Page 5 | Important Issue: Cafes that butter your toast

SunRainStorm · 2023-07-22T10:57:52+00:00

What the fuck is with cafes that butter your toast for you?! I fucking hate it. I always say 'no butter please' or 'butter to the side only'. Only for my toast to come, more often than not, soggy and DRIPPING in butter, to someone else's idea of an ideal butter to bread ratio. Butter is such a personal thing. When they do it for me it just fucking ruins my toast. Sometimes I send it back, but DH hates it when I do. AIBU? Yes there are bigger issues in the world but I can't do much about Putin or COL or climate change.

SirVixofVixHall · 22/07/2023 19:03

JulieHoney · 22/07/2023 12:48

Noooooo! Then you're stuck scraping firm butter across cold toast. Horrible stuff. Toast should come buttered and warm.

Cold butter on cold toast my idea of Heaven. Yum.

FFSwhatisthis · 22/07/2023 19:06

Robyn847 · 22/07/2023 18:00

There's a new cafe near me that trades on being a calorie laden, egg yolk dripping down your fingers, dirty dirty, piled high breakfast barm place. With free cups of tea, or even hot Vimto. And then they also do avocado on toast and overnight oats. Its just such a contrast. I'm not sure they have their client base figured out yet.

@Robyn847

where is this wonderland?

Beachwalker66 · 22/07/2023 19:30

Lwrenagain · 22/07/2023 13:46

I'm ready for the negativity this comment will bring my way and I'm emotionally prepared for the hate.

Cold toast with real butter is the best way to eat it.
I still use my victorian nana's toast rack 🙈

I'll see myself out.

I’m with you on this. The toast has to cool a little so the butter is perched all cold and thick on top of it.

I absolutely detest it when butter is put on piping hot toast and it dissolves into buttery smegginess. My brother and I would call that “crumpet toast “ with great disdain.

Choux · 22/07/2023 19:32

A few weeks ago I had an afternoon tea in a rural cafe in the north. We had just done a walk so we're hungry and sat down in what looked like a beautiful old potting shed.

The cake plates came out with sandwiches, cakes and.... scones which were already jammed and creamed!!! I guess that's one way to solve the jam or cream first debate. I was a bit miffed as I don't even like cream and wanted butter and jam on my scones. Fortunately they had gone with jam then cream so it was just about possible to scrape off the cream.

It has gone into my bank of cafe options as a place to never have afternoon tea again.

FitYeDaeinYeMadRadge · 22/07/2023 19:49

Another one for @Lwrenagain House Of Tea And Toast

Lovely

Annaishere · 22/07/2023 19:50

I wish they would butter my toast. This has never happened to me. They give me one tiny portion on the side and it isn’t enough

tidalway · 22/07/2023 22:10

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HappiestSleeping · 22/07/2023 22:16

Riapia · 22/07/2023 14:06

Toast should be buttered the instant it comes out of the toaster.
Not after it’s been carried across the kitchen and definitely not in the minutes it takes to get to a table.

This 👆

Robyn847 · 23/07/2023 00:11

Why go to a cafe for breakfast?
Better & cheaper at home.

@Georgyporky You've never experienced my cooking! Honestly, I would struggle to eat a cooked breakfast cooked by me. Far far better from a caf.

Robyn847 · 23/07/2023 00:41

FFSwhatisthis · 22/07/2023 19:06

@Robyn847

where is this wonderland?

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Important Issue: Cafes that butter your toast

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SunRainStorm · 23/07/2023 02:01

Georgyporky · 22/07/2023 18:21

I'm going back to basics here. Why go to a cafe for breakfast?
Better & cheaper at home.
I've only done it once, & got into an argument over "eggs Benedict" - not toast.

Hotels are another matter. If it's a buffet, you toast your own bread & do whatever you want with it.
If it's brought to the table & it's wrong, you politely decline & ask for what you ordered. And usually have to insist on more butter than one tiny packet

To be social I guess?

I would rather make my own at home it's true.

