To ask for the most inappropriate unsolicited advice you received from a random person about your child?

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I’m feeling sensitive today. Stood in a queue and dd asleep in her pram. Women behind me starts talking to her husband/partner saying that baby looks too hot, how ridiculous she is in a hat indoors in this weather… obviously I could hear. I didn’t say anything. She then taps me on the shoulder and shows me an NHS page on clothing/temperatures for babies and said I might need it. What the fuck? I am a new mum and already stressing over making the right decisions. Am I alone in this? I actually cried when I got in the car.

Let it all wash over you. Their opinions do not matter a jot and you'll never see them again.

Alternatively - just say something like "That colour really doesn't suit you and you need a haircut". If they look perplexed or say you are rude just reply: "and I didn't ask for your opinion on my child/parenting either..."

A family member told me that dc wasn’t autistic but that they just needed a good slap. That was fun.

Btw, dc wasn’t doing anything at the time. They just ‘disagree with autism’.

This is a bit of a joke one.... but my dad...

Hot summers day, he took my 5 month old out for a walk in the buggy with shade cover and a sun hat on.

Dad "now, he doesn't like the sun in his eyes"

Doesn't he dad? Really?

Oh OP. I had similar once, except it was autumn and I didn’t ‘wrap him up well enough’
Please try and ignore - you’re doing absolutely fine! People are oddly opinionated when it comes to babies. They’ll pick you apart for how you feed them, when they sleep, how you hold them… just ignore!

To make sure I gave him a sibling otherwise he'd be damaged. He was probably 1 at the time and I was a completely lone parent. I didn't let it bother me at the time, but I still remember it so it clearly didn't totally bounce off!

Not advice as such, more inappropriate comments, but my eldest was a very early walker. So she ended up able to climb up slide steps on her own while looking too young to be able to iyswim. I was in a playground with her and a mum of an approx. 6-7 year old started saying very loudly and pointedly to her DD that they were doing things SENSIBLY and PROPERLY and I CARE about you darling and I would hate for you to get HURT. I obviously then watched them a bit and she wouldn't let her DD go on anything without her (the mum) holding the back of the kid's hoodie all the time. Not my business, obviously, but she was definitely modelling anxiety imo and then making out like I was a lax mother!

Sorry I didn't actually comment on your OP but I agree with the PP who said let it wash over you. Honestly, the busy body nature of some people really annoys me. You are doing a great job, and I know that as you are worrying that you aren't, so please ignore people like this xx

"You shouldn't breastfeed past 12 months."

You shouldn't offer unsolicited advice, Sandra, and yet here we are!

Bloody hell. I'd have been tempted to "if I give you a good slap will it cure your rudeness?"

My just turned two year old was really grumpy and not very well and was in the garden with his dummy in. My neighbour popped her head over the hedge to say hi and then said he shouldn't have that he's too old! I smiled and said yeah and left it as that. She doesn't live my life and my have my child. My choice if he has a one or not!

A family member told us autistic DS would never leave home. I truly appreciate that that may be the case for some, but, DS left home for T&G academy at 16 without batting an eyelid. (Think music or acting).

My best one when they asked if my baby was sleeping through the night at 6 months (she still doesn't at 2 and a half lol) was 'have you tried rocking and shushing her?' I was like fuck me Margaret no it never crossed my mind 😅

You shouldn't pick up your toddler now you are pregnant.

She was 13months and just getting the hang of walking 😂

And when they were 7&8yo... it would be fine to leave them at home alone to go to the supermarket... (Covid Lockdown). Or just leave them playing on the village green if I was worried about them at home alone.

Not a random but mil who spouted random shite.. Ds's could never be without a nappy or they would get sexual feelings. She was never asked to change nappies... Her opinion on their genitals worried me tbh.

“Why is your baby so small perhaps she has something wrong with her, aren’t you concerned”
this was about my eldest daughter who was 9 months at the time, normal healthy weight, had long hair past her shoulders and was an early walker.

“oh he’s a boy?

You need to cut your son’s hair… it’s not fair on him that people think he’s a girl”

i mean, WTF? 🙄

The most truly random unsolicited advice was from a woman at a bus stop while I was out with ds1 in a sling.

She told me that I was putting his life carrying him like that because I could fall and impale him on a fence.

There were no nearby fences to put this into her head. I'm not sure what she was on.

Was I feeding my child because he looked very underweight? On numerous occasions.
Yes I was, he was under consultant care, dietitian and was/is tube fed but until all the drugs were titrated and the right feed found he didn't put on weight (he's an adult now, continues to be tube fed, leads an independent life, works full time, is very thin but maintaining). We did our best.

I also have two dc with asd and family always mention that I'm parenting wrong because I have a strict routine or decline a party invite because I know it would be too much for them.

It's hard but you'll always get people commenting on your parenting/judging you/sticking their two penny's worth in. Best thing to do I find is to ignore because there's no point arguing with opinionated people. Focus on being mum, you know what's best for your dc (not a total stranger).

If I found Jesus I my daughter would be “healed”.
Well she had just had an operation and was healing just fine - that’s why she was in a wheelchair 🙄

A "friend", when my non-speaking autistic DS was about 3: "oh have you tried talking to him? I talked to mine at that age, all the time, like a mad thing [tinkly laugh], everyone was like oh what is she like [more tinkly laugh] and they learned to speak so well".

Another mum of only child who got told my ds would be bored, lonely and selfish if I didn’t “give him” a sibling.

The person concerned knew I had struggled to have a baby and was unlikely to be able to have another one.

He’s an adult now and is perfectly happy.

Sounds like my MIL who says the reason my daughter has a genetic disorder is because I’ve never taken her to church.
explains why my MIL has psoriasis, arthritis, heart conditions and weighs over 25st..that church going is really doing her health the world of good!

Too true 🤣

Opinions are like arseholes =everyone has one. The difference is l have the sense to realise people don’t always want to hear my opinions

I argued with an old lady once that my little boy was in fact a boy. Around 8 months at the time and she said what’s her name. I replied he’s a boy. She told me he was far too pretty to be a boy and was I sure on his sex?

I have loads from my mother; they should be sleeping through the night by 3 months, I shouldn’t breastfeed past 3 months and that’s why they don’t sleep, why aren’t they forward facing so they can look out the window in the car, too many snacks and why can’t they have chocolate at 6 months it’s only a little bit….too many to write.