To want my husband to have a glass of wine?

[sikinos]

Ok I know I am being unreasonable. Alcohol is not good for you, and you shouldn’t need it to have fun or relax.

But I really like wine. Especially red. But will drink white and rosé. I have a glass with dinner, or at the bar.

DH doesn’t drink much at all. He does rarely, but even rarer for it to be wine. As such, I can never really buy or open a bottle of red at home as I won’t finish the bottle before it goes off.

Plus I feel weird drinking wine on my own, and feel a little judged (all in my head). DH says he doesn’t much like the taste of wine but moreover he says he doesn’t need to drink to relax or have a good time. But for me, personally, however right or wrong it is, I feel like I far more enjoy an dinner or time at a bar if I have a glass of wine. It makes me more chatty and relaxed. I’m not talking anything more than a medium or sometimes large glass of wine.

YABVU. He's not stopping you drinking or passing judgement on you. So maybe you can do the same? Not everyone enjoys alcohol.

People don't say that to be patronising. They say it in response to people trying to coerce them into drinking with the implication they are boring and unable to have fun if they don't.
'I don't enjoy it' will invariably lead to every known alcoholic drink and every possible social occasion being tediously listed, prefaced with 'What? Not even...?'

Yep

also, while you may feel “relaxed and chatty”, your husband may be thinking oh god, another night where she witters non stop about utter nonsense but thinks she’s being witty and clever.

been there. Sometimes I want a mute button 😂

Why on earth should he have to indulge in your vices?

Wine is bloody awful, not just taste but how it makes people act (far worse than other alcohols).

I have not drunk wine in 20 years. I expect this to be respected. So should your DH.