Who should get the car?

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Grandparent is upgrading their car after 10 years and wants one of the grandchildren to have the old one to help them out. There's two grandchildren who are interested/ currently in need

Grandchild A
Age 30. Still lives at home with parents. Single.Currently drives grandparents old car from 17 years ago which has been a great car but on last legs.
Earns 30k and no financial responsibilities aside from token amount of rent to parents and gym membership, mobile phone etc
Doesn't have to grocery shop or do Washing as parent (and aforementioned Grandparent) do a lot of this for them
No savings currently

Grandchild B
Age 35. Owns a 4-bed mortgaged house and is married with new baby.
Household income of 75k which is currently reduced due to mat leave.
The family have one new 2022 reg car on finance but due to having new baby and work arrangements, they will likely need two cars very soon. They'd prefer not to do this on finance again as they are facing rising mortgage costs in coming months as well as nursery fees and other cost of living rises that are having an impact on household budget.
They do have some saving set aside but had planned to use these to overpay on mortgage to ensure their monthly payments won't be double when fixed deal ends in a few months

Who should get the car?

Yabu - A
yanbu - b

Neither.

I thought you were going to say 17 and leading and 18 and just passed test!!!

I agree neither is better than choosing - however as person A got the cat last time I would hedge towards person B purely on that basis.

Learning not leading!

And car not cat!!!!

My phone hates me 🫣🤣

I love these threads where the OP is clearly person B but writes an "unbiased" summary

Neither. I expected to open this and find two teens in need. Sell it and split the money if you have to but choosing will lead only to ill feeling.

C) Grandparents sell car and use the money on something fun

I think both grandchildren sound like they could do with the car and both are in their respective situations due to their own life choices. Neither is more or less deserving. On that basis neither should get it and Grandparents should see if they can sell it.

Neither scenario is great, A - still living at home not good B- needing 2 cars not good

Give the car to the cat, problem solved.

Grandparents sell the car and treat themselves to something with the money. Grandchildren in their 30s sort out their own vehicles.

Yeah, which one are you OP? 🤔

Neither. Tell granny to sell the car and book herself a cruise B.

Grandchild A needs to get a life and move out.
Sell the car and split the proceeds equally between the pair of them.

Neither.

How embarrassing, two grown men arguing over handouts.

Grandparents sell the car and if they don’t want the money split it between then grandkids

If it's feasible I would suggest they share it. Week on/week off arrangement maybe. Otherwise I would sell it if I were the grandparents.

Obviously you're grandchild B OP, what do you think would be fair?

This!! If they were teenagers maybe but 30somethings?! That's sad and embarrassing. Grandparents sell the car and grandchildren stop looking for handouts.

Was thinking exactly this 😅 definitely can't tell which one OP is..

Neither.
Grandparents sell the car and keep the money. Neither grandchild sounds like they are struggling and in desperate need. A lives at home with low outgoings and B has a decent income, new car and savings.

B. As A got the last car and B has more financial responsibility.

Goodness I’m another who thought you were going to say that the grandchildren were in their teens! I’d think the best thing to do would be the grandparents sell (or trade in) the car and enjoy the money themselves, but if they must, split the money equally between the two grandchildren.

Sell the car and if feeling generous split the money equally between three: grandparents and the two adults who should be responsible for their own finances.

Oh gosh, I couldn't possibly tell your opinion from that post, OP. 🙄

The answer is neither. It should be sold and split.

as a grandchild I wouldn't feel comfortable accepting a car in either situation. I'd encourage grandparents to sell the car & do something nice with it. Or use it as part exchange.

if I was forced to choose, I'd say you, B

A and B live a few hours apart unfortunately.

I think sell it is going to be best way to avoid family conflict to be honest.

A feels that B is financially better off and can sort themselves out and doesn't need this handout.

B thinks that A has no financial responsibilities and is getting their arse wiped still by family with meals cooked washing done etc so should fund their own new car and take responsibility for a change