I'm worried the baby I'm pregnant with isn't mine and the ivf clinic have given me the wrong embryo

[hcarter8]

Worried baby isn't mine?

I'm very happily pregnant from IVF but can't stop wondering whether the baby is actually mine. We used my eggs and husband's sperm, but I can't help but wondering if our clinic perhaps made a mistake and used someone else's eggs and/or sperm, or replaced someone else's embryo.

I saw an article in the press about ten years ago for having fertilised eggs with the wrong sperm (was noted immediately ) and one of But I can't help but wonder.

I think the reason I'm overthinking is because I've actually witnessed something like this happen to somebody first hand. One of my old work Colleagues about 7 years ago had Ivf, she had a great pregnancy with no issues (she and her husband were black) the baby boy came out white with blue eyes. When the baby was three months they had a DNA test and they were right, it wasn't their child but she grew attached to the baby and didn't want to say anything because she didn't want to give the baby she carries back to it's real mum. I'm not quite sure what happened after that because she relocated it's actually what made me quite hesitant to start IVF but I eventually grew a pair and got over it.

I know it sounds silly because it's so rare but I think it's just my hormones raging and I suppose that even after baby is born, unless it looks extremely different than husband or I we will never actually know for certain whether it's really our baby, unless we do a DNA test to put my mind at ease.

Has anyone else had this? Or am I just turning into a loon?

Just imagine, half child, half kebab

Great idea if your baby doesn’t sleep you could just eat it.

This doesn’t happen. It didn’t happen to the people you knew or any of the other anecdotal rubbish on this thread

There weren't any stereotypes in that post! It didn't even specify any race!

@Onanislandinthesun red haired is a recessive gene so you can have a red haired blue eyed child if you are both dark haired with brown eyes . DH and me are both dark hair and brown eyes but one of our IVF children is blue eyed and fair - but absolutely clearly is ours since shares many character traits and also medical issues. @hcarter8 try not to worry too much . Anyone going down the IVF route will already have had a difficult fertility journey - so it’s no surprise that we “assume” that something will go wrong especially with a large dollop of pregnancy hormones on top of IVF hormones. Whilst a mix up is possible, clinics will have processes in place to stop it from happening so the risk must be very small indeed. Best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy .

I have only read about this in those trash mags. You could get a DNA test when it is both maybe. Pregnancy is filled with both rational and irrational worries. If it wasn’t this it would be something else!

I didn't have ivf but I did have a lot of weird anxieties. Like pps I often thought maybe I wasn't really pregnant. Even the night before my cs I thought "what if they open me up tomorrow and there's no baby in there?". Despite the fact I was absolutely massive and had even symptom going.

I'm glad I wasn't the only one!! When I was pregnant I had this really vivid dream that I gave birth to a rat and I was carrying it round in a cup (??) and got really stressed it kept jumping out. And I had to keep scooping up my rat baby and putting it back into the cup and I felt really embarrassed in case anyone saw. Honestly do not miss pregnancy dreams.

Thank god for mumsnet because I've never even told dh about these particular dreams, didn't want to freak him out! I would never have told anyone if it wasn't for @Katey83 comment above. Thought I was super weird...!

Op please chill and try to enjoy this special time, new babies are so exciting. Op some stuff written on here is a load of scare mongering nonsense.

If your IVF was anything like mine the clinic had one theatre where they did my egg collection and a man's room where DH did his thing.
The sperm were taken straight to the theater. No chance of them being mixed up.

IVF clinic have loads of checks and protocol to make sure that mix ups don't happen

If you are in the U.K. then HFEA regulates ivf extremely well , the chances are extremou small hun that is less than 0.000000001 % .
Try and enjoy your pregnancy

Oh god the weird and disturbing dreams about the baby when I was pregnant. I didn’t realise it was a thing. Plus being totally convinced when I went for a scan they would say I wasn’t pregnant. We only got the one scan back in the 80s as well. Post natal anxiety is well known but prenatal only recently seems to be recognised as a common feature of many pregnancies

I remember reading a story about a female member of one of those racist biker gangs being fertilised with a white baby. Couldn't believe it was a genuine accident!

She was like "we don't like these racial minorities but we still love our son". It was most bizarre. Poor baby!

In the nicest way, yes you are being a loon. I think when you have IVF, usually so many other things have gone wrong for you to get to that place, that you can end up expecting the worst, even when it's madness.

When we had our IVF pregnancy (now a beautiful and healthy 2 and a half year old who is the perfect split of me and his dad), I did also ponder about this. The baby will absolutely be yours... but just as a thought experiment, say it wasn't. You will still have a beautiful baby that you will love so much, you will get compensation from the clinic (I imagine quite a lot), and be able to afford more IVF to hopefully have another child which is biologically yours, if you still want to. You will be a happy and rich family of four, with an interesting story to tell. That was the thought process that got me through. Try not to let anxious thoughts steal your happiness x

Ah god love you!

The fact that you've actually seen this happen is absolutely going to cause that thought in your mind! Plus, for me, I feel like pregnancy hormones absolutely accentuated every single emotion I had. I didn't think that at the time - I thought I was fine and if anyone suggested different they would feel my wrath 😂 so whilst, in my opinion, your worry is valid having seen it happen, those bloody hormones will absolutely make that worry worse, too.

I have friends who have undergone IVF and everything was so stringent, but maybe speaking to the clinic and having them explain everything in detail would help you? If you explain your worry and why, I bet they'd be more than happy to put your mind at rest.

I hope you get a little peace of mind and can enjoy your pregnancy without worry ❤️

I had ivf. Dd, who is 15, is most certainly dh’s and mine. Anecdotally I’ve had a string of major surgeries. The amount of checks the nurses and doctors go through to ensure my identity and therefore going to receive the correct procedure is insane. By this, I had to constantly affirm I am who they think I am. This will be the same for ivf and the chances of human error are infinitesimally small.

Ridiculously unlikely. If it would make you feel better and have money to throw at it, you can do prenatal paternity testing. Non-invasive so no risk to baby. Probably wouldn't work for you as sample is your blood so somewhat contaminating, but you'd be able to check baby is your husbands, and therefore also very likely yours!

Haha I also dreamed the animals think, and my sister even had weird dreams on my behalf - a week or so after I told her I was pregnant she told me she dreamed I gave birth to a little black dog and we had to hide it in a bin bag!

*thing

Totally normal fear OP but as others have pointed out very rare.

I had intrusive dreams/worries that somehow another man's sperm had gotten inside me and that the baby wasn't my partner's throughout my pregnancy even though I hadn't slept with anyone else and she was naturally conceived. Pregnancy hormones do funny things to your brain.