How often do you get chatted up

[cinnamondyl]

How often do you get chatted up, glanced at, asked out etc. Feel like I'm becoming invisible...

Hardly ever. Separated from h 9 years ago. Had a few conversations that I thought were going the wrong way and shut down very quickly. Other than that, nothing.
Partly me though as I've never bothered going out or actively looking for anything. I think I've been on my own too long now to even contemplate or imagine someone using the same bathroom, smelly socks on the floor or sharing a bed with a farter or snorer. It would drive me insane.

Fairly often but I don't like it I hate the feeling of eyes on me it makes me very uncomfortable due to past sexual harassment in clubs etc. Also means people often speak to me in a patronising manner like I'm stupid because I'm 'pretty and young'. Also find women can be quite mean and standoffish towards me when they don't know me. One of my friends said she initially thought I was 'stuck up bitch' because of how I look but realised actually I'm quite nice and funny! Honestly I know people roll their eyes at the thought of pretty being a burden but I want people to appreciate me for my personality, intelligence not how I look, that's where my value lies, looks change but your personality doesn't!

Could probably count on one hand

Certainly not now I am pushing 70! But even when young and in my prime, only rarely. I could never figure out what was 'wrong' with me! I just think I was shy and tended to be preferred as a friend rather than anything romantic.

I was chatted up in the queue for the first wave shingles vaccination..You're never too old...

These days I permanently have a pram in front of me when I go out and that puts off a lot of people and I'm not as slim as before I had kids. I had a Kim kardashian body without trying or surgery... I had fairly good fashion sense too and I had more time on my 🙌 hands to notice and yes when I dressed up nicely with makeup I did get some looks etc - don't really care much nowadays as I have my kids and partner who complete me and in hindsight I wasted time with utter losers because of so called chatting up/flirting.

I’m fat and always have been, and still get chatted up. It’s nothing to do with size.

creepy guy at work told me the other day with a wistful look in his eyes that ‘I had something playful about me and he really liked it’ 🤢 Then went on to tell me about his failing sex life with his girlfriend. Grim.

Once in the last God knows how long by a guy at work who knew I was single, and so was he. It was a slow chatting up that got to him almost asking me out, then covid hit. We eventually did hook up for a few months earlier this year, which was nice. I don’t think anyone else has chatted me up in the last 20yrs, but then I don’t go to bars etc, more restaurants with friends so not an opportunity really. Which suits me fine! Dreams of rich city man approaching me in a bar to ask if I fancy a weekend in Paris no expense spared, have to stay in my dreams!

Rarely and only by men I wouldn’t touch with yours.

Hardly ever but I married quite young so don't really pay much attention.

Ha, ha. Three times in my whole life, all when I was under the age of 30. The first time it happened, I thought it was a joke because I was only used to men making fun of how unattractive I was. The last one, I married.

It’s funny how it’s either “never” or “all the time”. I’m in the never camp, and I’ve been single as an adult and receptive to advances, so I don’t think it’s being oblivious to it.

Never (knowingly). I’m slim and would consider myself attractive if that’s relevant. I must just give off a vibe (which is fine by me about cos who wants to be chatted up by a random man??). We used to laugh about this at work - in a customer-facing job with several attractive women in their 20s and 30s some never got any attention at all and some got loads. I think it’s about more than looks.

Very rarely and that’s always the case even when I was younger. Once had a man literally climb over me to go and chat to my cousin at a family wedding, not even an excuse me.

Never. But I don't work with men or have a social life and I mostly go to gym classes.
I was asked out about a decade ago by a chap in the same office building which was sweet (didn't meet him though, lone parent).

Last time was when I was about 40, and he was about 75 😂🙄

Ha!

I'm usually out with my child now which I think is a thankful barrier. I am 40 and don't get shouted at from passing cars anymore which is wonderful!

Generally I can’t tell if I’m being chatted up unless the person is very direct, but I’ve recently realised I’ve probably got more ASD traits than I dare admit to. I’ve had a few looks when wearing any top that isn’t fully high necked and loose, one of the many crap sides of having a larger chest. It doesn’t make me feel good and I’ve spent years wearing baggy hoodies to avoid it. I’ve rarely been looked at in passing, I wasn’t a ‘looker’ in my youth and now I’m steamrolling towards my 40s looking permanently exhausted. My ex still tries it on though, I don’t have the time nor patience for it.

My sister is stunningly beautiful (got the best parts of parents genetics) and often had men throwing themselves at her. Including all my male friends which was hurtful in a very stupid way. They should have been embarrassed by the way they treated her not me wishing I was seen that way.

😂If I told you, you'd never believe me.