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To think that pregnancy care SHOULD be focused on helping women to have healthy babies?

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CatusFlatus · 23/07/2023 14:48

This article in a medical journal advocates the taking of testosterone by trans-identified females during pregnancy, despite the proven and potential risks to the unborn child.

The claim that ‘gendered’ pregnancy care is too focused on helping women to have healthy babies and that it is acceptable for transmen to continue taking testosterone during pregnancy, despite the proven and potential risks to the foetus because of, for example, concerns the transman has about being mis-gendered or their desire to be regarded as a pregnant man.

They claim that the desire for ‘normal foetal outcomes’ is problematic because it is born of a wish to protect babies “From becoming anything other than ‘normal’” and reflects the “Historical and ongoing social practices for creating ‘ideal’ and normative bodies.

This is insane.

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orangeleavesinautumn · 24/07/2023 19:14

ThreeB · 24/07/2023 19:07

Thalidomide isn't prescribed to pregnant women and there are stringent safeguards (including pregnancy tests every 4 weeks) during treatment to ensure safety. Men also have to use safeguarding measures if their partner is able to get pregnant. Pregnant women are not even able to touch thalidomide due to the risks

exactly - when we have had thalidomide in the house, we had to confirm that there were no fertile women living there, and my sister, who was fertile, was advised not to stay - I was ok because I had had a hysterectomy

ChopperC110P · 24/07/2023 21:04

stealtheatingtunnocks · 24/07/2023 18:17

Those rat pups will have been born with genital deformities. Genital abnormalities in rats exposed to pre natal testosterone

being bathed in abnormal levels of testosterone during development is going to cause problems for that person, we don’t know which ones.

very few mothers to be would knowingly take substances which will harm their unborn child. taking testosterone while building a body that belongs to someone else is so selfish that I think it means you are unfit to parent. It shows an inability to put the needs of the baby before your own wants.

you are not going to be the person who pays the price for taking a known teratogen.

it is morally corrupt

Depends on the dosage. The study you posted didn’t have genital deformities until the highest doses. We have no idea how that rat dose translates to a human dose.

ChopperC110P · 24/07/2023 21:06

lifeturnsonadime · 24/07/2023 18:06

Are you seriously conflating a persons ability to purchase alcohol and cigarettes to prescribed and controlled medication.

You are deluded if you think that any of this is fair or equitable or the rights of an unborn child are not considered in medical ethics.

The same arguments about the rights of the foetus can be used for any controlled medication, but they aren't because women who identify as trans are being treated more favourably than other women, some of these women are seriously ill.

It’s not more favourably because again, testosterone is currently a category B medication.

It’s not like thalidomide which is category X.

ChopperC110P · 24/07/2023 21:08

ladyvimes · 24/07/2023 19:07

Surely no one hopes for a neuro divergent child?!

I honestly did not care if my DC were NT or ND. I don’t think being ND makes me a freak or unhealthy,

Teder · 24/07/2023 21:17

TheKeatingFive · 24/07/2023 18:44

I have heard nothing to suggest that Thalidomide is being prescribed to pregnant women suffering from cancer these days.

Can anyone confirm that it is?

I think I’m explaining this badly. I am not saying it is prescribed. I am saying if a pregnant woman with cancer required it, there are options e.g. alternative medication. There aren’t really any options with testosterone (if a trans person did take it pre pregnancy) - it’s either yes or no, there’s no alternative. So, in a nutshell, thalidomide and testosterone are not as comparable.

TheKeatingFive · 24/07/2023 21:24

So, in a nutshell, thalidomide and testosterone are not as comparable.

Well no, but because Testosterone is not being used to treat illness. It can be stopped without any risks to the mother. So it's entirely about privileging the mother's feelings about themselves over the baby's health.

maddening · 24/07/2023 21:27

ChopperC110P · 23/07/2023 19:28

Crickets 🦗?

So, in light of the fact there are causal links or proven risks to the physical health of a foetus from excess testosterone, does anyone else think that the outrage is a bit overblown?

