How often do you get chatted up

[cinnamondyl]

How often do you get chatted up, glanced at, asked out etc. Feel like I'm becoming invisible...

Never. Fine by me!

4 times. I’m 47.
I mean, glanced at? No idea.

Never, and that suits me fine. Blessed relief compared to the days when I thought a night out was a failure if I didn't get a couple of offers!

Never, or if I have I've been oblivious to it.

Never. Not even a look anymore. I am a bit sad about it. Basically it's because I'm now fat.

More than I realise according to DP. As I am apparently oblivious! I'm early 50s so am frankly amazed if anyone shows interest

When I was young - a lot. Now I’m in my 40s, married and never go ‘out out’ it’s absolutely never. I miss it.

Never in my life. I've been fat since i was about 7/8, and carry it badly on my face and stomach, was always the biggest in my class at school etc. Binge eating disorder, ptsd, ocd etc have meant ive lived a very agoraphobic life so dont go out much, and then its not without my dad who is my registered carer due to my MH issues. Physically got all the workings and desired of a "normal" person, but have always been told im ugly, disgusting and unable to be wanted/loved. A few months shy of 34 and never even been properly kissed even once, it's depressing.

Infrequently. I had someone say he misses me when I'm not there recently and couldn't work out if he was flirting or not.

My (very beautiful) best friend is constantly getting glanced at, chatted up and asked on dates. She's just moved house and has been asked out by 2 workmen this week! We are both single mums and this made me feel really sad. She was saying how annoying it is and I felt secretly jealous, nobody even looks twice at me.

Thankfully never

Hardly ever, but it comes as a relief. I'm 42 and wear a wedding ring and never go to bars etc so there's not the opportunity, unless someone wants to chat me up at choir or Sainsbury's 😁😄

It must partly depend on the signals that the woman is giving off, being read/understood as open and available. I always have a frown on my face when male strangers approach so they back off!!

Pretty much never now that I’ve put on weight after kids. Used to be all the time. It did happen recently which shocked me but now I find it’s older men like 10+ years older that try it on the odd occasion it’s happened rather than men my own age or younger.

Does dh count?? If so at least 3 times a week 🤣

By random men when I'm out and about? Not much since my early 20s. But when I'm out I'm the person that ends up laughing at the bar with random people, I wouldn't count that as being hit on or flirted with because it's just conversation and I've never been propositioned from it...

Not as much as when I was younger. I’m very tall and short men absolutely love me. Started a new job recently and been chatted up twice already by the token shorties.

im very happily married to a tall man 🤣

ps I think it’s actually about confidence. I too have a very slim beautiful friend but also a very curvy friend, both totally happy and confident in their own skin and they get chatted up all the time!

Unfortunately I have an accent which people seem to find attractive and I work on the phone. So I get all manner of weird and wonderful sex pests sexpesting me in work.

In real life, the last person who flirted with me outside of STBXH was a bloke in work over a decade ago before I was pregnant.

I think it definitely is a confidence thing too. My bestie is very confident and also very chatty and good at conversation, asks people questions etc. I'm naturally shy. However, I'm also average looking at best and she's 5'10, slim, big boobs, great hair and a beautiful face! I'm sure that helps. Would love to spend a day in her shoes, just to know what the attention feels like.

Once in my whole life, and that wasn't even my dh as I asked him out! I've always been invisible! I don't know why as I think I look alright!

I'm 47 and single. I work in an environment with lots of young (twenties) men. I think about 50 % of them have asked me out. Unbeknownst to each other. They know I'm single and love being single and they can't seem to handle that. I'm about averagely attractive.

More now than ever, in my late forties! Because I'm not overweight- as I was for most of my 20s, 30s, early 40s- any more.

All the time. It's annoying and exhausting. it's not something I enjoy.

I went shopping with my mum today and and sat on a bench outside while she went in to a gift shop. Two different men approached around 5 mins apart and I felt so uncomfortable that I just walked away and went in to the shop to wait for her.

Never.

I also don’t understand where mumsnetters went/go to get chatted up.

Mid 30s. Barely go out out - busy with the kids, its not my thing, the people out out are usually either older men, married, stays or too young for me to look at.

So keep that in mind: you might not be the demographic for chatting up.

If I fancy a flirt then it gets reciprocated.

Eyed up - only if I am properly dolled up (usually weddings or work events). Keep in mind those men are usually older so not all that flattering.

Basically, most men want young and pretty, which means that the amount of men I enjoy flirting with me is very limited.

Men that stare with no ounce of charisma are grim. Even worse are the ones that talk to your tits while boring you with what they obviously consider scintillating conversation and mentally patting themselves on the back for their fantastic skills.

I don’t get asked out as I’m always with my kids so I fully expect most men would assume I’m with someone. Glanced at enough - I’d say sometimes quite a lot, other times not really. I do have a feature that’s quite remarkable though so I think it’s probably more to do with that.