3.5 year old piercing

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Not my DC but what would you think if someone you knew had their Dc 3.5 years old ears pierced?

Not true. Many legit, reputable tattoo parlours that do piercings will pierce a baby’s ears from 3 months old. I’m in South London

@melj1213 The fact that your daughter thinks it’s normal is hardly anything to be proud of. Babies are perfect how they are, to make holes in their ears to decorate them, within a few days of birth and possibly introducing infection, is disgusting.

@MinnieTruck Yeah, they’re not reputable then.

To you

3.5 is way too young. I'd think the parents are idiots.

Exactly!

That's its grim and I've have told her as much. Another Claire's baby. It's never done for the child's benefit, she should take the criticism she rightly deserves.

My point was that for DD it was perfectly normal for her to have her ears pierced, it also wasn't a big deal if someone didn't have their ears pierced because it wasn't something anyone was judged for - it was a purely unremarkable fact that her ears were pierced in the same way that her eyes were blue (whilst other people's were green/brown) and her hair was blonde (whilst others had brown/black/red hair) .. Non of those things were something anyone judged anyone positively or negatively over, they were just her physical appearance.

Which was a direct contrast to the UK where DD was judged for having her ears pierced, there were constant questions and fuss made about the fact because in the UK the default is not to pierce a child's ears when they are young. DD didn't understand the fuss the other girls were making about getting their ears pierced because it was such an unremarkable thing for her, there was no novelty value to it in the same way as thee was for her classmates - she loves wearing earrings but they weren't the be all and end all to her appearance that some of the other girls treated them as.

But there is no moral failure for doing so, it should not be something people are judged for or branded tacky or chavvy for ... You might not like it but that doesn't make it wrong and it doesn't make it ok for people to make judgements of a child based on their appearance, including whether they have pierced ears or not.

To you

Not just to me, to anyone that thinks consent and not hurting children are important. If your bar is in hell, that’s your problem.

'if your bar is in hell'

it's all so predictably overwrought.

Obviously nothing to do with me and I would keep my opinion to myself.

But seeing as though you asked and we are anonymous. I really don't like it. I think it looks a tad chavvy and there should be an age limit of 10+

@melj1213 I don’t judge the children, I judge the parents. Just because you are brainwashed into thinking this is ok and brainwash you’re kids too, doesn’t make it ok. It’s not like eye or hair colour, did you actually say that. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Those things are natural. There’s nothing natural about piercing babies ears.

People go so over the top on this topic on MN that it’s embarrassing and I suspect much of it is performative for MN - people ‘questioning friendships with the parents’ FFS.

DC didn’t have theirs done until they were 10. However, if I ever see young children with them, I just double take as it’s unusual to see them on small kids these days. I’d assume it was cultural and get on with my day.

I would think she should have thought about other people’s reactions before she got them pierced. ( if the judgemental stares are bothering her ).
It’s a bit common but it’s not child abuse.

Chavvy I could just roll my eyes at that
but for me it more about them not being old enough to look after them properly and risk of them ripping them out

You have zero friends from cultural groups where this would be the norm? Really?

This is not what I would do as I think my ability to consent for my child relates to necessary medical procedures not cosmetic ones but it surprises me greatly to hear some don’t have any friends who do embrace this.

In many countries the pediatrician will do it for very young babies. Your culture is not the only one in the world, nor by default the correct one.

i wouldn’t say anything. However I don’t agree with it at all, it’s unnecessary pain and the child should be making its own decision about wether to pierce their body or not. Aged 7 or 8 would seem more appropriate. Mine weee given the decision aged 10

It's the norm here in Brazil. Very common to have it done in the hospital maybe one day after baby is born.

It's disgusting and of course I'd judge! Such an unnecessary procedure and infection risk in children - I can't believe people are excusing this in newborns because it's 'cultural'!!! I could barely sit through the heel prick test at 5 days old let alone watch someone pierce her ears for no other reason than everyone else does it. Foul.

For those saying it's none of your business, would you think the same if you saw them with a nose/eyebrow piercing?! Why is it so easy to swallow that a baby or child has their ears pieced but not any other part of the face?

This

Id cringe

shouldn't be done (or be allowed to be done) until older when the child can understand that it will hurt, help to clean them and still wants them done.
I don’t think earrings look good on children so young anyway.

There's a lot of things that are the "norm" in all kinds of cultures. That doesn't make it okay. I think a few people could do with remembering that that doesn't justify certain practices.

Ear piercing is so bizarre when you think about it - putting holes in your flesh so you can hang shiny baubles from them.

I'd judge the parents of a kid that young with pierced ears. The child could not have given informed consent. It's for the parents' benefit.