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Who should get the car?

92 replies

Vintefl · 19/07/2023 18:59

Grandparent is upgrading their car after 10 years and wants one of the grandchildren to have the old one to help them out. There's two grandchildren who are interested/ currently in need

Grandchild A
Age 30. Still lives at home with parents. Single.Currently drives grandparents old car from 17 years ago which has been a great car but on last legs.
Earns 30k and no financial responsibilities aside from token amount of rent to parents and gym membership, mobile phone etc
Doesn't have to grocery shop or do Washing as parent (and aforementioned Grandparent) do a lot of this for them
No savings currently

Grandchild B
Age 35. Owns a 4-bed mortgaged house and is married with new baby.
Household income of 75k which is currently reduced due to mat leave.
The family have one new 2022 reg car on finance but due to having new baby and work arrangements, they will likely need two cars very soon. They'd prefer not to do this on finance again as they are facing rising mortgage costs in coming months as well as nursery fees and other cost of living rises that are having an impact on household budget.
They do have some saving set aside but had planned to use these to overpay on mortgage to ensure their monthly payments won't be double when fixed deal ends in a few months

Who should get the car?

Yabu - A
yanbu - b

OP posts:
CopperSeahorses · 19/07/2023 20:03

They are both full grown adults and neither of them deserve the car, grandparents should sell it and give the profit to their favourite charity/bank it/ spend it on something frivolous.

Georgie8 · 19/07/2023 20:03

@SnarfleThree 😂😂😂

Gerrataere · 19/07/2023 20:04

Pancake678 · 19/07/2023 19:46

If I read correctly that A got the first "old" car from grandparents then technically B this time.

Reading the opening post it reads like there are other grandchildren but it’s only these two grabby ones who’ve eyed up the grandparents assets at this moment. I wonder how grandchildren C, D, E, F… look at A and B to be honest.

I would definitely bet A and B are siblings, and any other grandchildren are their cousins who haven’t even been thought about by either in this ‘solution’.

itsgettingweird · 19/07/2023 20:06

Achdinnae · 19/07/2023 19:32

B should offer to buy the car from grandparents. I take it the interest in such an old car is that it is low mileage,well maintained and you know the careful current driver's. So, it's a good buy and B is intending to buy a car in any event. If B is lucky, grandparents will reduce price.

I actually think this is a a great idea.

Ididntknowuntiliknew · 19/07/2023 20:06

Both grandchildren should buy their own cars.

BennyBlancofromtheBronx · 19/07/2023 20:08

SgtCawood · 19/07/2023 19:45

Could A and B have a fight for it? Or grandparents hide it in the biggest multi-storey carpark available, and first to find it wins.

Grandparents sell car and A & B buy bikes.

I'd like to see a Harry Hill style scrap over this

StillWantingADog · 19/07/2023 20:09

PoePoePoePoe · 19/07/2023 19:06

Grandparents sell the car and treat themselves to something with the money. Grandchildren in their 30s sort out their own vehicles.

This

NoHallSouth · 19/07/2023 20:13

Whoever the grandparent chooses.

RaininSummer · 19/07/2023 20:15

Neither probably to avoid bad feeling but if I have to choose then B as A has already had a free car.

aSofaNearYou · 19/07/2023 20:16

If either, then B. But I'd sell it if I were them as neither is massively in need so that'd be fairer.

I think A is having a cushty deal already on that wage still living responsibility free.

HideousKinky · 19/07/2023 20:17

I can't get past a 30 year old not doing their own washing....

Dibbydoos · 19/07/2023 20:20

HeddaGarbled · 19/07/2023 19:01

Neither.

I agree! Sell it and split the proceeds maybe but that is not a Soloman's choice!

Mummyoflittledragon · 19/07/2023 20:21

Augend23 · 19/07/2023 19:46

What if B bought it for half price and if Granny wants to she gives the money to A?

Saves B money and gives A enough to put a deposit down on another car?

(My grandparents have enough money that they definitely don't need to keep the money to treat themselves, but if that's not the case the above option probably isn't appropriate and buying for a decent price would seem sensible.)

I was going to suggest the same thing. Much as I’d be aggrieved in your position, it sounds like a good solution. I hope your gps will treat you fairly going forward.

caringcarer · 19/07/2023 20:30

GP should just do a trade in off price of new car.

carly2803 · 19/07/2023 20:32

neither! and A needs to move out and grow the fuck up!!

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/07/2023 20:40

What a ridiculous scenario. GPs sell the car and but a big sign that says:

GROW THE GEOFF UP.

NewCracker · 20/07/2023 09:19

Grandparents sell the car and use it as a deposit for the new one!

Grandchildren sort themselves out, they make mor than enough money.

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