To be very disappointed in teen

[SoccerMum1]

Am I being reasonable here to be very disappointed in DS14 today, here's the back story

DS14 asked me this morning to fill his water bottle up, and put it into his kit bag for him, as he was off out to play football at a mates house. On opening his bag, I saw a load of fruit which he'd purchased.

I asked him where he'd got it all from, and what he was planning to do with it - he said they were gonna use it to play football with, and to hang in the nets and take shots / aim at, and practise kickups with - DS played this once before at the beginning of the year, and asked to play it again a few months ago which I told him off for, and told him to find another activity.

He said he'd purchased all the fruit yesterday (spend £20 on it) after school, and didn't tell me cause he knew i'd stop him from doing it again, he said it was his time and money, and he could do what he wanted, and that he enjoyed doing it (and I was being a kill joy) and then stormed off, taking his bag with him

Am I being reasonable for being overly disappointed in ds here?

pumpkins that we carve are used for animal feed and we toast and eat the seeds.
What is the difference between that and smashing perfectly edible food to bits? i can't think

Wow! @LemonsOnTheMelons that is a very unusual attitude to have in this day and age

Not really. Most people will have it, they just won’t acknowledge it because of the social pressures of the past from the older generation (when wasting food was an issue due to rationing).

It’s distasteful but the larger point is that he’s shown you he’s prepared to go behind your back to do this.

What are the family values? Does he have about the same pocket money as his friends (good) or more (are they taking him for a mug)? Is he aware of the food poverty in the UK? Is he reasonably altruistic in general?

If he is basically a pretty good kid and not being taken for a mug, I would try to repair communications and not worry about a faddy prank. Otherwise I would look to the deeper issue(s).

The other month shelves were empty of various fruit and vegetables due to weather conditions. This is likely to happen more and more.

I saw kicking fruit on a film about Pele growing up, but the fruit was on trees in Brazil.

To be honest, of all the weird and potentially dangerous things a teenager COULD be getting up to, spending £20 on fruit to kick balls at is fairly low down on the list.

What sort of fruit!? Pineapples?

This would be absolutely fine with me, you should probably be glad that your DS is out rather than attached to the playstation, with his friends and planning an activity that he and his friends enjoy (including using his own pocket money).

Mine used to enjoy standing on leaves, crisps, stones, bark, apples etc when they were that age as they thought the noise was satisfying, something called 'asmr'. Didn't bother me in the slightest as they were having fun and not harming anyone

He could certainly be up to a lot worse, and theres no harm caused to anyone or anything (bar the fruit) with his activity - long as he's tidying up after himself i'd be chuffed he was having fun with his mates and being creative! :)