To want my husband to have a glass of wine?

[sikinos]

Ok I know I am being unreasonable. Alcohol is not good for you, and you shouldn’t need it to have fun or relax.

But I really like wine. Especially red. But will drink white and rosé. I have a glass with dinner, or at the bar.

DH doesn’t drink much at all. He does rarely, but even rarer for it to be wine. As such, I can never really buy or open a bottle of red at home as I won’t finish the bottle before it goes off.

Plus I feel weird drinking wine on my own, and feel a little judged (all in my head). DH says he doesn’t much like the taste of wine but moreover he says he doesn’t need to drink to relax or have a good time. But for me, personally, however right or wrong it is, I feel like I far more enjoy an dinner or time at a bar if I have a glass of wine. It makes me more chatty and relaxed. I’m not talking anything more than a medium or sometimes large glass of wine.

You want your DH to drink something he doesn't much like the taste of just so you can drink? YABVU.

He doesn’t have to drink just so you can. Buy the mini bottles or a half bottle. My husband drinks but I don’t. I don’t judge him for it! It does sound like you’re the only person judging your solo drinking.

Small bottles. You can freeze it into ice cubes to use in cooking as well.
also how much are you spending on a bottle of wine?
can you just buy one instead of a different treat you may otherwise get, like a takeaway, or a couple do bars of chocolate, and just accept that some will go to waste?

can you invite some friends over that do drink?

i don’t drink, I always feel like I’m disappointing DH if he wants a drink, but he never makes me feel bad about it. I’d be sad if he did! I had a friend that used to and I’d agree to have a glass in the end, but I’d be nursing it all night and trying to pour bits away and fend off top ups all the time. The wine was still going to waste and I had a less pleasant evening. And it never seemed to be enough anyway because then she’d be sad she’d finished a glass and I was drink too slow.

you are us but roles reversed. I wish I liked wine, I really do. Tried so many times to like it but it’s absolutely disgusting. I find just having one glass of something else just makes me fall asleep early if I’m at home? I just want to enjoy my evening and not feel blurry eyed or incredibly tired so don’t have anything. No problem with DH having wine or whatever he likes though

If someone likes wine for the wine, rather than just to get pissed, they won’t want to go near the grim little bottles you get in supermarkets or on trains. No one puts decent wine in tiny bottles (technical reasons) so only rubbish is sold like that.

I doubt the OP wants to drink rubbish. She wants to drink good wine, just not alone.

I dunno, @sikinos … Decades ago I knew a long term relationship was pretty much over when my ‘best drinking buddy boyfriend’ stopped wanting to share a bottle with me … (Sorry, not a lighthearted answer.)

You’re going to have to get into the habit of inviting drinking friends home.

Be pleased he can always drive!

So buy a box or buy a quarter bottle.or drink what you want and chuck the stuff that's gone bad away.

Expecting your husband to drink it is no better than expecting yourself to down a bottle in the 2 days it takes before it starts to taste iffy.

Love this site, we really can't win!

My other half is totally alcohol free, few years now and preference rather than alcoholism. I absolutely would never pressurise him to drink at all as he's made such a good choice for himself.
My tipple, my drinking.... It's mine and feeling good or bad about it goes alongside. Just buy and drink less alcohol or consider how much you are drinking.

My Mum always pressurises me to have a glass of Prosecco or wine, I always say no and she’s always exasperated with me like I’m boring. Now to avoid a row, I accept it and pour it in the garden when she’s not looking. Fucking pointless, but keeps her happy. Don’t be that person.

Patronising if an unprompted comment, but OP says she has a better time with alcohol - if my husband said that to me, I’d tell him I don’t need it for that.

YABU. For the reasons of this post and then for saying 'oh but it's supposed to be lighthearted!!!'

Imagine the reverse post.

'My DW likes to have a glass of wine but she keeps trying to get me to drink with her when I have explained time and time again that I just don't want to.'

Ugh.
Leave your DH alone.

And yeah, I like decent wine, even if it doesn't like me, lately, but £15 is my pushing the boat out spend (and it still gives me a migraine/ the shits, depending on the colour)

I can never really buy or open a bottle of red at home as I won’t finish the bottle before it goes off

Try harder 🍷

You need a vacuum pump. Put the special stopper in, pump the sir out, keeps for a week.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Vacu-Vin-Wine-Saver-Concerto/dp/B00005U2FA/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?crid=3Q8G129OYIA9&keywords=vacuum+wine&qid=1689375193&sprefix=vacum+wine%2Caps%2C75&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9zZWFyY2hfYXRm&psc=1

Or get in the habit of putting the good stuff in the cooking. I can't bear cheap plonk in a stew or a chilli.

I rarely drink bit dh enjoys a beer every so often. He doesn't feel constrained becuuase I don't drink

Those who say 3 glasses is a bottle - how big are your glasses?😂…… 3 glasses in our house is just over a third of a bottle🤷🏼‍♀️. Op - buy some decent half bottles - majestic should be able to help.

Can red wine really go off?

I remember buying a bottle that I didn't really like that much and keeping it on the counter for at least a month, using a glass or so in stews and whatnot when appropriate.

I don't drinkvwine but dh does, at dinner each night. I use wine in cooking often though. We have beef stew in the fridge right now, has half cup of wine and half cup of beer. Make coq au vin every week or two?

Didn’t you post this a little while ago, or are there two of you out there trying to pressure people into drinking when they have no desire to? Would you appreciate it if he regularly niggled at you to take some drugs, or maybe smoke? Probably not.

As others say use a vacuum stopper. Or use it in cooking. The better the wine you put in your food, the better the resulting dish.

A bottle will last a week with an air tight top. They mostly have screwtops these days so easy peasy no faffing with a cork.
Leave your dh alone. He's done nothing wrong.

Yes. It goes ‘vinegary’ - really horrible.

Small bottles are terrible value for money and there's little choice. And they're kind of sad looking.

A vacuvin is inexpensive and solves all your problems. I've lived alone for years now. I probably have a glass of wine every second day and the remains of the bottle keeps perfectly. I can even have a bottle of red and a bottle of white each on the go and they'll both be fine for over a week.

There are cheaper vacuvins than the one linked further up. I have this one.