3.5 year old piercing

[Ireallydonotknow96]

Not my DC but what would you think if someone you knew had their Dc 3.5 years old ears pierced?

I wouldn't do it. My 4 year old (boy) who seems to be desperate to be a girl at the moment (ugh) begs me to get his ears pierced. No chance. Would likely feel the same if I had a girl.

I used to work in Clare's accessories and I was forced to pierce babies ears. As long as they had their red book filled in I was obliged to do it. And yes, I did try to protest but I was told I would lose my job. People would pin their screaming distraught babies, toddlers, and infants down and 16 year old me would have to pierce their ears with the cheapo blunt studs of cruelty with piercing guns that can't actually be sterilised properly. It was traumatic.

I had a good friend who was a proper body piercer, and while he only pierced adults his take was that if a child really wanted their ears pierced and could express that, then he would be okay with doing that. This was over 20 years ago - perhaps proper, sterile, licenced piercers are allowed to pierce children's ears with parental consent and respect of the child's right to change their mind.

I'm genuinely really sorry to hear you were forced to do that.

I remember a little girl at primary school getting her earring caught in her cardigan and ripping her earlobe. I get flashbacks every time I see a tiny child with piercings. Kids are so uncoordinated when getting dressed and undressed.

The piercer local to me who uses needles not a gun won’t pierce the ears of under 10s, with higher ages for eg belly button and 18 for intimate piercings.

But I wouldn’t comment on people who have young children’s ears pierced as not my business

Far too young IMO.

Youngest age should be 8.

I know sometimes it’s cultural but IMO it’s tacky and unnecessary until the children are able to make an informed choice. Which I don’t think they really can until 10 or so.

Chavvy

I would judge her heavily and question our friendship. I don't have friends who make such awful decisions regarding their small children.

mistermagpie
I agree with you. I also doubt whether the parents who are ok piercing young children's ears are going to be taking their children to reputable piercers. No reputable places I know pierce that young.

In real life I'd probably say nothing unless directly asked and would privately have my own thoughts.

If I’m really honest, perhaps a split second sad face from me in response to seeing it. I find it upsetting but obviously none of my business, and wouldn’t ever say anything to a friend or whatever.

Yeah I’m on the same page.

Not my business

She can feel people judging her because they are.

And as for the poster whose 4 and 5 years old begged for a year to get them done... well mine could beg all they like but they would never get their own way. FFS, they're 4 and 5 years old.

I would judge.

Yep, I'm also on the judgey side of the fence.
Taking a toddler to a disreputable place to forcibly make holes in them, so the parents can use them as fashion accessories.
Repulsive and idiotic.

I would absolutely judge and I'd question my friendship with that person.

Sadly I knew a woman who was praising the woman who peirced her infant daughters ears as "she will peirce anyone" I just though she must be an absolute idiot to think that was a good thing.

So you say no. You’re a parent.

I had to dig the back out of DD ear last week and she’s 12. Had then last year.

I wouldn't think anything to be honest. But with my own DD I waited until she was absolutely sure she wanted it. She had them done at 8 years old.
I'll follow this method with my second DD as they are our girls and we want them to make that choice themselves.

That doesn't mean I think others are wrong it's a decision they make for their children.

Yes I'd judge, it's a horrible thing to do to a child.

Honestly? I’d think it was vile and would judge the parent. Children cannot consent to body modification.

Chavvy, unnecessary and an invasion of that child’s bodily autonomy.

Tacky, chavvy and vile.
Someone I know had all her children’s ears pierced as babies and as soon as they were healed they wore gold hoops. A child under 1 with big gold hoops hanging off her ear lobes.
If a child can’t consent, it’s child abuse, pure and simple.

I wouldn't be wildly impressed.
When my 12 year old had their ears pierced, they were asked if they consented. It was explained what would happen and how the piercing would feel, and asked to confirm that they wanted to proceed.