Who should get the car?

[Vintefl]

Grandparent is upgrading their car after 10 years and wants one of the grandchildren to have the old one to help them out. There's two grandchildren who are interested/ currently in need

Grandchild A
Age 30. Still lives at home with parents. Single.Currently drives grandparents old car from 17 years ago which has been a great car but on last legs.
Earns 30k and no financial responsibilities aside from token amount of rent to parents and gym membership, mobile phone etc
Doesn't have to grocery shop or do Washing as parent (and aforementioned Grandparent) do a lot of this for them
No savings currently

Grandchild B
Age 35. Owns a 4-bed mortgaged house and is married with new baby.
Household income of 75k which is currently reduced due to mat leave.
The family have one new 2022 reg car on finance but due to having new baby and work arrangements, they will likely need two cars very soon. They'd prefer not to do this on finance again as they are facing rising mortgage costs in coming months as well as nursery fees and other cost of living rises that are having an impact on household budget.
They do have some saving set aside but had planned to use these to overpay on mortgage to ensure their monthly payments won't be double when fixed deal ends in a few months

Who should get the car?

Yabu - A
yanbu - b

This seems the fairest if grandparents really want to give grandkids the car. But it should be grandparents’ decision with no guilt or obligation. And assuming both of the adult grandchildren are grateful and decent people!! 🤣
Otherwise, grandparents should spend the proceeds purely on themselves.

Neither. Neither of them is in need. They are both independent working adults. And if both are "interested" there will be resentment from the one who doesn't get the gift. GP could give both of them a bit of cash if they want to help out.

Yep, assume the OP is person B.

you don’t need 2 cars now. Your sibling can buy their own. I suggest you say to grandparents you’ll help them to sell the car via we buy any car or cinch etc, and if they want to be generous with that money, split it between you and grandchild A towards buying new small cars each. Or they can just spend the money on themselves.

B thinks that A has no financial responsibilities and is getting their arse wiped still by family with meals cooked washing done etc so should fund their own new car and take responsibility for a change

Oh, I wonder which you are!.. 😂

Hi B ! 👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻

😂

So so obvious

Agreed!

Grandparents sell the car and spend the money on something nice for themselves, or put it towards the new car. If they really don't want it, donate to charity.

I'll have the cat.

Agreed, they’re brilliant 😂

Sell the car and split the money

WTAF does A spend all their money on? They need a kick up the arse and sent on their merry way from mummy’s house imo.

The grandparents should sell the car but if they do want to give it to someone it should go to B.

Absolutely agree!

Well A clearly is being indulged and why no savings?
Tho doesn’t give B entitlement

Couldn't agree more, don't get me started on A...

I think this situation has really highlighted this tbh. A assumed car would be theirs uncontested as very used to Gp and parent taking care of their needs and avoiding responsibility. It's one of many examples.

But I agree fairest thing is to just sell it and everyone sort themselves out

Sell it and grandparents either treat themselves, or share money between grand children.

Both A and B already have a vehicle, A can probably afford finance if needed, B should have factored in the cost of a vehicle when they chose to have a baby.

Grandparents sell the car and keep the money for themselves. The others buy their own car.

What an embarrassing situation 😳

Option C: grandparents sell the car and spend the money on themselves, not their overgrown grandchildren who are both not in need of any hand out. I’d not accept the car nor money in either A or Bs position, I’d be embarrassed to even be fighting over such a thing when neither are struggling. Or even mention such a ‘predicament’ to other people for the fear of sounding both grabby and like a couple of young siblings fighting over a bag of sweets.

B should offer to buy the car from grandparents. I take it the interest in such an old car is that it is low mileage,well maintained and you know the careful current driver's. So, it's a good buy and B is intending to buy a car in any event. If B is lucky, grandparents will reduce price.

B knows it'll probably be given to A 🤣

Can B change the 2022 for two older cars? I realise there's still finance outstanding.

B could sell the 4 bedroom house as they only have one child, buy a smaller property near work so one or both parents can walk or cycle, negating the need for 2 cars or any car

Heads or tails is the only fair way good luck 🍀

Whichever of A&B wants the car the most should BUY it from the grandparents.

Do an auction between you, or sealed bids. Whoever bids the most can buy it from them.

It can’t be worth that much at 10 years old anyway.

Good idea. B originally thought this too and offered money but A kicked off...