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Text message bereavement?

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Yoyo2021 · 19/07/2023 20:06

Hi,

I feel so embarrassed.

A colleague who was my mentor and at some points my manager recenrally passed away from cancer.

It took me by shock I really thought they would pull through. Such a role model to me in my life and so supportive through so much hardship I have faced.

Even when it got quite bad we would message everyday. Even the day before they passed away.

I miss them so much! I had a big trip coming up with work and they were so excited for me and determined to meet me on the return journey sadly it never happened!

So when I did do that trip three months after they had passed. I sent a picture of a landmark from where I had visited and told them I had a little cry as I wish I could tell them about my day and miss there guidance. That I was doing well and I met so many people that knew them it was a great comfort! I ended saying I will never forget them!

Today at work I got a phone call from a
Manager in a office within my organisation in anothecity the manager said they went for lunch with there sister and some other colleagues and that the sister had logged on for the first time in four months and told them that they had found the message very strange and a bit odd!

I asked what they meant by strange and said well they decided not to reply but it caused a lot of upset.

I felt so embarrassed. I really hope there wasnt anyone else that has seen this message that works in my organisation or feels that I'm weird!

Was I wrong to have done this. What should I say if anyone else brings this up? I said sorry!

Perhaps I am strange?

Please let me know if I was unreasonable sending this message.

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Espanaes81 · 20/07/2023 19:04

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Talkingtothetrees · 23/07/2023 06:30

This is a really normal modern way to have links with someone who recently passed. I have a friend who passes away in her 20s and everyone still posts on her Facebook when something happens that reminds them of her.

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