Would this annoy you if this was said to you?

[Lolololololl]

The guy I am seeing was telling me he won’t see me tonight and will be going out drinking unless ‘I give him a good enough reason to stay in’. With a wink emoji. This has annoyed me. Aibu?

Sounds like he’s young and had shit chat! You can def find better 😊

And when you go to him do you just go to his house or does he take you out for dinner and drinks where he lives?

Either way, if he's not willing to make the effort to come to you, aside from all his shit "give it to me" chat, he's a bit of a lost cause.

Just to his house so far, he keeps saying he wants to take me out but hasn’t happened yet, I already knew him so we didn’t meet on a dating app, he’s told me he likes me but I just don’t think it will progress

Yeah please just cut this one loose. You need to have that dating stage for it to last. I hope you know you deserve better?

So he doesn’t take you out for a drink, dinner even a coffee?

He sees you as a fuck buddy not a partner OP. Unless that’s all you want then chuck this one back

Just send him this

He's never taken you out?

All you do is drive over to his for sex?

He has never been to yours?

Talk about having his cake and eating it!

Good grief!

Please, you are worth so much more than being ordered like a pizza to his house!

Shudder

Bin

Young modern dating sounds fucking awful.

Please don’t put up with this OP. It’s so depressing.

Dump this one and move on

Please, you are worth so much more than being ordered like a pizza to his house!
Pizza is usually appreciated, and paid for. OP is neither (as in coffee, cinema or meal)

Please raise your standards, unless you are just using him as a fuck buddy until someone better (and nicer, and kinder) comes along.

Why is your self esteem so low as to put up with this? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Why are you making excuses for this dickwad?

Up your game. Please.

Get some self respect and for goodness sakes move on

Doesn’t it just?

‘fancy a shag at mine, pay for your own cab’

Who says romance is dead?

I think context is everything. If for example you had shown him you were disappointed that you weren't seeing him, then he had said that I'd take that as flirting. A bit childish but he's saying 'tell me how much you want to see me'. If I wanted to see him and fancied the pants of him I'd reply something along the lines of tell me what's on offer and you might have a deal.
If though he was due to see you and cancelled at short notice because he'd got s better offer I'd be annoyed. He's basically saying he'll only see you if sex is on offer.

Of course, with text messages especially, we're just guessing at what we think he means. Just ask 'what do you mean by that?' and take it from there.
Also remember these first few weeks should be the most fun.

It would give me the impression my only value to him was for his own sexual benefit. Definitely off putting.

So he’s never taken you out on a date, has revised his offer from staying in to see you to ‘head on over for a quick shag?’, and has to date offered once to pay for a taxi (one way? So generous!).

Chuck this one back.

He was never going out with his mates, he was testing the water

I agree. It went:

1. I am presenting you with an opportunity to persuade me to shag you.
2. I'm still here. I can slot you in if you feel like you'd like me to shag you.
3. Please let me shag you.

Just ask him flat out "Are you saying that you only want to spend time with me if I compensate you with sex?"

He'll either realise he has been an arse and apologise profusely or you'll find out for sure that he's an arse and you no longer want to waste your time on him.

This one is not a keeper!