Honest or cruel?

[MoMuM7]

My mother prides herself on being honest and forthcoming. She says what I consider, very offensive things, and concludes with an 'I'm just being honest'. We were raised in a household where you were encouraged to voice your feelings not matter who you hurt. I always found that brutal and was considered the 'sensitive' one. We have a civil, not close, relationship so I just got on with it. My mum said something that deeply hurt and I called her out and yet again, I was labeled as too sensitive.

Apparently i was a very difficult baby. Born with a birth defect, needed multiple surgeries before I was one etc. This plunged mum into PND. It was the worst year of her life as she's often told me. She neglected my older siblings, lost herself etc..Hard stuff I understand. But yesterday she told me that she would have aborted me had she known what my first year of life would be...

Am I being sensitive or is it incredibly hurtful to tell your child that you would aborted them if you could go back in time?

I've found that these people who are 'only being honest' and 'just tell it like it is' are actually abusive nasty people who use this excuse to make themselves seem more human.
What your mum said to you is absolutely horrible and there's really no scenario imaginable where she would have been justified in saying this.
Just remember that even if she makes you feel small, you don't deserve this, ever. And you don't need to put up with it.

I think it’s time to keep her at very long arms length , what did she gain by telling you - nothing at all so it’s literally just done to be nasty .