It should be Am I the Arsehole really

[PuppyMonkey]

Not Asshole.

And anyway Am I Being Unreasonable is better.

AIBU?

Asshole is American as is Reddit. We are Mumsnet and English is unreasonable.

yes.

I don’t think we should use those words at all. Or am I being unreasonable- it feels sexist

Sexist? I thought that both men and women have arseholes?

No Am I being unreasonable. Just seems like something of a stereotype for women being emotional and hysterical.

Arsehole- just that think about what the adjective actually means objectively

Asshole just sounds weird in our accents, though love using asshat🙂

Eh????

Can you explain that @Annaishere?

What part @Rogue1001MNer ?

That you think it's sexist.

I've just seen that you answered while I was typing/posting

I understand your first paragraph, but not the second

It just feels like something men say about women

No it doesn't?

What an odd reasoning you have!

Well they think we’re emotional and can’t reason like they do. Some of them

Arsehole- just that think about what the adjective actually means objectively

Anyone can be an arsehole, we all have arseholes.

We can’t be arseholes

AIBU is better I think, because everybody is unreasonable sometimes, and being able to recognise that in yourself is a very healthy and good skill to have.

Whereas calling someone an ass/arsehole kind of denigrates their entire character. It doesn't have to be that serious.

Why? Do you not have one?

It doesn’t make me an arsehole

AIBU sounds a bit superior to me -so although you are asking you don’t really think you are.
whereas asshole isn’t something I’d say.

I suppose aibu sounds quite old fashioned but "reason" means intelligence and that's going out of fashion seemingly in favour of more gross language like asshole.

So what makes an arsehole?

I’d prefer to be called arsehole rather than bitch, bitch is sexist.

I’d rather be called a bitch I think

AIBU has been around longer than AITA is is better!

That actually is sexist.

I just remember when I realised what someone was actually saying for the first time when they were calling someone an arsehole

Is that a reddit saying? Why are you posting your question here?