In not bonding with DGC

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featu41 · 29/07/2023 11:00

I'm feeling like I'm not bonding with my grandson (4 months old). The other day I realised that I hadn't thought of him at all, for at least a day. I think the problem might be that I'm not really allowed to do anything for him and when I do do things, often it's wrong. I'm constantly interrupted by thoughts like - am I doing the right/wrong thing, will they take this the wrong way etc rather than simply being natural and enjoying the moment. It is starting to feel like a fake relationship, like it could be anyone's baby and not my grandson. I'm actively dreading the next visit. AIBU over worrying this. Should I just carry on going through the motions or should I say something?

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Scatterbrainbox · 29/07/2023 22:24

Hibiscrubbed · 29/07/2023 16:52

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So many precious mummies.

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Why is it precious or funny to not want your baby unesccessarily distressed?

Scatterbrainbox · 29/07/2023 22:28

Imogensmumma · 29/07/2023 19:43

As you have said yours is 9 and you don’t remember what to do with newborns mine is 11 months and I remember the anxiety and stress vividly of being in the trenches of a newborn in the fourth trimester and I was diagnosed with PND Anxiety so yeah maybe I recognise a new mum stressed and not coping

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In the kindest way, it sounds like you are protecting a little, there is nothing in any of the OPs posts to suggest that she has PND, just that she has the confidence to do what she feels is best and asks others to as well.

I'm sorry that you have had that experience though, and hope you have been able to access some support and are coming through it.

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