AIBU that stat of 49% of women climax every time can’t be right?

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Just read this DM article… AIBU that stat that the most unsatisfied women still report 49% climax every time must be a skewed sample?

I don’t have any issues alone but have never climaxed through PIV with any partner… I can’t be that unusual?

YABU- I climax more often than not
YANBU- i climax less that 49% of the time

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12354441/Want-longer-orgasms-Peak-District-women-Sheffield-climax-15-5-seconds-wary-Belfast-thats-youre-likely-left-unsatisfied.html

I always make sure I do but I don't think I've ever climaxed through PIV alone in my entire life.

That's what I thought! 😂

Hmmm, if it's talking 'sexual encounter' I'd say that number was very low and way off....or I'd like to think so. Surely most women orgasm most times (and sometimes more than once). Now if you're talking solely PIV sex with no cliteral stimulation or 'recent' warm up orgasm, then I'd say the number is high.

Not often through PIV alone, but I consider sex with DH to include foreplay etc which always includes oral and often a vibrator. So if I include that then I do 99% of the time.

“but I feel like maybe I’ve conditioned myself to a very specific clitoris centric way to climax and it’s hard to reach with a partner. Would love some kind of sex coaching or something because I’m sure part of it is psychological”

I can really relate to this OP! I’d give anything to climax from PIV alone. I can’t even get myself off without a vibrator. DH is very accommodating but I know it makes him feel inadequate not being able to do it for me without a toy (and he sometimes tries for hours 😅) it’s deffo a me problem and not him. I enjoy everything he does and he’s very attentive but I almost feel I’ve desensitised myself down there from using strong vibrations all the time. But I also wonder if it’s partly psychological and it’s just me telling myself I can’t come any other way.
Especially as I did once climax a few years ago from PIV with same DH in the middle of
the night when extremely sleepy and relaxed. So technically it is possible for me 🤷🏼‍♀️

Majority climax PIV. 🍆

Only time i don't get there through piv is if I'm really, really tired or right at the end of my cycle as my period is due.

Mid cycle around ovulation i get almost an ache around the vagina, and external orgasm just does not do it for me, leaves me unsatisfied.

I love that the percentages of yabu to yanbu are 49 and 51 😁 (at the moment anyway lol)

I almost feel I’ve desensitised myself down there from using strong vibrations all the time.

No offence but isn't this kind of like a female equivalent of men who masturbate to porn all the time & aren't turned on by normal sex? Maybe stop masturbating all the time & let your body recover.

I don't use any of that stuff. If i want sex that's what DH is for!!

I don't like the pressure of trying to do it with a partner. I worry that they'll get bored. Much prefer to climax alone.

Can't say I'm dissatisfied at all. And in my case, it's nothing to do with an unwilling partner.

Ha, funny that the vote is actually at exactly 49%

Yep ☝️

Sorry when I said “all the time” I meant every time that I climax (mostly with DH during sex)

Not that I masturbate all the time like a sex addict 😂😂

Honestly we've got young kids and I'm so paranoid about them waking up that I don't want to be messing around, but these comments make me feel like I'm letting the side down. 🤣

I do — PiV plus clitoral stimulation, works like a charm. 👍🏻

If you think you've desensitised yourself, surely the answer is to stop using the vibrators for a while and give yourself a chance to get used to different stimulation. It'd be frustrating for a while, sure, but potentially worth it.

I never have from PIV or from oral or using a hand. Only a vibrator works on me. Makes me feel sad and broken. Also makes me not ever desire sex as I don't really see the point.

Reading this thread makes me feel very lucky as I 99% come from PIV and sometimes multiple from PIV only or foreplay.

Does depend on the partner though, I have had a couple that haven't been so great, too selfish or too excited and don't last then just stop. I get very irritable if I don't orgasm so if they didn't satisfy me it couldn't last.

Yes possibly although I spent 15 years of my active sex life not climaxing so it would be tough to go back to that to be honest and I’m not sure how simple it would be 🤷🏼‍♀️ possibly worth a try though.

I'm baffled by people timing their orgasms.
Visions of people going...oooh, oooh, oooooh..1234567. Hmm, I'll try for 10 next time.

And anyway, a quick Google suggests that actually it’s a myth that you can “desensitise” yourself by using vibrators. You just become accustomed to a certain “way” to climax. In the same way most people do with or without a sex toy anyway I’d imagine.

I’ve given up having sex my with OH, he’s never managed to get me over the finish line and never put that much effort into it. He’s a wonderful man, but just never applied himself to pleasing me in the bedroom 😔

Probably tmi so sorry but switch to a pillow for a while lmao. Obviously wear jammies (or wash it, whatever) but that's basically the way to do it to have a g-spot piv orgasm (and they are the earth shattering / seeing stars ones imho).

Except you trade the pillow for a man with a peen .

I know it says vibrations are a myth but I just don't believe this. If DP has been away and I've been at the vibrator too much I lose the ability to orgasm with him until I've "desensitised" myself. I don't even know how they'd go about proving that's a myth, and how it can be true for men but a myth for women...

Never orgasmed with my first partner. Second who is now my DH I regularly do and always from PIV! It sounds strange but I read a earlier post from someone who said they had to train themselves and that is how I feel. It's very hard to explain it's like my mind has to focuses on it.

Blimey, I've spent a lot of time worrying how much sexual chemistry I've had with a partner. If I didn't have PIV (G-spot) orgasm with them, I wouldn't carry on dating them, its a non-negotiable. I see it as "the glue" that binds you together and makes me want to have sex with them repeatedly.

I am also sadly shocked that so many women have long term relationships and say they don't mind not cuming this way and just like the intimacy. It sounds like a lot of women cant orgasm easily for anatomical reasons, although I suspect its also a mental block.

Just out of interest, if you find it hard to achieve orgasm with a partner, lets say without a vibrator, what do you think binds you sexually to keep the relationship alive and connected?