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To not be happy with DD going on this holiday?

114 replies

FrenchBullFrog · 02/08/2023 19:35

Last week my mum and dad took DD out for the day. She’d been asking to see a real castle so they took her to one. I think DD actually had in mind unicorns and princesses rather than a medieval fortress but that’s by the by

Anyway they got back and my mum said she’d had a lovely time and sent me some photos … some were lovely, DD standing in the grounds with the castle behind her, playing in the woods, posing with a cannon etc but some were a bit not quite right … for example DD peering her head into an iron maiden, DD stood looking concerned at a life size figure of a man being pulled apart on a rack etc!!!

I didn’t say anything but I asked DD if she knew what those things were and she said grandad had told her they were for naughty people.

To the point now … they want to take her back for Halloween and stay there for three nights. I’ve read up on it and it has the most awful history and is supposed to be crazy haunted. I know most on here don’t believe in ghosts but I do so it’s a concern for me.

DD has since asked me why the man on the table was crying and why the children were put in the naughty barrel!! I’ve told her it’s all just make believe but I can’t believe they showed her all that! And then to actually tell her what it was?!

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FrenchBullFrog · 03/08/2023 14:11

Thanks everyone, my parents have already booked to stay there at Halloween (they go every year) but can take extra people as the apartments are massive apparently.

The iron maiden was never used in real life so that IS make believe.

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Hibiscrubbed · 03/08/2023 14:26

seafronty · 03/08/2023 09:02

Ghosts aren't real. If they are, where are all the modern ghosts, cutting about in shellsuits and boden sandals?

Such a good point. You don’t hear of any swaggering about in corduroy flares.

ShiteRider · 03/08/2023 14:28

You’d hear that weird noise they make when your thighs rub together before you’d see them. Spooky.

Hibiscrubbed · 03/08/2023 14:29

FrenchBullFrog · 03/08/2023 14:11

Thanks everyone, my parents have already booked to stay there at Halloween (they go every year) but can take extra people as the apartments are massive apparently.

The iron maiden was never used in real life so that IS make believe.

Becoming a bit clearer why you have certain belief systems, OP.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 03/08/2023 14:30

MrsSkylerWhite · 02/08/2023 20:00

Yes, too young (for holiday without mum/dad/primary carer too, I think).

I don't think a Mum who believes in ghosts would be a suitably reassuring presence in this case.

StartingSober · 03/08/2023 15:33

Tell your parents they can take me instead!

diamondpony80 · 03/08/2023 16:14

3? FS I thought you were going to say 8 or 9! Of course that's too young.

Imanalias · 03/08/2023 16:38

I'd say 3 was too young for things that are gory/scary. However when my DC was 7/8/9 they'd have loved rhis sort of thing. We went to a castle when they were that sort of age and there were several other kids all asking "can I get in the gibbet now?"

ArmWrestlingWithChasNDave · 03/08/2023 17:24

I know most on here don’t believe in ghosts but I do so it’s a concern for me.

Oh ffs. Let sensible adults spend as much time with her as possible.

Cerealkillerontheloose · 03/08/2023 17:35

FrenchBullFrog · 02/08/2023 19:35

Last week my mum and dad took DD out for the day. She’d been asking to see a real castle so they took her to one. I think DD actually had in mind unicorns and princesses rather than a medieval fortress but that’s by the by

Anyway they got back and my mum said she’d had a lovely time and sent me some photos … some were lovely, DD standing in the grounds with the castle behind her, playing in the woods, posing with a cannon etc but some were a bit not quite right … for example DD peering her head into an iron maiden, DD stood looking concerned at a life size figure of a man being pulled apart on a rack etc!!!

I didn’t say anything but I asked DD if she knew what those things were and she said grandad had told her they were for naughty people.

To the point now … they want to take her back for Halloween and stay there for three nights. I’ve read up on it and it has the most awful history and is supposed to be crazy haunted. I know most on here don’t believe in ghosts but I do so it’s a concern for me.

DD has since asked me why the man on the table was crying and why the children were put in the naughty barrel!! I’ve told her it’s all just make believe but I can’t believe they showed her all that! And then to actually tell her what it was?!

I might get absolutely thrown to the wolves with this comment. But I don’t understand why people tell children things in real life are make believe?!? Because she’ll grow up and learn that you lied and it’s true and I also think those people who went through those horrors, that were almost putting to shame their life!

it’s by the by and I’m sorry but I truly belief that we should tell our children what some people have gone through.

Spinninggyro · 03/08/2023 17:44

I think Halloween should involve dressing up and trick or treating at friends houses or maybe a party at home. Organised events with lots of teens/adults is too much for a 3 year old

Nanny0gg · 03/08/2023 18:47

FrenchBullFrog · 02/08/2023 19:39

She’s 3 and a very sensitive child

3? They're batshit!

Didiplanthis · 03/08/2023 19:08

People are very scathing on here of 'sensitive children'... my kids are quite honestly pathetic, and I do despair slightly at some of the crap they are scared of, but I've never enjoyed horror, images get stuck in my mind and I can never seem to clear them, they surface many many years later and bother me. I don't think forcibly exposing my children to stuff I KNOW will scare them is helpful or kind. They are ND, as am I, so they are emotionally several years delayed and they process things differently, but my 11 and 13yr olds wouldn't cope with that sort of stuff.. and I'm OK with that .. I wouldn't say I'm particularly soft on them and have myself seen pretty awful stuff through work, but see no need to glorify horror and fear. Fine if you like it, but it's OK not to... I'm no snowflake and I don't.

RattleRattle · 03/08/2023 19:13

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crostini · 03/08/2023 19:22

Chillingham is haunted. I went there when I was around 4 and remember it so clearly!

WhatNoRaisins · 03/08/2023 19:25

I don't know what other sensitive behaviour this 3 year old child displays but I wouldn't consider her being upset by that sort of thing an example of it at all. Sounds like a normal 3 year old.

Goingwild · 03/08/2023 19:29

Definitely not being unreasonable. I went there as a fully grown adult, granted on a ghost tour, and vowed I would never go back as it was super scary!! Are the grandparents not from around here? Much less scary castles and more child friendly like Alnwick! My 3 year old loves that one! 😂

Vettrianofan · 03/08/2023 19:29

Hawkins009 · 02/08/2023 19:43

At least she's learning history.

Well, there's that...

Vettrianofan · 03/08/2023 19:32

It beats sitting on an iPad watching cartoons what many kids will be doing. I say go for it. She will have a lovely time at the seaside.

surreygirl1987 · 03/08/2023 20:26

3?!?!?! Omg no way! I thought you were going to say 10 or 11! Wow, not a chance.

whynotwhatknot · 03/08/2023 20:34

not to stay no and especially halloween theyre not going to cater for toddlers

caringcarer · 03/08/2023 20:44

I'd say yes to the seaside break, but no to spooky castle at Halloween.

caringcarer · 03/08/2023 20:48

My Auntie took me away on holiday when I was 3 for 2 weeks in the summer holidays. My Mum was heavily pregnant and had high blood pressure and was taken into hospital and her waters broken. My baby sister was born whilst I was on holiday. I came back and found a baby sister. I had a lovely time and didn't really want to go home.

WingingItSince1973 · 03/08/2023 21:13

Absolutely not at that age. I was a little girl when took somewhere like that and it terrified me for years after. I know not every kid is like that but 3 years old is way to young for that sort of entertainment.

autienotnaughti · 03/08/2023 22:08

Definitely a no

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