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AIBU to ask 17 year old to bring some spending money

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Postbox123 · 10/07/2023 11:27

DS, aged 17, part time at college, part time job, earns around £600 a month . Everything paid for at home , driving lessons, meals out, lots of treats , although does buy his own clothes although I get pants etc as basics. Already had an all inc holiday at Easter, even his own room, didn’t ask for any contribution from him.
We are heading to Greece this week, self catering, eat out every day . I have asked him to bring £250 towards his spending money . It’s not a cheap area and he eats and drinks as a grown man . He’s fuming, saying this isn’t what he got a job for. Impartial views please as we can’t agree on this , he’s usually really great full and not a brat so im wondering if im in the wrong for thinking £25 a day is unreasonable.

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Equalitea · 10/07/2023 17:47

I think it’s a bit late in the day to say that now.
At the time of booking if you’d said he needed to pay then I bet he’d have decided not to come. It’s very unfair for you to now dictate how he spends his money.
If he’s in college full time then I don’t think he should pay board either.

Callyem · 10/07/2023 17:55

I would be concerned that it would be the last holiday he chooses to come on over something that is seemingly so tokenistic for you.

Daisybuttercup12345 · 10/07/2023 18:26

Sounds like he is spoilt and entitled 🙄

Nodancingshoes · 10/07/2023 19:00

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking for a contribution. In fact, I wanted to do it with our 17 year old but DH didn't want to...He is taking his own money to buy clothes (we are going to Turkey!)

Lucyccfc68 · 10/07/2023 19:08

Of course he should contribute to his own spends. I am taking my (just) 18 year old on a cruise on Saturday and whilst all food and accommodation, travel etc is paid for, if he wants drinks, then he has to pay.

He has a part time job, that pays well and has a fair chunk of money in the bank. I might even get him to pay for lunch one day whilst we are in port. To be honest, he will probably offer anyway.

shams05 · 10/07/2023 19:33

So you've asked him to bring some spending money which totals to £25 a day, I don't see what the outrage is about. I'm sure if he needs more you'll be helping him out with that.
If he doesn't spend it all he can just put it back once he's home.

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