To not want to be friends after holiday behaviour

[Jev82]

I went on a big group holiday with some friends to the coast. I found one of my friends very rude. I drove us and had made plans to collect them all from a different city which took me 2 hours extra for their convenience. I was happy to do this but didn't want to drive in the dark at the end of the trip so asked everyone to be punctual. This friend was very dominant and changed all the pre-arranged plans so they arrived 3 hours late because she thought getting up early was unreasonable. I had to wait for them all this time in a car park.

She was rude to other friends of mine who weren't hers, sulked and shouted and I just don't want to be friends anymore because she was a nightmare. She wanted me to cut my holiday short for a day to drive her home because she had to work even though I was still on holiday. I felt she treated me like her assistant and an assistant to a horrible boss at that.

Other friends want me to forget it because it's making their lives more difficult as I am refusing to hang out with her. I don't care if they spend time together, I just don't want to be friends with someone like that so won't join them. AIBU?

3hrs! 3hrs late is I had to drive a friend or relative to A&E or the fault of the British transport network (train, motorway accident, the coach breaking down.)

Bad planning gets you 30mins.

She sounds like a narcasist. Dump, unless you want to be mis-treated badly often.

It sounds as though you have been very nice about it all, no chance would I have waited 3 hours in a car park for anyone. Life is too short to waste time on people who behave that way. YANBU.

It’s a power play here. Go off line and see who contacts you. You retain power that way and take it away from the others.
Then choose who you want to be friends with and reject the rest.
You were being manipulated. A useful learning experience.

I would have just said, I'll be there at ' the time agreed' and as I'm driving you can meet me halfway. When I got the message to say they were going to be THREE hours late. I would have replied saying, ' thanks for letting me know, I'll obviously now see you there.' They would have got a taxi.
When friends do the fantastic favour of giving me a lift anywhere, I absolutely go out of my way to make sure they are not inconvenienced!!!
I'm not sure why they all did what she said if they are your friends and not hers.

I also went non contact with a friend who treated me very badly, she was popular and I lost that whole friendship group. It wasn't great at first but after a couple of months people saw through her and she eventually moved away, as did I.

So when the next CF came along,I swiftly got shut of her too.
I have much less friends these days but they are much nicer people!!! It is quite liberating to just cut people off and not really care. Life is much easier and stress free!

You are being perfectly reasonable

There are many reasons why i would not speak to this friend again. Yanbu.