To think this was done on purpose

[Strawberryandlime9]

Not taken it to heart too much but thought I would post for opinions.

I collected my DD from pre school just after 1pm and asked her ‘did you have anything nice for dinner’. The mum next to me (who was quite posh) said to her DC straight after ‘what did you have for lunch today darling’ and then looked at us. Aibu to think she was thinking that I am common.

Scottish here and it's dinner then tea! Are you West Coast? I'm East, maybe an east/west coast thing.

Because that's the word used for it in the region of the UK you are from? It's not at all bizarre, plenty of people call it dinner.

Yes. Dinner is the main cooked meal. Can be in the evening, in which case the midday meal is lunch. Or can be at midday, in which case the other meal is tea.

Would people be as quick to dismiss someone querying racist microaggressions? It happens with class as well. It's hard to explain and hard to describe but when it happens to you, you know what it is and why it's being done.

Even though the dinner ladies supervise it?

This is more of a regional thing than a class thing.

It's breakfast, lunch and tea you wronguns.

It’s just language. Assistants are called dinner ladies and not lunch ladies, at least they were when I was at school. Don’t sweat it. Use the language you use and be proud of it.

Lunch is a lighter meal (Eg sandwich)
Dinner, at midday is a hot meal (Eg pie and chips)
Tea is a lighter evening meal (Eg quiche and salad)
Dinner is a more substantial evening meal (Eg meat and two veg)
Supper is a snack (Eg crumpets and a cuppa)

If she was making a point she’s an idiot and I wouldn’t give anytime to thinking about her. Anyone with any class wouldn’t be such a snob.

People can only make you feel inferior with your consent.

RE the question about 'packed dinners', where I am somewhere in north England, they say pack up rather than packed lunch. It sounds odd to me as an incomer.

Snorting in agreement at the pp who posted out Scotland is big with regional linguistic variation too. So often referred to on MN as a homogenous blob (or forgotten about altogether).

Breakfast - what you have before going out to school/work
Dinner - what you have at dinnertime 12-1 at school or home ( no lunch boxes allowed in my day) hot meal usually
( As in Hobson's Choice -' dinner will be at half past 1') Salford
Tea - what you have at 5-6pm ish hot or cold
HighTea is in Enid Blyton ie a cold meal when the staff have the afternoon off
Afternoon Tea is also in books, hotels, not real life
Supper - what you have before going to bed, eg toast and cocoa

Manchester, but could be influenced by Irish habits or even factory times. Who knows?

RE the question about 'packed dinners', where I am somewhere in north England, they say pack up rather than packed lunch. It sounds odd to me as an incomer.

I've now been in the NE more years than I haven't and that one still sounds odd. However I'm a Mom so despised by MN and a weird outliner up North.

Maybe it was pointed, but she'd fit right in on MN in a discussion about the aforementioned Mom.

I really wouldn’t give it headspace. Whether it’s a class thing or not, just do you. It’s reactions like yours which give this sort of thing meaning. If she was doing it to make a point, it really says more about her character than yours.

Once upon a time they were always school dinners, even in very MC private schools.
Don’t give it another thought, OP.

I agree with this. If she was saying it pointedly, and only you can tell as we weren't there, then she's laughable as it's not a class thing, it's a regional thing.

If she was indeed making a point, then it says more about her than you OP.
Regional differences and accents are what make our language so rich and varied.
I, as a Northerner now married to a Southerner, have had my use of regional language "corrected" in the past, usually by shop assistants or nursey/ school staff.
It used to hurt, but these days it amuses me.

Maybe she was correcting it to 'lunch' for the benefit of her child.

It reads to me like she saw a warm little moment between you and your child, and it prompted her to create the same. Nothing else, OP.

Saying lunch is posh? My god, I never knew. Lunch lunch lunch

I think you mean lunchtime auoervisors😂

My guess is an informal (kitchen rather than dining room) late (8pm rather than 6pm) dinner.

Interesting, what region is this common place?

Only to those with an inferiority complex, I can't imagine most people give it a moments thought