AIBU to expect DD and DS to share twin room on holiday?

[piedbeauty]

Currently on holiday. We spent five nights in hotels, then a week in a self catering house, then three more nights in a hotel before home. Dc - 15 and 18 - have been sharing a twin room (had their own rooms in the SC house).

I thought this would work, since they get on, and we'd just be in the rooms in the evening, but they're arguing.

AIBU to expect them to share? SHould I just have got a room each, never mind the expense? Or is this normal for the end of a holiday, when we're all fed up with each other and need our own space??

I think when kids get to a certain age they get a bit too old for family holidays. If they're too old to share then maybe you have reached that point - next time just go as a couple and leave them at home!

He’s a teenage boy and he hasn’t been able to have a wank all week. I’m not surprised he’s grumpy.

For me, in my teens, sharing a room with either of my siblings wouldn’t have been enjoyable in the slightest. They’re probably fed up, at this point, of not having privacy or time to themselves. They’re not little kids any more - your DD is an adult and your DS is 15, and they’re siblings rather than mates, so why would they be thrilled to share a bedroom for a week? I wouldn’t enjoy sharing a room with anyone - parent, sibling or friend - for a week to be honest.

I can totally understand why it would be necessary for them to share for reasons of affordability, and that sometimes individual rooms just isn’t an option, so I don’t blame you for making them share - but I don’t think you can expect them to enjoy it and get along harmoniously. If they have to share you’ve got to expect and deal with the bickering and bad tempers rather than assuming they’ll play happy families.

I would not expect a 15yo and 18yo to share. I think that's unreasonable unless it's for a couple of nights only and they fully agree to it first. I have 2 DS, same age, they haven't shared since they were 15, not worth the hassle.

at that age (I'm 3 years older than my brother) i would have declined the holiday were we to be expected to share a room.

Well of course but it sounds like no one is enjoying themselves as things stand either! I don’t think I’d feel up to any sexy time with two teens arguing and getting fed up with each other. If they’d be happier with one of you than sharing with each other and everyone is happier as a result then it’s worth forsaking the sex I think.

I will expect my teen DCs to share a room on holiday until they can pay for their own!

They will have separate bedrooms on our next holiday but just by chance, the one after that they will be sharing again.

The dc knew and were fine with it!

Totally, and they chose to come, knowing the arrangements!

I think it's just the end of a long hol and we all need our own space - dd especially.

I'll remember that for next time!

I'm.amazed at people saying they wouldn't expect two teens of the same sex to share. We went to America last year to see my in laws, took our sons aged 23 and 25, and they had to share.

Update: all ok now. After a day apart ds has apologised to dd and me, we have all made up and all is fine!

I hope you have got your room with your husband back now, OP

Tricky one. I don't and won't have this dilemma. Perhaps DD can pay towards holiday in future?
Glad you've all sorted now OP.

Paying isn't the point, and dd didn't start it.

Anyway, all ok now.

There was a six year gap between my B and me. We shared tiny twin rooms in SC cottages, hotel rooms etc. He was a good sport about it looking back, but for us, it was just somewhere to sleep.

The only issue was that while I was up for our Mum coming in at stupid O'Clock to invite me for a morning swim, he definitely wanted to sleep in 😂.

They are being entitled and just need to get on with things.

I think it’s really unreasonable to expect them to share at those ages and will ensure that they don’t really enjoy their holiday.

My dd 14 and ds 16 will share a room when we go to centreparcs. They always have. There is now way I'm paying an extra 1k for a three new room lodge. They get dressed when in the bathroom or alone in their bedroom. They seem to manage but do argue. But they would still argue if they had a room each.