AIBU that stat of 49% of women climax every time can’t be right?

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Just read this DM article… AIBU that stat that the most unsatisfied women still report 49% climax every time must be a skewed sample?

I don’t have any issues alone but have never climaxed through PIV with any partner… I can’t be that unusual?

YABU- I climax more often than not
YANBU- i climax less that 49% of the time

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12354441/Want-longer-orgasms-Peak-District-women-Sheffield-climax-15-5-seconds-wary-Belfast-thats-youre-likely-left-unsatisfied.html

I have done with pic in my youth a few times. It must have been due to the position- was man on top, but probably more to do with the length of the session. Younger lads can keep going for longer- mostly not though- always had an orgasm via other methods.

Always do but not through PIV
Do you think it depends on whether you have an 'innie' or an 'outie'
I am very much the former

Yes, CAT or reverse CAT PIV

Sorry, what's that?

Due to medication it’s often difficult to

Have you tried by yourself?

I've never orgasmed with a partner, but can do myself with a clitoral vibrator.

I think it's way less. In my experience most men are absolutely rubbish in bed. ( Unless the survey is of lesbian women?)

Climax every single time, unless I'm drunk, but not through PIV

Same here. I never orgasmed through PIV before I met my husband. Second time we had sex, I did. We were only ever meant to be a one then two night thing but I was so blown away by that second time I went back for more! I honestly didn’t think it was possible either but it now happens very regularly.

Sorry, what's that

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coital_alignment_technique

My current partner is female but I had male partners until about 10 years ago and I’m in my 40s now. I used to climax every time during PIV. The only times I didn’t were the first month or so I started having sex when I was 17 as I hadn’t worked out how to make it happen, but as soon as I’d worked it out it was every time. The other few times were when I was on medication that makes it extremely hard to reach orgasm under any circumstances. I can’t get my head around why anyone would regularly have sex if it didn’t make them orgasm - obviously the closeness is nice and pleasuring the other person is nice, but what do you get out of it? I do recognise that this is based on only my experience though. I guess I’ve just been lucky.

I used to nearly always have orgasms with my partner, including with PIV, but last year or so I mainly don't and it's putting me off sex. Reason I don't is partly I'm pissed off with him about an unresolved issue, but also perimenopause has affected my wetness-ability and sensitivity. Even my wanks are fairly boring at the moment, which is very annoying. Sometimes I fake an orgasm with myself!

Sorry for laughing @Charley50 but your last sentence is funny. Hope you get it sorted.

I've had 3 long term partners in my life. The first two made me orgasm every time through PIV. The last didn't very often at all, he was thoroughly selfish and I couldn't be arsed to nag for it.

Ah okay, thanks

Feeling like the odd one out.
I orgasm 99% of the time through PIV sex. The 1% is usually when we’ve been interrupted and the mood just evaporates.
When I have PIV sex, I ignore my partner in the sense that I’m not performing to please him and I just do what it takes to take care of my orgasm. Usually that means me on top for some of the time.
No complaints, quite the opposite.
They usually finish right after or while I do and on a good day it’s less than ten minutes from start to finish.

I wouldn’t be having sex if I had less than 50% chance of orgasm. It’s almost every time for me, and my partner waits for me to have an orgasm before he does (unless I tell him to go ahead because it’s not happening!)

That being said, we are now at the point where we are only having sex once or twice a week. Life has been getting in the way!

How can PIV not work for some women? Is it to do with anatomy?

If I had to guess I'd say it's a mix of two things? Ime you need to learn how to do it because it's not that easy, and I can only do it in certain positions and with certain motions and really the guy has to be quite still for it to happen. It's like micro-movements haha.

That said I had a really well-endowed ex once and nothing I did could make me come from piv. Like we just didn't "fit together". Yet ex before him and current ex are both quite average and it's easy.

It’s okay for men, tickle their willy a bit and off it goes. But PIV doesn’t directly stimulate the clitoris. It’d be like trying to make a man orgasm by playing with his balls. Men need to put in the work or slip a hand down yourself and sort it out

I don't think this is true as it doesn't really matter wether you have an innie or an outie. It's not a clitoral or labia (the outie bits) orgasm, it's happening inside you. (Plus I've had many and have an innie haha).

Same…

Same! I need to be 'warmed up.'

Very rarely through/as a result of the actual sex but always during the sexual encounter via various methods. I think this is quite common, really. If the survey actually means more than half of women are not orgasming through the entire sexual encounter then that's depressing!

And to those who have never had an orgasm, have you ever spent time doing it yourself?! Trying to make it happen? Or is it a medical thing?

Never from PIV and it took me over 30 years of active sex life, including 2 marriages, before I learned how to get a partner to make me come. I still don't come EVERY time because I really love PIV with my current partner and I don't always feel the need to come as well. In the past I didn't enjoy any part of sex enough to want to do more of it, and it was so easy on my own i just did that.

There's some anatomical issues - there was a study a while back suggesting that women who had less than a particular distance between the vaginal entrance and the visible clitoris were more likely to come with PIV. But much much more of it IMO is psychological, plus the sexual advice women get is frankly useless imo.

It doesn't say that it's just via PIV, it could include clitoris stimulation. This is a survey focusing on older women and I'd say that we are better at demanding good sex. I think with better health care and HRT etc sex after the menopause and during peri menopause is better now than it was for previous generations.