When we start defining ‘healthy’ as potentially more likely to be straight and NT….that’s eugenics territory imho.

Taking drugs known to cause a defect is more like eugenics than not taking the drugs. This isn't trying to prevent ND births- it is actively causing them.

maddening · 24/07/2023 21:29

Teder · 24/07/2023 21:17

I think I’m explaining this badly. I am not saying it is prescribed. I am saying if a pregnant woman with cancer required it, there are options e.g. alternative medication. There aren’t really any options with testosterone (if a trans person did take it pre pregnancy) - it’s either yes or no, there’s no alternative. So, in a nutshell, thalidomide and testosterone are not as comparable.

They have the choice not to get pregnant if they know they have to stop taking testosterone which they take as they choose to present as a trans man.

Brk · 24/07/2023 21:37

Right, who’s going to tell the transmen that when they’re pregnant they look female, whether or not they have facial hair?

Thelnebriati · 24/07/2023 21:39

When and why did people become ok with medical experiments in an unborn fetus? Are they trying to change the law to make that legal?

lifeturnsonadime · 24/07/2023 22:06

ChopperC110P · 24/07/2023 21:06

It’s not more favourably because again, testosterone is currently a category B medication.

It’s not like thalidomide which is category X.

Of course it's treating women who identify as trans more favourably.

There is a risk to the unborn child for what is simply a cosmetic benefit to the mother.

Calling the unborn a child a foetus to justify this is vile.

There are no other instances where this happens.

You can tie yourself in knots to justify this but it is immoral and wrong.

if a woman wants to have a baby she should suspend trying to look like a man.

lifeturnsonadime · 24/07/2023 22:09

Sorry I posted too soon. Should have said 'she should suspend trying to look like a man for the duration of the pregnancy for the sake of the child.

I judge any woman who puts their baby at risk like this, and any medic who sanctions such abuse.

lifeturnsonadime · 24/07/2023 22:09

Thelnebriati · 24/07/2023 21:39

When and why did people become ok with medical experiments in an unborn fetus? Are they trying to change the law to make that legal?

It does make you wonder if these women are simply pawns in a bigger agenda here.

Thelnebriati · 24/07/2023 22:32

I'm thinking about their constantly pushing the idea of artificial wombs, which are also currently illegal due to the same human rights legislation.

ChopperC110P · 25/07/2023 06:23

maddening · 24/07/2023 21:27

Taking drugs known to cause a defect is more like eugenics than not taking the drugs. This isn't trying to prevent ND births- it is actively causing them.

But they are not known to the level needed of scientific proof to cause any defects? Trying to prevent the hypothetical possibility of ND births is paranoid eugenics because being ND is not a defect.

ChopperC110P · 25/07/2023 06:26

Thelnebriati · 24/07/2023 21:39

When and why did people become ok with medical experiments in an unborn fetus? Are they trying to change the law to make that legal?

I’d say right about the time it became acceptable for a mother to kill her unborn foetus that it also became acceptable for a mother to choose to take any substances that are not proven to be harmful and some that are proven harmful.

ChopperC110P · 25/07/2023 06:35

There is a risk to the unborn child for what is simply a cosmetic benefit to the mother.

There is a “potential unknown risk” that is not a definite and known risk., it means there may be no risk. So you cannot say that there is definitely a risk. Furthermore, testosterone is not just cosmetic for those with gender dysphoria.

So you only get the idea they are being treated more favourably if you exaggerate the existence of risk and downplay the need for their medication.

Calling the unborn a child a foetus to justify this is vile.
It is a foetus. It’s not a child. I take it you are pro-life too with your views.

You can tie yourself in knots to justify this but it is immoral and wrong.
Well that’s a matter of opinion. I logically choose not to accept a risk as existing until it has been proven to exist. You emotionally choose to see risk even when it’s not been proven to exist.

if a woman wants to have a baby she should suspend trying to look like a man. she should also stop drinking and smoking and eating soft cheeses and so on and so on but again we let women choose and these items are far more dangerous and risky to a foetus than any hypothetical unproven risk from testosterone.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 25/07/2023 06:54

Detransitioners (female) report that when they stop taking testosterone they still have deep voices and facial hair for the rest of their lives. I don't understand why any woman saying she wants to live as a man would become pregnant, but given this does happen, why would they need to go on taking testosterone in pregnancy given the above?

