Kids at the park

[Blueb3ll]

I specifically went to the park late today so it would be quiet and dd (1.5) could explore. When we turned up we were literally the only people there, but after 15 mins or so a group of kids turned up.

When the kids (4 of them, supervised by a teenager), my dd was playing on the slide. They wanted to use the slide so I moved dd and said “come on let’s use something else”, and I moved her to another part which was one of the ways up to this climbing frame. There were 4 ways to get up to this slide. Two of the kids, the same ones I moved her for, I’d say around 7&5 then decided they wanted to come up and down the part she was playing on. Didn’t say excuse me, didn’t say anything, the seven year old looking boy pushed my child out of the way by her head!!! I said “No, don’t push her”. I wasn’t angry, I was just firm.

The boy then didn’t come back but the 5 year old girl kept coming back and trying to push passed dd not saying excuse me or anything. I looked over at the teenager and she was just sat on her phone. I didn’t move dd but I didn’t stop the girl squeezing passed, I don’t think I had the right to tell the girl no go a different way so I just ignored her and carried on playing with dd.

Am I being unreasonable? I’m new to the children’s park scene but how do I handle situations like this?

I can’t believe that boy pushed my 1 year old by her head! I’m annoyed. Is this normal? I’ve never seen any kids in my family/ friends behave like this.

Oh OP, just give up. You sound awful to be honest - very unhappy and angry. You are coming across as ridiculous and SURELY you have better things to do than squabble with loads of strangers on the Internet? You've been posting about this all day long! 🙈 It happened, now get over it and learn for next time! You'll look back when your daughter is 7 and be so embarrassed about this thread!

But you’ve got a lot to say don’t you. So why don’t you button it before you police others?
makes me laugh about the women on mumsnet, they love getting snippy but can’t handle it when it gets dished back to them. Do you have nothing better to do then keep coming back to act self righteous and getting sassy?

You do realise that you're also a woman on mumsnet? You're also getting sassy at a bunch of strangers on the internet.

Seems like people are 'handling it' just as well as you are tbf. You're not coming across as any better than anyone else.

Dear god, I cringed reading this, I think OP it’s time to step away from this thread, you aren’t doing yourself any favours

Yes but I’m not moaning that people are getting snippy, I’m just giving people the same energy back. There’s a specific handful of women that have been snippy to me throughout this thread so of course I’m giving it back.
ive noticed on other people’s threads also, commenters are allowed to have an attitude but op can’t say one word out of line before getting told off.
im new to mums at but this thread has really opened my eyes about what 80% of people on here are like

Why don’t people like you stop commenting then? Or did you just have to come on and be condescending? Do you think that makes you any better?

If you don't like mumsnet then don't be a part of it.

Honestly, if you had a better attitude and weren't so snippy and rude, you would have had much nicer responses.

Woah, this is the first comment of mine on this thread. No where was I nasty to you, just some friendly advice that maybe it’s time to step way from the thread.

it is coming across like a playground argument where it’s just back and forth. Be the bigger person and just say enough

I’ve had the same attitude to others that they have had to me.
I’m new to mumsnet and can see why people say what they do about the site and after this thread I’ll be off.

I don’t agree that your comment was friendly at all. i can’t imagine that you thought it was friendly advice either or you would have worded it differently. It was condescending and you know it was

Not at all, but you know the whole thing where people misread texts etc because you can’t always correctly interpret how it’s meant to be. I feel like this is what you’re doing right now.

I said how I felt, the thread is cringing to read, because there’s no need for the attitude. I’ve also said be the bigger person and just stop it because in all honestly where is this going?

I’m a young ftm and I was shocked to see a boy do that

what do you mean by this statement, OP?

There’s no need for the attitude that others have given me either and yet you want to tell me about it. Anyone would get defensive when you’ve got 5 women getting on your arse

Exactly what it says. I was shocked or are you going to cry sexism because I used the word boy instead of child. Hahaha this website is hilarious

No where did I say it was right, but i have no attitude at all and the first thing I got was attitude.

but sometimes you have to the the one who says enough

@Blueb3ll Just to say it’s pretty normal to leave younger kids in the care of an older sibling in the school holidays. DD is 15 and takes charge of her two brothers while I’m at work. She’s fine with it - after all, she knows its how I keep a roof over their heads!

no, I wasn't going to cry sexism

I mean...1) by ftm, do you mean you are trans and 2) if that is what you mean, what bearing does that have on your expectation/shock at the shove?

but if your use of 'boy' rather than 'child' is significant, then I would ask whether your expectation of boys is different than for girls?

I meant I’m a 23 year old first time mum and I’m shocked to have seen a boy do this?
it’s relevant because I’m saying I’m inexperienced. I’m not a 50 year thats done the parenting block. I’m new to this.
no my expectation isn’t different

🤣 I see, thank you. I thought you meant 'female to male' rather than 'first time mum'...that makes perfect sense now

lol well now I’m wondering who else I’ve accidentally given the impression I’m trans to. I didn’t even realise people use that for a shorthand for trans

🤣 it's common usage on Mumsnet. I've never seen it used for first time mum, but I have been on here frequently for years

Ah see it’s me and my newbie vibes again

I actually meant to say that I HAVEN'T been on here frequently for years 🙄...meaning that I might be out of date with my acronym usage!

Ohh see I use ftm socially and it’s meaning is first time mum. Though I do have some questionable days
I’ll be typing it out in future, just in case

Dear god, I cringed reading this, I think OP it’s time to step away from this thread, you aren’t doing yourself any favours

I'm still cringing. I'm so embarrassed for OP.