To have snapped at this woman

[Iwasonce]

Had a slightly hellish trip to the doctors today where both my toddler and baby were screaming. As I was trying to get them out I dropped my car key and it went right under my car. I had to lie on the ground and use an empty water bottle in my car to try to get it out. A woman stopped and asked if I was all right and I briefly explained, and she started giggling and saying oh dear. I rather curtly said I was glad someone was finding it funny. I now think I was probably really rude so wondering what the mn consensus is.

YANBU. If I'd have been that woman I'd have been helping you to retrieve the key. So what if you were rude, maybe she'll be less inclined to be a dick in future.

I can't believe people are #BeKinding when some arsehole is laughing whist OP is face down on the floor trying to find her key whilst her kids are screaming.

No way would people expect a man to be kind and patient in this situation.

Honestly? Good for you. Laughing at people when they are clearly struggling is horrible. I’d have done more than vaguely snapped at her, probably told her to fuck off 😂

Can no one share their crappy day on MN anymore without the passive aggressive 'not sure what you want from this thread' response?

Sorry about your cs scar reopening- hope you can get that checked? 🙁

A man once jokingly remarked that I “needed supernanny” when my 2 year old was kicking off in Tesco. I think I muttered Piss off under my breath then cried when I got back to my car.

Twenty years later I can laugh about that, realise the bloke was making light of things and tell it as a mildly amusing anecdote!

At the moment you’re tired stressed and prickly so cut yourself some slack x

Ignore anyone who says you were rude, clearly they either don't have kids or forgot what it's like. The lady should have minded her business instead making comments where nobody asked her opinion.

@Iwasonce I see, you just feel bad about it and she added to the stress and now you have guilt.

These things happen. Hope you're okay now.

Probably been mentioned but -
she may have rushed over in alarm thinking you’d collapsed or trapped yourself under the wheel of your car in some horrific failed handbrake accident..and laughed in relief on hearing “dropped my keys!”

Yes not great social skills from her but not necessarily her being the “obnoxious arsehole” posters are declaring.

Not quite the same but I’ve watched a few of those ambulance programmes and it’s quite common for the paramedics to make light of a situation or crack jokes about it “not being your day” or “your bikes seen better days mate” to a patient with horrific injuries with their leg hanging off or something.
I think it’s a technique used to ground the patient and reduce stress levels.

You weren't rude, you were annoyed.

She laughed at you. That's rude.

Exactly. No one is forced to read any threads.

She wasn’t sharing her crappy day she was asking if she was being unreasonable for snapping at someone who asked if she was ok. I’m not sure if OP was or wasn’t but she seems fairly sure she wasn’t so I think it’s reasonable to ask why she bothered

You do know OP's are allowed to answer back, right? They don't have to be meek mice who accept whatever AIBU tells them.

She posted on AIBU for a range of perspectives and got them, so not really sure why you're not really sure why she posted.

Not really sure what you want from this OP

The board is called AIBU, so there’s a fairly big clue there

Yes I get that but this is all getting a bit mean girl for me so I’ll bow out

Where does it say the passer by offered help? Yea OP, she was a knob. Either help or shut up.

Why is it mean girl to say I’m posting on AIBU, so I’m asking if I’m being unreasonable?

I am honestly not trying to be unkind or to be mean or cruel. I genuinely don’t understand what’s mean about what I said

I think you were really rude. She didn't know you were having a shit day. I don't understand why you felt justified snapping at her just because she dared to laugh.
And yes I have been in your situation with 2 toddlers.

I don’t think either of you are in the wrong.

I really don't think you were rude at all OP.

You were lying on the ground and searching for something under your car and you children were yelling. Doesn't sound like a funny situation to me, she was insensitive and rude imo.

I'm not surprised you responded in the way you did. In fact I think you were quite restrained under the circumstances; you didn't swear at her or tell her fuck off, which I think a lot of people would have done if someone laughed at them in that situation.

I wonder when she first saw you she thought that you had fallen and hurt yourself and reacted out of relief. Both for you and herself that you were not hurt and that she would not be trying to help you and keep two kids safe particularly if you need an ambulance etc.

This is why so many people don’t offer to help people anymore because people like you act like dicks and they wish they’d never bothered.

YABU but you obviously know that.

Unfair on the OP, seeing as we actually don’t know how the woman felt.

What do you think asking if you were OK is? If you had responded that you weren't OK and needed some help she probably would have offered it. No matter how stressed you were you were rude.

But the woman wasn't offering help.

She asked if OP was all right and when OP explained the situation she started laughing?

How is standing there laughing at someone in that situation offering help?