Glowie · 25/07/2023 07:53

@ChopperC110P

Your logic is flawed. Undertaking an action which may have a negative effect (and for all you know it is extremely negative) is still a net negative, as opposed to the neutral position of not undertaking it.
Put another way, if what you're doing might harm your unborn child, then it is immoral to not spin the wheel as few times as possible.

Also, said neutral position (i.e. NOT taking potentially harmful hormones) being akin to eugenics is ridiculous.

nothingcomestonothing · 25/07/2023 08:00

You can tie yourself in knots to justify this but it is immoral and wrong.
Well that’s a matter of opinion. I logically choose not to accept a risk as existing until it has been proven to exist. You emotionally choose to see risk even when it’s not been proven to exist.

That's the TRA argument about everything though, isn't it? Do it until you can show it's dangerous, rather than don't do it until you can show it's safe. Like males in women's rugby, or women's changing rooms - 'let us do what we want until you can prove it's dangerous'. Then when women are harmed, it's 'well that's a one off/not very many harms/harm to people I don't care about, so it's still okay'. Followed by 'well it's still what I want so ignore the harms to people who aren't me'.

'I'm okay with risking the wellbeing of my child to have something I wish for' isn't generally seen as a sign of great parenting.

Oysterbabe · 25/07/2023 08:50

According to half the people on here a pregnant woman should be able to do whatever she wants with her body, including killing the baby the day before it's born. I don't know how they can also object if the mother wants to take testosterone.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 25/07/2023 08:57

Oysterbabe · 25/07/2023 08:50

According to half the people on here a pregnant woman should be able to do whatever she wants with her body, including killing the baby the day before it's born. I don't know how they can also object if the mother wants to take testosterone.

Two different things - terminating a pregnancy is one thing that should be performed with care to ensure safety for the mother and to make sure the foetus does not feel anything. But if there is going to be a living human infant at the end of it, they should not be subjected to in utero experimentation for the furtherment of eugenics/to find causes and 'cures' for neurodiversity and 'enhancing' physical/mental attributes under a cloak of #bekind.

DameKatyDenisesClagnuts · 25/07/2023 09:09

TheKeatingFive · 23/07/2023 18:38

I believe thalidomide is used for some cancers (amongst other illnesses), I suppose doctors weigh up the risks and benefits to both parent and child.

Do we have any evidence that doctors are still prescribing thalidomide to pregnant women? In any circs?

They absolutely are not, it is totally contraindicated in pregnancy and in the very rare cases where a woman who could become pregnant has to take it (pretty much unheard of as the cancer it is used to treat generally affects older age groups) the woman must agree to a pregnancy prevention plan

lifeturnsonadime · 25/07/2023 09:13

Calling the unborn a child a foetus to justify this is vile.
It is a foetus. It’s not a child. I take it you are pro-life too with your views.

I am pro - choice any time for any reason. But this is very different as you well known. This child is intended to be born. And in this instance the mother is being selfish by taking a risk on her child's health for her own gender feelings.

That's selfish.

stealtheatingtunnocks · 25/07/2023 10:19

ChopperC110P · 24/07/2023 21:04

Depends on the dosage. The study you posted didn’t have genital deformities until the highest doses. We have no idea how that rat dose translates to a human dose.

Then we agree. We don’t know what is safe.

you think that means “fuck around and find out” and I think it means “absolute ban”

you are warbling on about semantics, this isn’t a high school debate, this is the next generation and your argument is focussed on the wants of the mother (appropriate use of legally accurate term, see the McConnell judgement) and not on risks to the baby.

are you a female person with a gender difference who has been/is/wants to be pregnant?