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Genuinely unsure if IABU

252 replies

devildeepbluesea · 25/08/2023 20:10

My lovely neighbour (rented property) told me on moving in that she works nights as a HCP. This is borne out, as far as it goes - she’s clearly out overnight but only for 1-2 nights per week.

In the meantime I’m pretty sure she’s running a commercial kitchen from her home, and making her living mostly from this.

Are there any circumstances where this is ok? I don’t want to knacker her income stream but equally I’m a bit worried about vermin (lots of evidence of food prep outside in the garden).

OP posts:
devildeepbluesea · 25/08/2023 22:17

DonnaDonna0 · 25/08/2023 22:16

She probably isn’t coming back and I don’t blame her. Absolutely no need for some of the comments on here.

😘thank you

OP posts:
devildeepbluesea · 25/08/2023 22:18

MarshaArt · 25/08/2023 22:14

All of that would be super relevant, if the OP actually knew she was prepping food commercially.

Thanks. I do.

OP posts:
YouAreBeingUnbearable · 25/08/2023 22:23

BUT WHAT WAS SHE DOING IN THE GARDEN?! I am begging you OP 😂

(I am perhaps cynical but wondering if you exaggerated that bit since lots have asked and you have evaded the question?)

ChrisPPancake · 25/08/2023 22:28

If it's barbecue/cooking over an open fire she's going to struggle to move that indoors however nicely you ask @devildeepbluesea

Strawberryshitcake · 25/08/2023 22:29

ChrisPPancake · 25/08/2023 22:28

If it's barbecue/cooking over an open fire she's going to struggle to move that indoors however nicely you ask @devildeepbluesea

And die of carbon monoxide poisoning while she’s at it.

devildeepbluesea · 25/08/2023 22:30

YouAreBeingUnbearable · 25/08/2023 22:23

BUT WHAT WAS SHE DOING IN THE GARDEN?! I am begging you OP 😂

(I am perhaps cynical but wondering if you exaggerated that bit since lots have asked and you have evaded the question?)

Well I can’t be completely sure because we have 9ft high fences, but I think she’s done stuff with fish, meat and veg. I’ve no real idea what exactly. I’ll let you know tomorrow if food is left out and fear not, if there are vermin I will alert the council!!

OP posts:
devildeepbluesea · 25/08/2023 22:31

Strawberryshitcake · 25/08/2023 22:17

This is it. I’m presuming there’s probably a difference in culture too…

Oooh quite the unconscious bias there no?

OP posts:
TeaKitten · 25/08/2023 22:32

devildeepbluesea · 25/08/2023 22:30

Well I can’t be completely sure because we have 9ft high fences, but I think she’s done stuff with fish, meat and veg. I’ve no real idea what exactly. I’ll let you know tomorrow if food is left out and fear not, if there are vermin I will alert the council!!

Does she cook outside? If so what on?

Beenhereforever1978 · 25/08/2023 22:37

9ft high fences? Are you in prison?

Things with fish meat and veg...

Things.

MarshaArt · 25/08/2023 22:40

devildeepbluesea · 25/08/2023 22:18

Thanks. I do.

Right, so then you can report it? You sounded unclear and wanting to discuss it on MN 🙂

Frozensun · 25/08/2023 22:44

devildeepbluesea · 25/08/2023 22:30

Well I can’t be completely sure because we have 9ft high fences, but I think she’s done stuff with fish, meat and veg. I’ve no real idea what exactly. I’ll let you know tomorrow if food is left out and fear not, if there are vermin I will alert the council!!

I’m not clear. If the fences are 9ft - and you’re not really sure what type of foodstuff she has been preparing - how do you know food scraps are being left lying around?

Thisgooddog · 25/08/2023 22:44

How dare she cook in her own garden.

Oakbeam · 25/08/2023 22:44

Does she cook outside? If so what on?

I used to live in Wolverhampton. My next door neighbours cooked cauldrons of food outside on their drive over gas burners.

Right under my bathroom window.