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ClareBlue · 23/07/2023 04:02

Lovehearts82 · 22/07/2023 12:44

Ooooh this might be a polarising topic to mix or not to mix spaghetti pasta and bolognaise 😜
I Always mix some of the sauce into the spaghetti first and then put it in the bowl/plate then pour on more sauce. I grew up with it not being mixed, just spaghetti then sauce on top.

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Our student from Bologna said his grandma was told by her mother in law that her grandma insisted that the only correct way was to serve the spaghetti on the plate and then a bowel of bolignaise sauce separate. You then put on your desired amount of sauce and mixed it with the spaghetti. Adding as required. The host did not dictate the amount of sauce in any circumstances.
We now do this and it works.
I was brought up with the sauce plonked on top of spaghetti on a plate and served out. Never mixed before service.
I am sad we never did it correctly.

WolfFoxHare · 23/07/2023 09:30

I agree that butter should be served separately but the toast should be hot too. I hate soggy toast and don’t want to eat marg/spread unwittingly either.

The posts about how to cut toast or bread to make the best bacon sandwich have reminded me of one time we were served a bacon sandwich for breakfast by a family member - one slice of marged toast with two slices of bacon on top. An open bacon sandwich. I had to ask for another slice so I could have a top layer to my butty.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/07/2023 11:15

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Yes. Because toast should be hot buttered. Toast is ruined if it goes cold before you butter it.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/07/2023 11:17

ClareBlue · 23/07/2023 04:02

Our student from Bologna said his grandma was told by her mother in law that her grandma insisted that the only correct way was to serve the spaghetti on the plate and then a bowel of bolignaise sauce separate. You then put on your desired amount of sauce and mixed it with the spaghetti. Adding as required. The host did not dictate the amount of sauce in any circumstances.
We now do this and it works.
I was brought up with the sauce plonked on top of spaghetti on a plate and served out. Never mixed before service.
I am sad we never did it correctly.

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In my Italian family, you have to mix a bit of sauces with the pasta to coat it, and then additional sauce is put on top. You can’t serve anyone completely plain pasta under any circumstances.

Coastalcreeksider · 23/07/2023 11:45

A cafe near me did this with toasted teacakes. Never had that before and was a bit annoying the first time we went in there for my friend who hates butter on anything, she likes just jam.

Funny thing is that they not only buttered it for you, they put extra butter in a little pot on the side.

Strange ...

SallyWD · 23/07/2023 11:46

I prefer your when they butter it. Otherwise I'm putting butter on cold toast and it doesn't melt.

BrandNewBicep · 23/07/2023 11:47

Ooh butter and then extra butter - whats not to like.

user1496146479 · 23/07/2023 11:48

Lilacshade · 22/07/2023 13:16

I only like cold toast and it must be stone cold before butter is applied. The very idea of melted butter on warm toast is wrong.
In our family if you don't need a spoon at the end there isn't enough gravy.

Sorry you are wrong!

user1496146479 · 23/07/2023 11:52

finewelshcheese · 22/07/2023 14:58

YABU. I hate getting those little rock hard butter packets and trying to spread it on lukewarm toast.

I melt butter portions either between the slices of toast while carrying back to table, or if table service sit them on the lid of the teapot for about a min. Perfect then for buttering!

AppleCinnamonBagel · 23/07/2023 12:07

I've got a yearning for a buttery bacon sandwich now! With a nice strong mug of Yorkshire tea 😋

nalabae · 23/07/2023 13:43

Lol @ butter is a personal thing 😂

Icandothis1970 · 23/07/2023 14:22

Lilacshade · 22/07/2023 13:16

I only like cold toast and it must be stone cold before butter is applied. The very idea of melted butter on warm toast is wrong.
In our family if you don't need a spoon at the end there isn't enough gravy.

Same same!!!! Love cold toast with unmelted butter. Dh thinks I'm weird.

And roast dinners are drowned in gravy 😆

Choux · 23/07/2023 14:47

I like both hot buttered toast and cold buttered toast. So whatever a cafe does is likely to be fine for me. Even when the butter portion is rock hard I see it as delayed gratification while I warm it in my hands.

Unfortunately I am currently on a low carb diet and now can't stop thinking about toast!