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Original poster

New BF going to party

51 replies

Meow97 · 05/08/2023 18:14

My BF is going to a party tonight. I haven’t been with him very long but for some reason I’m worried about what might happen. Aibu)

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Luxell934 · 05/08/2023 18:16

Worried about what? Do you not normally let him leave the house unsupervised?

lunar1 · 05/08/2023 18:20

Does he normally have a carer or support worker with him?

HaddawayAndShite · 05/08/2023 18:22

If you’re worried? Either he has form for cheating so you don’t trust him, in which case he needs binning. Or you have massive jealously and trust issues and should bin him anyway and work on that before being in a relationship.

SleepingStandingUp · 05/08/2023 18:22

Honestly op if you can't trust yourself to not chest on him one night he's not with you, it doesn't sound like a good relationship. If you're commited to him, it should be easy to say no if any man talks to you or looks at you. Have more faith in yourself

Comedycook · 05/08/2023 18:23

Yabu

MadCatten · 05/08/2023 18:23

YABU.

PinkiOcelot · 05/08/2023 18:25

If you don’t trust him, you don’t have a relationship really. Do you think he’s going to cheat?

pictoosh · 05/08/2023 18:25

Yabu. Is he to never venture anywhere alone now that he is with you? You can't get like this every time he goes somewhere.

ZekeZeke · 05/08/2023 18:25

How old are you? 12?

greydressinggownofdoom · 05/08/2023 18:27

Why are you worried?

Womencanlift · 05/08/2023 18:27

If it is down to your jealousy then of course YABVU and maybe you should back away from a relationship until you sort that out. It’s not an attractive quality and not fair on your BF

Original poster
Meow97 · 05/08/2023 18:38

Sorry should have added context. I found out he was messaging other girls before now so just worried

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determinedtomakethiswork · 05/08/2023 18:38

Did he ask you to go to the party with him? If not, I would be worried as well.

Youdoyoutoday · 05/08/2023 18:40

Meow97 · 05/08/2023 18:38

Sorry should have added context. I found out he was messaging other girls before now so just worried

Then up your standards!

You're worried because he's a dick and shown that he has no respect for you because he messaged other girls.

Dump him, move on and find someone better!

WhateverMate · 05/08/2023 18:41

If he was messaging other women when he was with you and this has made you not trust him, your relationship will never work.

Even if he spent too long at the supermarket you'd end up worried.

Marwoodsbigbreak · 05/08/2023 18:42

Meow97 · 05/08/2023 18:38

Sorry should have added context. I found out he was messaging other girls before now so just worried

Why didn’t you dump him?

He isn’t trustworthy so what’s the point?

FizzyFucker · 05/08/2023 18:45

Why do you want to be with someone who has already tried to cheat on you?

midsomermurderess · 05/08/2023 18:46

Passive aggression straight out of the traps.

TheShellBeach · 05/08/2023 18:47

Well why are you still with him, then?

PackettInn · 05/08/2023 18:49

Lol dripfeed

Annasgirl · 05/08/2023 18:51

lunar1 · 05/08/2023 18:20

Does he normally have a carer or support worker with him?

😂😂😂😂 you win the internet today.

PoliticallyIncorrectHitchling · 05/08/2023 18:53

Read a book and focus on yourself.

Pinkitydrinkity · 05/08/2023 18:54

How long is not very long? I’d get rid to be honest, cba with that behaviour!

Original poster
Meow97 · 05/08/2023 18:55

No he didn’t ask me but I know other girlfriends are going

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grunttheterrible · 05/08/2023 18:57

SleepingStandingUp · 05/08/2023 18:22

Honestly op if you can't trust yourself to not chest on him one night he's not with you, it doesn't sound like a good relationship. If you're commited to him, it should be easy to say no if any man talks to you or looks at you. Have more faith in yourself

Absolutely this! ❤️ @SleepingStandingUp has just won the internet for me today