiday you should have.

You are being ridiculously unreasonable to be this upset by your friend's rudeness.

FullFatPhil · 31/08/2023 15:14

"She's rude. Ask her how she justifies her carbon footprint with her repeated flying"

Oh please 🙄 you don't know how the OPs carbon footprint compares to that of her friend.

Newtrix · 31/08/2023 15:15

We have exactly the same holidays as you. Nothing better than exploring somewhere new, good food, good wine and no stressful airports or flights. My idea of hell! We're lucky and get away 3 or 4 times a year to different places.

AngelicInnocent · 31/08/2023 15:15

Yabu for caring what anybody else thinks.

MereDintofPandiculation · 31/08/2023 15:15

I find the more closely I look at a place, the more questions I have about it. I’ve been to the same 1.5sq mile island 5 times and still not “finished” it. I expect there are people who find my holidays boring. Personally, I think they are boring.

I’ve also worked out that if I’ve heard of it, it’s going to be more crowded than I like. I would love to wander through an almost deserted Alhambra, but that’s not going to happen.

CherryMaDeara · 31/08/2023 15:15

FullFatPhil · 31/08/2023 15:14

"She's rude. Ask her how she justifies her carbon footprint with her repeated flying"

Oh please 🙄 you don't know how the OPs carbon footprint compares to that of her friend.

So the friend can be rude but the OP can't?

DBinHK · 31/08/2023 15:16

Well, all that travel hasn't taught her manners, has it?

I have friends who travel the world and others, like me, who tend to stay in the UK nowadays. Fortunately we aren't rude enough to criticise each other's choices.

Don't be ridiculous and let her remarks spoil your holiday though.

Bumble84 · 31/08/2023 15:16

Well you’re not asking her to come with you are you.

doroda · 31/08/2023 15:17

FullFatPhil · 31/08/2023 15:14

"She's rude. Ask her how she justifies her carbon footprint with her repeated flying"

Oh please 🙄 you don't know how the OPs carbon footprint compares to that of her friend.

OP doesn't go abroad and her friend flies 4 times a year, it's self evident

Xrays · 31/08/2023 15:17

Your friend hasn’t learnt that different people are different!

Don’t let her opinion bother you, who care what others think of your holiday- it’s your holiday!

purplecorkheart · 31/08/2023 15:18

Your friend was rude. Don't let it spoil your holiday. We all want different things from a holiday. It doesn't mine our is more interesting than anyone else.

andrainwillmaketheflowersgrow · 31/08/2023 15:18

Why does it matter what she thinks?

Wrongsideofpennines · 31/08/2023 15:18

People like different things. I personally would find sitting by the pool and at all inclusive, watching the evening entertainment and never leaving the resort mind numbingly boring. But millions of people go on that kind of holiday every year, sometimes multiple times. I also think football is boring but again millions of people enjoy it.
Ignore her comments and have a lovely holiday.

Taxiii · 31/08/2023 15:18

I have voted YABU, because YABU to let someone spoil a lovely break that you would enjoy if you ignore their irrelevant wittering.

CherryMaDeara · 31/08/2023 15:19

doroda · 31/08/2023 15:17

OP doesn't go abroad and her friend flies 4 times a year, it's self evident

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And she could ask her how she justifies her air travel carbon footprint with her repeated flying, if needing to be more specific.

usernother · 31/08/2023 15:20

Why would her comments ruin you holiday? Who cares what she thinks?

ScribblingPixie · 31/08/2023 15:21

I voted YABU as I think you're overreacting. Your friend got pissed and started forcing her preferences on you. Just dismiss her & anyone else who thinks your holidays are dull. I've been on tons of 'exotic' holidays but love nothing better than to drive to the coast an hour or two away for a holiday. Leave home at 10am and be on holiday by lunchtime - what could be better?

SamW98 · 31/08/2023 15:21

Your friend is rude but I think you’re overreacting letting it bother you so much.

Don’t we all do holidays to suit ourselves? So why does it matter what anyone else thinks?

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