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To not be happy with DD going on this holiday?

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FrenchBullFrog · 02/08/2023 19:35

Last week my mum and dad took DD out for the day. She’d been asking to see a real castle so they took her to one. I think DD actually had in mind unicorns and princesses rather than a medieval fortress but that’s by the by

Anyway they got back and my mum said she’d had a lovely time and sent me some photos … some were lovely, DD standing in the grounds with the castle behind her, playing in the woods, posing with a cannon etc but some were a bit not quite right … for example DD peering her head into an iron maiden, DD stood looking concerned at a life size figure of a man being pulled apart on a rack etc!!!

I didn’t say anything but I asked DD if she knew what those things were and she said grandad had told her they were for naughty people.

To the point now … they want to take her back for Halloween and stay there for three nights. I’ve read up on it and it has the most awful history and is supposed to be crazy haunted. I know most on here don’t believe in ghosts but I do so it’s a concern for me.

DD has since asked me why the man on the table was crying and why the children were put in the naughty barrel!! I’ve told her it’s all just make believe but I can’t believe they showed her all that! And then to actually tell her what it was?!

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backtogrey · 03/08/2023 22:18

truthhurts23 · 03/08/2023 06:18

I would listen to your gut, you're her mother, your instinct is to protect her,

so if your gut is telling you no, listen to yourself

those castles carry a lot of bad residual energy,
so many gruesome things happened there, it is a negatively charged environment
sometimes there can be spirits that will attach themselves to people, especially children who are innocent

if you do end up letting her go , say a prayer of protection over her, ask God to watch over and she will be protected

😂

BigLicks · 03/08/2023 22:53

We used to love going to Chillingham for the Halloween events.
I remember one year a brass band playing 'Thriller' on the green...very atmospheric.

Carouselfish · 03/08/2023 22:57

That is weird. Also quite weird for GPs to being taking a three year old on holiday without primary carer. She's too young to understand time so 'back to mum in three sleeps' for example will mean absolutely nothing to her.

Hawkins009 · 03/08/2023 23:08

Vettrianofan · 03/08/2023 19:32

It beats sitting on an iPad watching cartoons what many kids will be doing. I say go for it. She will have a lovely time at the seaside.

Exactly

Carouselfish · 03/08/2023 23:09

Oh wow, I just looked at their website and discovered they are the very castle Eva Ibbotson's The Beasts of Clawstone Castle was based on that I've just finished reading with DD8! Thanks for the inadvertent tip, OP!

truthhurts23 · 04/08/2023 06:06

backtogrey · 03/08/2023 22:18

😂

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you find it funny because you don’t understand what I’m saying

JenWillsiam · 04/08/2023 08:57

Telling her it was made up was ridiculous. She’s 3. You lied.

You are projecting your fears into her.

RoyalImpatience · 04/08/2023 09:00

I thought it would he Warwick Castle which does have princess tower and a fluffy side and a very clearly age marked darker side also.

She probably doesn't quite understand the true extent of the horror but it's not something I would want my dc exposed too.

bulletproof1979 · 04/08/2023 09:24

Something like 120 billion peolr have lived and died before us, at least.

If ghosts are real everywhere on Earth must be crawling with them, meaning they could get you anywhere.

So relax and let your daughter enjoy.

JenWillsiam · 04/08/2023 10:10

Cerealkillerontheloose · 03/08/2023 17:35

I might get absolutely thrown to the wolves with this comment. But I don’t understand why people tell children things in real life are make believe?!? Because she’ll grow up and learn that you lied and it’s true and I also think those people who went through those horrors, that were almost putting to shame their life!

it’s by the by and I’m sorry but I truly belief that we should tell our children what some people have gone through.

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You’re right. It’s ridiculous.

Beexxxx · 04/08/2023 12:07
  1. I wanna go where is this 😂
  2. I did a project on medieval times in year 7 (so about 12 I think?) and focused wayyy to much on torture. But since your kid is 3 that’s totally beside the point however it was a bit of an insight into my mums possible reaction when faced with my very detailed drawings copied from the history book she got me for Christmas 😂 (plagiary be damned we only knew not to copy past from wiki at that point 😂😂)
  3. she’s 3 😂 she’s seen everything she needs to see of she spooky stuff surely they’d prefer to take her to a pumpkin patch or a maize? Or both! It sounds like grandparents are a bit spooky and excited to share their love for spooky with dd but maybe they can give her a couple more years 😂 it shouldn’t be long my partners daughter loves to chase me in a crab walk or “talk to slender man” cuz she gets a reaction out of me 😂 (she’s fine I’m easily jumpy and give her the reaction she wants it’s all good fun she’s just a little bugger 😂)

anyway sorry about the word vomit adhd meds kicked in as I opened the comment and I haven’t had them in 2 weeks 😂

Cocolebombom · 04/08/2023 13:25

You're not being unreasonable. I don't understand the fascination at these historical places with gore. It's upsetting at my age. It's still happening around the world. There's no need to be tacky about it and recreate scenes like it's a bit of fun when kids as young as three are around. We've stopped going to our local castle because of the new wax works. History is interesting albeit disturbing but it's so tacky to recreate these weird scenes. It's not appropriate. Your parents are behaving oddly for not appreciating that, is it an age thing where they've forgotten what's age appropriate for kids as they've gotten into grandparent phase? Also in terms of ghosts- what they're staying in the actual castle at Halloween? My first concern is the fact that at this time of year they will be even more focused on recreating creepy scenes which won't be appropriate for a 3yo and you keep her being sensitive, there's already too many people without empathy.

Cocolebombom · 04/08/2023 13:42

Yes the news is disturbing and not really age appropriate for a three year old unless they are particularly stupid and it just washes over their head. How do you explain rape? And 10month old babies being tortured to death? And grown men killed with swords at a local housing estate? Just a couple of things in the local news this afternoon that I'm certainly not explaining to my toddler.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 17/08/2023 19:59

Is it Bodmin jail? 😬

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