BarbaraofSeville · 25/08/2023 22:47

Playingintheshadow · 25/08/2023 21:16

^ this!

It really doesn't. There's more 'vermin' out there than most people can imagine until they get a cat, or two, or more than most people can imagine but long story and said killer creatures bring said vermin in your home faster than any 'attraction by cooking 'ethnic' food' ever will.

But I'd also say the OP BU because I don't understand the people who don't like to smell food, what's that all about.

Beenhereforever1978 · 25/08/2023 22:48

Frozensun · 25/08/2023 22:44

I’m not clear. If the fences are 9ft - and you’re not really sure what type of foodstuff she has been preparing - how do you know food scraps are being left lying around?

Don't you dare bring logic to this thread! 😆

BarbaraofSeville · 25/08/2023 22:49

Oakbeam · 25/08/2023 22:44

Does she cook outside? If so what on?

I used to live in Wolverhampton. My next door neighbours cooked cauldrons of food outside on their drive over gas burners.

Right under my bathroom window.

Do you live next to witches? Cool.

YouAreBeingUnbearable · 25/08/2023 22:49

So… you’re not even sure what she’s doing with the fish, meat or possibly veg? But she’s doing it in the garden? Are you ascertaining that from smell? How do you know there are scraps being left? Why are you being so evasive? 😂

Oliviawilde · 25/08/2023 22:50

ClarkWGriswaldd · 25/08/2023 21:25

I take it everyone on this thread would be happy to eat food prepared in someone's back garden? Yes?

Of course your bloody wouldn't.

I mean imagine if I'd started the following thread ...

'I have set up a business! I'm making food for people and selling it. I don't have a hygiene certificate and I prepare a lot of the food in my garden and leave food about outside. Would you buy from me?'

Because that's the exact same scenario being described.

I do wonder what MN replies would be in this case 😄

WandaWonder · 25/08/2023 22:52

Oliviawilde · 25/08/2023 22:50

I do wonder what MN replies would be in this case 😄

I think we could all guess

GoingInsaneAhhh · 25/08/2023 22:55

Maybe shes batch cooking, feeding colleagues, siblings, friends. Perhaps she just loves cooking. If she works unsocial hours, shes bound to be cooking at odd times. Not everyone lives the 9-5 norm

skippy67 · 25/08/2023 22:56

Ozgirl75 · 25/08/2023 20:25

Is the food <clutches pearls> ethnic by any chance?

🤣🤣

JanieEyre · 25/08/2023 22:58

FettleOfKish · 25/08/2023 20:18

I'm not exactly sure what the problem is? Is it disturbing you? Is she leaving rubbish / rotting food outside?

My old flat was directly over my landlord's small commercial kitchen which was an extension on his home.

Never caused any kind of issue.

A commercial kitchen built into an extension probably has all the right planning permission, environmental health certification etc. Someone operating from a domestic kitchen, probably not.

BarbaraofSeville · 25/08/2023 22:58

^I take it everyone on this thread would be happy to eat food prepared in someone's back garden? Yes?

Of course your bloody wouldn't^

It appears that I am the only person on MN who has ever been to a BBQ. This place is nuts. I've broken pretty much every food hygiene rule that exists. Multiple time, ongoing. For decades, repeatedly. Barbecues, council star ratings, refrigeration rules, use by dates, the lot. Yet it is well over 30 years since I've had food poisoning, despite breaking all the rules that MN tells me that I will get food poising due to, yet the only time I did was from a prawn sandwich in the work canteen, that would have followed all the rules in the first week of a new job.

Vintagecreamandcottagepie · 25/08/2023 22:59

You sound nice.

Stuff off re what your neighbour does.

Your story changes every time you tell it btw.

This is aibu. Most say you are.

JanieEyre · 25/08/2023 23:01

Frozensun · 25/08/2023 22:44

I’m not clear. If the fences are 9ft - and you’re not really sure what type of foodstuff she has been preparing - how do you know food scraps are being left lying around?

Perhaps she has a sense of smell? And vermin carry it into her garden?