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3.5 year old piercing

133 replies

Ireallydonotknow96 · 05/08/2023 21:34

Not my DC but what would you think if someone you knew had their Dc 3.5 years old ears pierced?

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JMSA · 05/08/2023 23:01

Desdemonadryeyes · 05/08/2023 21:37

Child abuse. But I’m a cantankerous judgy old cow.

At least you're being honest, unlike many on here.

I think it's tacky and unnecessary.

Wishfulthinking1977 · 05/08/2023 23:03

My daughters friend has just had her 4 month olds ears pierced. She asked my opinion and I said a decent piercer wouldn't do it and I personally consider it child abuse. My opinion only! Mine I waited until they chose! One has more piercings than orifices the other just ears l.

rockpoolingtogether · 05/08/2023 23:04

White - bit tacky
Asian heritage- part of the culture

Deadringer · 05/08/2023 23:04

I wouldn't care. But a few years ago I was talking to another mum and her 12 month old baby had his ear pierced, she told me that he wanted it done, so I was a bit 🙄at that.

rockpoolingtogether · 05/08/2023 23:05

Sunnysal · 05/08/2023 21:41

It's done to new borns here in Spain so perfectly normal. They do it in the ward at the hospital

Woah! And you can't even get you baby's tongue tie snipped here easily

PromSeason · 05/08/2023 23:07

I’d think they were shit parents. Happy to be judgemental on things like this.

CapEBarra · 05/08/2023 23:11

It’s tacky as hell. It’s ugly as hell on a little one too.

Dunnoburt · 05/08/2023 23:12

My child (7dd) won't be getting any piercings until she wants them. I don't judge others who have them though.... it doesnt affect my life!

Doggytastic · 05/08/2023 23:25

Personally I waited until my children asked. My daughter was 10 so I agreed. I would never have insisted she get her ears pierced or got them done without her agreement.

Wsmi · 05/08/2023 23:46

We live in a society where pre teens going on hormone blockers and children being multilated by in the name of progressiveness. But a 3.5 year old getting ears pierced is worthy of debate.

The world has well and truly gone mad.

AliTheMinx · 06/08/2023 00:11

Ghastly and unnecessary...

AdobeWanKenobi · 06/08/2023 00:20

I’d judge if you’d said your kid had a gun piercing more than a proper needlepiercer. But I wouldn’t particularly notice.

I walked past Claire’s yesterday. They were giving out sparkly blue and gold crowns that proclaimed “I got pierced at Claire’s today”. No words for that one really.

PromSeason · 06/08/2023 00:23

We live in a society where pre teens going on hormone blockers and children being multilated by in the name of progressiveness. But a 3.5 year old getting ears pierced is worthy of debate.

The world has well and truly gone mad.

Do you not realise that more than one thing can be wrong at any time?

Testina · 06/08/2023 00:27

I wouldn’t say a word, but it I’d think the parent was trash. Are you planning to share with your friend that she’s not imagining the judgemental looks?

kwetu · 06/08/2023 00:36

If you pierced the ears of your pet you'd be done for animal cruelty, I think that a child needs to be old enough to make an educated decision for themselves. To my mind Under 5's are definitely too young.

Willyoujustbequiet · 06/08/2023 00:43

alszq · 05/08/2023 21:44

I'd judge them, piercing an unnecessary hole in your child is gross.

This.

It's for the parents vanity and not in the child's best interests. Pretty shitty really.

toomuchlaundry · 06/08/2023 01:31

Why do Spanish families think it is necessary? Do any say no?

I think it is awful. Until a child can consent it shouldn’t be done. We wouldn’t force an adult to have them done so why make a baby have them

curaçao · 06/08/2023 01:39

TweetyMcTweetFace · 05/08/2023 21:59

Yeah I judge this. I think when they can make a proper decision, understand it will hurt and how to care for the piercing, then they're old enough.

I didn't get mine done until I was 25 and I hated it! So bloody painful. Everyone told me it doesn't hurt. It does!

I didn't feel it at all!

HRTQueen · 06/08/2023 02:15

I had my ears pierced at 3 I remember it clearly and choosing the earrings

if I had a dd I would probably get her pierced is she wanted around 4/5

i think it looks cute

HRTQueen · 06/08/2023 02:15

And no I wouldn’t judge

RitzyMcFitzy · 06/08/2023 02:17

I'd think 'oh this will bring out all the 'my child won't be allowed have her ears pierced until she's 16' MN types.

HRTQueen · 06/08/2023 02:19

rockpoolingtogether · 05/08/2023 23:04

White - bit tacky
Asian heritage- part of the culture

its culture in some white communities too

RitzyMcFitzy · 06/08/2023 02:30

MBailey99 · 05/08/2023 22:02

I wouldn't do it. My 4 year old (boy) who seems to be desperate to be a girl at the moment (ugh) begs me to get his ears pierced. No chance. Would likely feel the same if I had a girl.

Why the 'ugh'? In MN days of yore that would have been met with an unbothered shrug. Kids have always said such things. But it's 2023 and you're clearly worried that your 4 year old is a woke warrior.

PromSeason · 06/08/2023 02:41

@HRTQueen 3 year olds tend to look ‘cute’ without needing the earrings to achieve it. I also wouldn’t want to teach my kids that looking cute is important.

melj1213 · 06/08/2023 02:47

DD was born in Spain, hers were done before we even left the hospital ... Perfectly normal and DD has never had any issues with her earrings - they were always an appropriate size for her, no massive gold hoops on a toddler, and there were never any issues with them getting caught/causing injury etc - and as every other little girl in her class had them too it was nothing special or out of the ordinary so nobody was bothered about them except if someone got some fancy earrings as a gift for a birthday/communion etc and was showing them off to everyone.

It was only when we moved back to the UK at the end of primary that her having her ears pierced was a big deal - so many girls in her class commented on it as they didn't have theirs done, wanted them doing and were jealous of DD having hers done etc whereas for her it wasn't a big deal and she didn't understand why it was being hyped up so much.