Husband invited to work event on a Sunday

[Strugglingatworkmum]

DH's manager is organising lunch for the team on a Sunday in his house. I think it's coming from a good place but he lives in the middle of nowhere with no direct train access and we have a baby and toddler at home. If he goes there it means 2 hours each way to his normal workplace and our home and I will be alone with them the whole day. We barely see our children during the week as they are both in childcare. He feels he has to go as there is some sort of social pressure. AIBU to be annoyed by this and to think they should be a bit more considerate before extending an invite like this. Ultimately it's a work event and for me weekends are for family.

We used to go to these kind of events in DH old job. It was a nice way to socialise with his colleagues (who were lovely) and they were all very welcoming to spouses and kids. DH has changed jobs and we’re still good friends with a couple of his ex colleagues and their partners.

There probably was a bit of pressure to attend (as in DH felt like we should go unless we had a valid reason not to, but he was also new and keen) but I highly doubt anything would’ve been held against him if he didn’t go!

Also its not a “work event”. It’s a social event with people from work.