A woman has just come up and said…

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I’m currently in Spain and I’m a bit sunburnt from my first day here.
its now the secone day and a woman has just come up to me (on a local tour guide trip) and said how awful I look with sunburn. I’m upset about the comment.

AIBU?? A friend said no but I did comment to woman she didn’t need to be so rude.

Sunburn does look awful, but I agree she probably didn't mean it that way.

How do you know she was concerned? She told the OP that she looked awful and walked off. In what way does that show concern?

@Partypiddler she walked off because OP told her she was rude

Sunburn isn't good, but it's hardly unusual in a Mediterranean holiday area in summer.

Sunburn is far worse than just not good and it may not be unusual amongst those who go on a Mediterranean holiday and are daft enough not to give the sun due respect but it damn well should be these days with all the information out there.

And at least it will heal.

On the surface it will but the damage goes much further than can be seen.

This! 🤦🏻‍♀️

How can anyone not realise they've burned?? It's not only highly visible, it must be extremely painful.
From what she said, at first she just felt really buzzing, like her skin was energised! She was uniformly red all over so in bright sunlight outdoors, with sunglasses the colour might not have been obvious.

Why? Who the fuck is she, the sunburn police?

You are right of course. My point was that it's not so unusual a sight that it would warrant someone going out of their way to tell you they can see it. It's not a third nipple. And it's rude anyway. Why would you march up to anyone and tell them they have some sort of unattractive feature?

And since the woman seems to have been concerned entirely with how it looked and not OP's health, it may comfort OP to remember that it won't look that way for long.

You have to practise so you are ready when they strike. Any comment on appearance: "you look fat/sunburned/make up is bad" whatever and teh reply is
"Yes, but the sunburn will pass/I can loose weight/wash my face whatever" and you will always be rude and unpopular. Then smile a MASSIVE smile.

Like I said, some people are really passionate on this topic. Not saying it's right to accost strangers, just trying to understand her thought process.

I know I’m sunburnt and today I was proper covering up, this woman was just plain rude to me. Once she said her piece she fucked off then was shocked to hear when I said she didn’t need to be so rude. I know I’m burnt hence the extra measures of keeping away from the sun and extra suncream etc.

She said that bitchy remark because of who she is, not because of who you are.

It sounds like a her problem to me, she seems like an absolute mental case 😆

As Elsa says.. Let it go!

Brits can be utterly moronic about the sun.She was showing concern.Stay out of the sun.This is climate emergency but hey we must all have our holidays and our cars and our capitalism and materialism and greed ...well this is the result.Your kids will live in a very very different world..

My MIL used to sunbathe in every spare moment of the summer - she'd be out there with a reflector to get evenly brown under her chin. She was always pretty brown, I don't remember her burning. Always used to think vaguely that she'd get skin cancer at that rate, but it still came as a shock when she died of it.

Honestly, no one looks good with bad sunburn. Try not to take offence so easily.

Really passionate about being a total bitch to a stranger, yes.

Bizarre that everyone is jumping to defend this unknown woman who felt the need to tell you you look awful and not only that but to assure you it was in fact out of sympathy or loving concern.

You’re a grown woman who would have perceived it differently if this were the case and are upset due to her bold and rude comment.

You are allowed to be upset if you want to.

You do not have to allow people tell you on here that you’re wrong with how you’ve described it.

You do not have to allow people tell you on here that you’re wrong with how you’ve described it.
OP has come on here asking people to tell her if she's wrong, though!

People just can't mind their own business. However snappy you were to her, if you were, totally justified.

Look she should have kept her mouth shut, but she's just being honest in her opinion. Of course you look awful with sunburn, everyone does! Looking at it literally, even the most attractive super-models of all time would still look awful with sun burn!

But she didnt offer any advice. Did you read the second post by OP?

It was rude! I wouldn't go up to a compete stranger and tell them they looked bad at all. I wouldn't do it but I can maybe understand if she did it out of concern but that doesn't sound like she was concerned just a nosy brush

That is why I’m telling her she is not wrong to feel the way she feels.

The comments telling her she is wrong are bitchy and condescending as if talking to a little child about the sun and also basically accusing her of lying about how it went down.

There was no ‘concern’ from the unknown woman at all from what the OP has told us. Any concern is imaginary.

If it's totally covered, how can she see it?

Big hat, loose cotton shirt. No one would know you'd injured yourself.